at 3:00 am because,according to my b/f that time is very disrecpectful.The problem is ,that i told my ex, he could bring her at 3:00 am And my b/f screamed at me so hard,that i did not respect his opinion.He wanted to brake up with me.Do u think he over reacted ?
2007-10-09 01:53:41 · 18 answers · asked by dersexy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If there was a valid reason for it (ie they were returning from an out-of-town trip and the ex had no choice but to drop the child off because he had to be at work in a few hours), then Boyfriend needs to get over himself and you need to stand up for yourself/your decisions.
On the other hand, if there was no valid reason for it, then Boyfriend has a point. 3am is no time to have a child out, and as a parent you should know that without having to be told.
2007-10-09 03:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by kp 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While 3am does seem like a late time for the child to be up, Your b/f should realize that she comes first in your life and rightly so. If he can not understand this then he is not worth it. next thing is you and your ex need to talk about a schedule for your daughter that you can both stick to. I donot know if she is old enough for school yet but once she a schedule will be every important and the sooner you get it set the better.
2007-10-09 02:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Don T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although your boyfriend may not have handled the situation correctly, I believe he has a point. 3am is awfully early for a child to be awakened and taken to her mom unless there was some sort of emergency for your ex and he couldn't take the daughter with him.
If there are circumstances in the future where your ex cannot keep the child all night so she can get a good night's sleep, then she should stay the night with you.
If you are going to put your ex before your boyfriend, then let your boyfriend go. You do not need to be loyal to your ex just because you have a child together. You need to be loyal and respectful to your boyfriend...he's obviously more important to you if you're with him and not your child's father.
2007-10-09 02:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by Loves the Ponies 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who thinks that its ok for a child to be out at 3am for the convenience of the parents has no business being a parent.
Doesn't matter if I or anyone else thinks he overreacted, take the opportunity to get this person out of your life. And grow up before you get involved with someone else, your immaturity is obvious.
2007-10-09 02:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why is your daughter anywhere at 3am?
I'm not sure about how your b/f reacted- that certainly doesn't help a situation. I don't approve of his screaming.
But I think that he is right to be upset. It is disrespectful to everyone else in the house, and it is inappropriate for a child of any age to be going anywhere at 3am. And you did ignore him.
Bottom line - Fair.
2007-10-09 01:59:57 · answer #5 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Red flag !! he doesn't care about your daughter. Your daughter comes first. You need to let him know that. Its too late, even if you did, he already showed you how he feels about your daughter. He is trying to make it look like its disrespectful on your ex part but in reality doesn't see your daughters need to be with you. And that is not ok. There shouldn't be any rules or limits when it comes to your children and it doesn't matter what time it is. Your boyfriend sound selfish and immature. I would dump him...
2007-10-09 02:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by liliana 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I understand the disrespectful thing. It is kinda crappy that he wanted to bring her home at that time. But you know what, its your daughter, not his. Yes he overreacted! Its normal that he'd be annoyed by this, but the screaming and threatening to break up is childish. You have one child, you shouldn't have to put up with an adult acting like one. If you respect his opinion, tell him. But respecting it doesn't mean you do what he says no questions asked.
2007-10-09 02:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by MomOfThreeBoys 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think if you are having your daughter carted around at three in the morning you aren't being a very thoughtfull parent, and if it's your bfs house and you are having your ex drop off your kid at 3am when he has asked you not to that you are not being a very thoughtful gf
2007-10-09 02:00:06 · answer #8 · answered by L H 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds to me like everyone acting immature... a BF who yells when your child is brought home at 3am... YOU who allowed your ex to bring your child in at 3am... and your EX who thought it was just simply OK to bring a child home at 3am instead of a decent time...... when the time comes lets hope your daughter has better parenting skills than any of you!
2007-10-09 02:15:45 · answer #9 · answered by Lynn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uhm, why is a child coming over at 3 am? While that is very late for anyone, I don't think it's a reason to break up over. Why don't you try to set more reasonable times for a child to come over.
2007-10-09 01:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by CC 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋