2007-10-09 02:15:25 · 12 answers · asked by BABYGIRL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is what OK? Playing House? What if one or both of you get's bored, and wants to play a new game with someone else - is that OK? You did'nt ask for anyone's approval when you were playing house and practicing unsafe sex if it was OK to make a baby - why now? Why are you asking us to validate your lifestyle? So the next time you stop by Mom & Dad's so they can spend time with their Grandson,. you can defend what you have done - by showing how many people wrote in electronically on the internet to say they agreed with you?
My Answer: No I don't think it's OK. Grow up and face your responsibilities for this child you have created, and for which you BOTH are responsible, (at a minimum), for the next 18 - 21 years.
Your son needs a last name that comes with two responsible and loving parents, he is not a 70's love child that you are going to name "Sky" , or "Free", or "Moon Unit", and he will not be "raised by the earth, the sun, and the moon".
So I wonder, If you two can't "get into 'societial conventions" as innoculous as marriage, then what else in your son's life, are you going to circumvent, protest, or sabotage? Are you going to lobby for his rights to have him join the Girl Scouts of America in stead of the BSA?
Sorry to go on such a tear there, but people who treat the Sacred and Holy Union of Marriage, as a joke, or an out-of-date punchline really tick me off! People who get divorced based on one or two disagreements, without really trying to work things out disgust me, - it's like using abortion as your 1st choice birth control device, in lieu of the pill, or a condum, or a diaphram, or a spermacidal sponge or patch, - etc.
What religious and moral obligations do you think you owe your son as he grows to manhood? -- Or are you just going to leave that to him to find his own way? Lots to think about - and it's all connected. LOL.
2007-10-09 04:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by jtrall25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to check with the DSHS in your state. My sis and her boyfriend, at the time, were together for 7 yrs. For the first two years my sis was able to get wic and medical coupons for my niece. Her ex had claimed her on his taxes, even though they were not married. His income was not enough. Also she was 17 when she had a baby. Just because you work and the two of you are not married does not mean that the baby will lose it's benefits. The state will look at your income and see that you are supporting a total of 3 people in your household. When I was younger and had my daughter, I had military coverage through my parents. I was 23 and going to college and working at the time. I had to go to the state for medical help because the military would not cover my daughter. You work, you pay taxes, you are taking care of your family. When people say that you are using the system, do not listen to that crap. All children should be covered with medical and unfortunately there are companies that charges an arm and a leg for medical. And in your case you have to wait to put your child on until the enrollment time.
2016-05-19 22:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are both lying to yourselves. It could work I guess, but don't both of you want more? Why not live seperately so you can meet other people?
And really, what is the difference between best friends with benefits living together, and boyfriend/girlfriend? Is it your personal feelings for each other or do you both have so many fears you wont allow each other to be honest about your true feelings and happy?
There are more questions here than answers. Good luck.
2007-10-09 02:20:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together, having sex and raising a son. Sounds more like a marriage. Anyhooo...how about asking yourselves how this is going to affect your son. He's going to see two people living together and they only important aspect of their relationship is sex. Think about how that's going to affect his future relationships. Probably end up having committment issues.
2007-10-09 02:18:37 · answer #4 · answered by CC 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This will effect you son's vew of relationships as he grows older. If it was just the two of you without a child involved, I would say it's your choice you are both adults.
2007-10-09 02:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused. Are you only best friends, or did you have the kid together, since you wrote "our son"?
Either way, sounds fine to me.
2007-10-09 02:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends what morals you are trying to teach your son. I think you need to think about that simply. If you are to hurt each other no problem, But teaching your son that it is okay to have children but not be married and to create them with random sex is okay then I think you need to figure out how society would work that way.
2007-10-09 02:20:01 · answer #7 · answered by msqtech 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Most people would cal that "shacking up." Why wouldn't you consider hima a boyfriend? Are y'all not exclusive to each other?
2007-10-09 02:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by Don 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
But do you love each other? Your son needs a loving home..
2007-10-09 02:20:41 · answer #9 · answered by madsmaha1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if it works for you and your child knows when he can comprehend how his family is different than a traditional married couple with kids......if he See's you both with different lovers he will be asking questions......could be very confusing for him in his youth........ handle with care......
2007-10-09 02:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by MJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋