sometimes people make me feel that way. Or that because my daughter who is 22 months does not go to daycare anymore (she went for her 1st year) that she is going to be some anti-social freak of a child....doesn't that have a lot to do with parenting? Anyway, I sometimes feel guilty and that I'm robbing my daughter of something.
As a kid I liked staying home with my mom!
2007-10-09 02:43:25 · 13 answers · asked by jane d 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think it is just the opposite. I think you are doing your kid a favor by being a stay at home mom. my sister has three kids and they are all very well behaved, polite children. If you are worried about your child not being around other kids enough, take them to a play date or the park where there will be other kids to play with. You have options for that. But never feel guilty about doing what you feel is best for your kid.
2007-10-09 02:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by Betrdz 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People have this misconception... I am a stay at home mother... not by choice, I can't work right now. If I had a choice I would still be a stay at home mother tho. I had my daughter in daycare from the time she turned a year old to when she was about 20 months old. She just turned 2 last month and she is fine. I noticed when she was at the day care she learned more because their job is to teach the kids different things and so they are constantly learning and they make friends and become social... BUT you can teach your child at home and learning how to be social doesn't have to start at daycare! You take your child around relatives, right? Does she get to spend time with other people than yourself? Is she HAPPY?? If yes then don't worry about it. No one elses opinion matters, and besides what is wrong with waiting for preschool or kindergarten? Don't feel bad about nothing.
2007-10-09 10:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by ϑennaß 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a popular myth right now. Being a stay at home mom is a perfectly valid choice. About the only disadvantage I've found is that my daughter had a bit of trouble getting ready for kindergarten at first because she wasn't used to having to leave the house first thing in the morning.
While kids do need to spend some time with more than just immediate family, that's not hard to do. Daycare is not the only way for kids to get that.
Take the time to enjoy what you have.
2007-10-09 14:48:07 · answer #3 · answered by Home with the Kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a stay at home mother is unproductive if, and only if, you sit on the couch watching tv and eating bonbons all day all while ignoring your child. So, if that is the case, then yes it is unproductive. However, in all reality, if you care enough to ask this question, then I seriously doubt this is your case. Even if you do absolutely nothing all day except play dolls with your kid, that is being productive. Your time is the number 1 asset you can give your child. PERIOD.
As for the antisocial freak child thing, if that is the case, then call me crazy!!! And proud of it. I stayed at home with my mom. Oh and then my kids are flipping insane because neither of them have been to daycare either. Oh this mad, crazy world. Whatever shall we do?!?
2007-10-09 09:55:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You duaghter wont be a freak my daughter didn't go to daycare at all when she was little, my mom kept her while I worked. She started into pre-k and was a little shy but smarter than any of the other kids in her class and she is in thrid grade now a cheerleader, stilli n the top 5% of the grade, and while she talks more grown up than most kids her age, she is still very much a child and gets along great with other kids.
2007-10-09 11:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by his wife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You're not robbing your daughter of anything. Some people are jerks about this, quite frankly.
Unless you lock yourself and your daughter in the house 365 days a year, your daughter will not be some 'anti-social freak'. My kids get lots of interaction with their peers...there are lots of things to do out there that involve interaction with other children.
Good for you. Enjoy your time at home. I am.
2007-10-09 09:50:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way , there is nothing wrong with staying home w your child I work and I wish I could be at home with my kids. You are not robbing your daughter of anything I think we rob them when we have to leave them so don't feel guilty! My kids love when I am home!
2007-10-09 09:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by Maria R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been both a SAHM mom and a working mom.
Like any other job or vocation, it can be unproductive or productive depending on how you handle it.
If you spend your days eating bonbons with your feet up in front of the TV, I would say not very productive.
If you spend time interacting with your child, teaching her things, and making your home a clean and loving place, then I would say very productive.
Don't worry what other people think. Do what you (and your spouse) are comfortable with.
2007-10-09 09:52:58 · answer #8 · answered by Theresa 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Mom stayed at home with me and I am a stay-at-home Mom too. I don't think it deprives your child of anything! I think it enriches their lives. You are the only one that can make it into something beneficial though. Have play-dates, activities, etc. during the week. Get out there and meet other Moms and join stay-at-home Mom groups. It's easy to feel guilty about staying home when so many women out there think they have to be "superwoman" and do it all. But if you surround yourself with people who will be uplifting and share their tips, it makes it a little easier.
2007-10-09 09:50:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I feel the same way especially since they are no other kids in our family. We found a play group at our library and we take her to the park and things were she can meet and interact with other kids. That way she has the best of both worlds
2007-10-09 11:26:18 · answer #10 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋