my bf is usually really laid back but on monday (after i had stayed at his house over the weekend) i realised i had run out of knickers so grabbed a pair of his boxers to wear home under my jeans. i didnt tell him at the time cos we were in a rush. i texted him to tell him i had pinched a pair of his boxers and that they were really comfy. he wasnt impressed and told me never to do that again cos he didnt like the idea of anyone (no matter who they were) wearing his underwear. am i missing something here? its just a pair of boxers and he has tons of them? why has he gone so wierd? we ended up rowing over it last night on the phone and i rang him today and he was still in a mood!
2007-10-09 02:07:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
knowitall....you are abit wrong sweety...he asks me to stay every weekend and we have been dating for quite a while now
2007-10-09 02:28:46 · update #1
t.andrew.........i would love it! lol!
2007-10-09 02:46:33 · update #2
some people are funny about their things , i know i am. I don't like people touching my stuff without asking so that would have annoyed me to. You should have asked before you touched his stuff , he is just one of those people who doesn't like people to use or touch his personal belongings. It wouldnt have been a big deal if you would have asked him. Im not sure why he was so upset about you wearing his undies , that is a bit odd i dont think its a problem to wear your guys undies when your going out with him , maybe he just dosnt like to share at all.
2007-10-09 02:12:11 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, it's just the way some people are. I wouldn't have minded because that's me, it's not an issue for me. But, what if he had taken your underwear and worn them without asking? It may be ok for you, but for others, it wouldn't have been. It would probably seem creepy. Remember where undershorts go. Some people are just squeemish about sharing things like that. It's like sharing a toothbrush or deodorant, or chewed gum. Sometimes in the best relationships there are limits to intimacy and sharing.
It's hard to explain. One day, I was at a drive-in restaurant with a g/f and she didn't order fries although I had offered to buy them. While we were eating, she reached over and took one of my fries. For reasons I don't even understand, I got very angry at her for this. When I realized how it set me off, I apologized and offered her more of my fries. It never happened again, but it was just one of those things.
In a way he is wrong to carry on, but I won't say he isn't right at the same time, neither. Lay a guilt trip on him by buying him a pack of nice boxers to apologize and replace the one pair you "stole", "ruined", or whatever he deems it. See how he responds to that. And in the Future, consider buying your own boxers. :)
2007-10-09 09:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Retroflow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I think it is a combination of things.I assume you don't live together.
It is a combination of the fact that, although he doesn't have anything to hide, you went rummaging through his drawers, his personal drawers.
Also the fact that underwear is a bit of a personal thing. He may l*ck you out yor f*ck you like a rabbit, but underwear does kind of have this hygeine thing associated with it.
I am exactly the same about socks. I do not want anyone else (eg my other half) to wear them It freaks me out the thought that someones feet may have been in them.
2007-10-09 09:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by cmcconnachie2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knicker drawers are a very personal thing.
I certainly wouldn't like anyone rummaging around in mine.
He probably feels stupid over it, as it is a silly thing, but we all have these little issues.
I think I know where he's coming from.
Buy some more of your own to leave at his so you have always got those emergencies covered!!
2007-10-09 09:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long have you been together? if its not that long then i suppose you can forgive his moodiness. if its been awhile then i don't blame you for questioning his odd behaviour. maybe he keeps porn in his underwear draw lol. or something else he doesn't want you to see!
would you be upset if your bf went through your stuff and took something?
some people are just very private about that kind of thing, he may be embarrassed.
im sure he'll get over it soon. it may be a good idea to get the boxers back to him a.s.a.p though lol xx
2007-10-09 09:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by kerri p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has something that they are funny about, this is obviously his. Let it go, say you are sorry and that it wasn't a big deal to you so you assumed it wasn't to him, have awesome make up sex and if you are still curious and willing to risk it rearing its ugly head again, a few weeks down the line when all is well and during a nice moment, tell him you wouldn't have done it if you would have known it would upset him, but that you still don't know what bothered him about it.
2007-10-09 09:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by Caffeine Fiend 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's annoyed and cocky because you stayed over at his place the entire weekend. He's seeing too much of you. Look at you -- he was moody so you rang him AGAIN today. Why call him?? Stop chasing him. He can call you when he calms down, and then I suggest you pull back a LOT and stop playing wife.
It is not your place to borrow any of his stuff. You are only a girlfriend. If he adored you, he'd tell you he loved the thought of you wearing his underwear and that you could wear anything of his anytime.
2007-10-09 09:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by KnowItAll 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How would you feel if your boyfriend decided to wear your knickers. If he were staying at your place and ran out of pants, picked up a pair of your knickers and put them on. Then rang you to say "By the way I borrowed a pair of your knickers because I didn't have a clean pair of pants to put on".
2007-10-09 09:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no matter what people are entitled to privacy. If you find that he doesn't like it invaded in some way you should respect that. I bet there are areas you feel strongly about as well. If you are to have a good relationship then respect of each other is a primary need.
2007-10-09 09:12:12 · answer #9 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I generally dont even know what to say!!!! What?!?! I love wearing my boyfriends boxers, they are the most comfy thing ever!!! Perhaps if you guys havent been together long he feels its just gone to the next level?!?! Either way, its a little childish.......
2007-10-09 09:20:42 · answer #10 · answered by Emily H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋