anyway,i stilll have his house keys etc which he has not collected. now all of a sudden he is asking my family and friends about me how i am etc. he is not dating anyone else.what i dont understand he got angry and said bad things,so i thought that was it. advise please?
2007-10-09 03:43:20 · 16 answers · asked by ann-marie m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps if you spoke in coherent sentences, there would be fewer breakdowns in communication between you two.
The keys belong to him, so you should give them back. No wonder he is asking about you...by keeping his belongings you are indicating a willingness to be together. If that is what you want, great, but you need to be talking to him instead of yahoo answers. If you want to remain separated, box his stuff up in a box, and drop it off on his Mom's porch!
Good luck and stay in school!
2007-10-09 03:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by trent m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ann Marie sounds to this old fella like you two had a disagreement and rather than discussing it like a couple of mature adults allowed your emotions to take over and said angry and hurtful things to one and other. Look if he didn't ask for his keys back while you two were arguing and he is asking about you then he is obviously genuinely concerned about you and your welfare. Why not pick up the phone and ask if he'd like to get together for a talk and see if you can't get things back on track, providing this is what you both want. Life is far to short to go around resenting people for things that we aren't even sure what they are. So be the adult and both of you sit down and have a good old fashioned and honest conversation explaining to each other what happened and where you would like to see this relationship go and what your goals are either as a team or separately. Best of luck.
2007-10-09 03:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just lost his temper. At any rate it sounds like he might be sorry for what he said and is a little sheepish about it. Sometimes just a bad day at work, a bad night's sleep or even just a couple alcoholic drinks can cause a loss of even-temper. Why not either ask him directly or have a friend or family member try to find out why he got mad....maybe it's nothing important.
2007-10-09 03:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by andyg77 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have a control issue? Seriously, some guys blow up like that and after hurting you deeply they think they did nothing wrong and go on living a normal life, continue dating you until the next explosion, and a few days later he will start asking about you again. You might not like this idea but you should probably sit down and talk about this together. Tell him how much the things he said hurt you.
Hope this helps you!
2007-10-09 03:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would let this one go. Getting angry and saying bad things to your girlfriend is not a good relationship maker. You can both find another partner that might be more suited for each of you. You can find one that does not say bad things to you when they are angry over whatever and he can find one that does not mind being treated poorly by one of the people who should treat you best and have your best interest at heart but would rather be selfish and call names/say bad things (real mature). Kick him to the curb and get on with your bad self.
2007-10-09 03:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by scsspace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think he has anger or control issues? If so, he needs to get that under control before anything else can happen.
Give his house keys back.
If you want to know why he got so angry, just ask him in a calm manner in a public place.. maybe meet him for lunch or something.
2007-10-09 03:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by Rob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't know what he wants. Now he is probably missing you since he does not have anyone else right now. You know him better than us. The thing you have to ask yourself is how much you still care about him and how likely is he to repeat what he did. I think if it was recent he is not likely to have changed any. Take this break as an opportunity to see what is out there.
2007-10-09 03:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by Antonio V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that if someone accuses you of lying, and you know you aren't, it is because they are lying to you and suspect you of doing the same thing to them they are doing to you. Funny how that works huh? I suspect that if your boyfriend got so mad at you, for no reason, that he probably is up to no good. Don't worry about him and try to figure out what you did wrong, especially if you know you didn't do anything wrong. There are a lot of other people you can date, if you want, so there is no reason to put up with someone you can't trust, who gets mad at you, and verbally abuses you. Mail him his keys, don't write him a note, move on to a nice guy.
2007-10-09 03:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by hilarys_skillery 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe someone told him something and he is listening to what they have said instead of asking you!
Some people are just like that but if i was you I would ask him straight out!! YOu have the right to know whats goin on!!
2007-10-09 03:47:50 · answer #9 · answered by Kat_77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you would want to be with someone who flies off the handle, and would be mean to you?
If its over for one of you that is all it takes, sounds like he might realize he overreacted (although I don't know the circumstances), how do you feel? I think the ball is your court.
2007-10-09 03:50:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋