I mean I've never had to deal with this b4 I dont know what to say or do... I really dont know... She tries to be "hard" and I havent talked to her yet but she texted me... I dont know what to do or say... I lost my granny and papa when i was 6 and my other grandparents are still alive and well... i mean i live with them... but i just dont know what to do... what am i supposed to say... and i feel like an *** because i was giving her a hard time last night... Someone help me please... I had a hard time talking to my sister about her rabbit dying... i dont know how to confront a family member... but i've always had a problem with death because of how my granny and papa died... (murder and suicide)... Please Help
2007-10-09 02:08:30 · 6 answers · asked by Tori E. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Pray about it and let God be your guide. Pray that he will give you the right words to say to her. But whatever you do ... comfort her, I am sure if you don't say anything your presence will be enough for her. call her and talk to her and ask her if there is anything you can do for her.
2007-10-09 02:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshyne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consoling someone about death is never easy. You don't want to seem cold, you don't want to say the same thing, and you don't want to add to the pain.
Everyone's different and we all handle loss differently, and you know her better than any of us. Sometimes it's not what you say, it's what you do. Simply say your sorry if you haven't talked to her yet... but when you see her just give her a big long hug. It really helps anyone. It let's her know she's not alone. You don't have to say anything. After that, just try to help her with simple things because her mind will not be all there at this point. Don't ask her what she needs,....just observe and do it. You'll get lots of points and you'll help her through a tough time.
2007-10-09 09:21:11 · answer #2 · answered by Randy L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just let them know it feels uncomfortable for you and you don't know what to say. But you are there for them if they want to talk about it.
Being honest is always the best way. And if she wants to talk listen. Really listen... then just say, I am here for you and feel bad for your sadness.
2007-10-09 09:15:09 · answer #3 · answered by luteachris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you could do now since you are not sure how to talk to her, is send her flowers and just simply say "I'm sorry".
2007-10-09 10:39:54 · answer #4 · answered by jcf6865 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know that youre there for her if she needs anything, but give her space if she wants it. maybe she doesnt even want space, you just need to talk to her and explain that youre confused about what to do and ask how she wants you to react.
2007-10-09 09:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by sizemore609 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for them so they can talk you dont have to say anything but hold your arms open wide and hug tightly when the tears fall!
2007-10-09 09:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋