I dont mean regret as we all love our children dont we? hard sometimes but yes we do. Are you bit fed up having so many children or had to put your career on hold? move houses?
2007-10-09 03:11:29 · 4 answers · asked by sexiebum 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's perfectly natural to have days where you wonder why you made the choices you did. The grass is always greener, etc. When those times happen try to focus more on the blessings you have instead of what you don't have. See the joy your children add to your life instead of the dirty faces and the homework and their incessant after school activities you have to run them to.
Take some time for you. It sounds like it might be time for a spa day. Nourish yourself. If you had to put your career on hold do you at least have a hobby you can enjoy until you can go back to work? Or can you pursue your career from home while the kids are napping or in school?
Try to approach your feelings from a different direction, focus in on the positives and be a little creative in how you can enrich your life a little more so you don't feel the frustration. It's all a matter of perspectvie.
Just don't forget to take care of you before taking care of the rest of the world. If you don't take care of yourself first you won't be able to take care of anyone else.
2007-10-09 03:31:40 · answer #1 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are trying to blame someone else for your choices. Life is all about choices, accepting responsibility for the choices we make and learning to live with them. No, we don't all love our children. Many people have children who really shouldn't have and that shows in their disregard for the well being of the child and their inability to parent effectively. Our prisons are full of the effects of making bad choices, doctors offices are full of people dealing with the results of bad choices, and families with mulitiple levels of step parents and ex spouses resulting from bad choices.
When you decided to reproduce(there is no such thing as accidentally getting pregnant) and bring a child into the world you made a committment to the rest of us that you are going to produce people who are not a burden on society. Its your job to do just that. If you didn't think things through as to what that meant once you got past the two seconds they are babies, then you had best get your game plan in order. Moves and careers are personal choices and your kids didn't have anything to do with that. You put your career on hold because you had something else more important to do, raise your children. Moving, while a complete pain in the rear, is part of some jobs. Learn to do it efficiantly and learn to cope.
You sound like you are exhausted, most parents are. Take a look at your life and see what you are doing that can be cut out. Do the kids really need to do all those activites or can you just spend quality time with them doing creative things like teaching them how to cook or bake? Walks in the park, games of baseball, painting, singing songs and chasing each other around the yard with a hose. Turn off the tv, it sucks the intelligence right out of people and go to the library and start reading to them and to yourself.
In a very short time, you will find yourself with your children grown and on their own. You will have your life back to live as you see fit. Get some sleep now, take time every day for yourself even if its 15mins locked in the bathroom reading, and start simplifying your life. This is your life, and its your job and if you have made a mess of things then its on you to fix it. You are worth it, your kids are worth it and life itself is worth it.
2007-10-09 03:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At one point in time during everyday it seems like.I love all 3 of my kids and I chose to stay home with them while all them are little(until they get in school) before I go to finish my education because I feel it is where I am best needed.Even though I have my moments I just remember that tomorrow is a different day and it brings new beginnings.
2007-10-09 03:23:28 · answer #3 · answered by luvmy3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...i am vvery happy with my decisions...where I am at in life...and am happy with all the sacrifices I have done for my son.
2007-10-09 04:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by Betty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋