I met a very nice man the other day. He was in his 30s. He has a good stable job, no kids, he wanted to hold my hand after 2 hours, he likes cartoons, he is very polite and cares about health, he's kinda nerdy, he can't kiss (lol..that was at the end of the night, and it wasn't even a kiss..it was like a peck..no tongue action), he sent me a short email a day later that just just said "hi, and how are u doing? and they comnented on my nice car)..he dresses like a geek I guess, I mean no fashion sense at all, he's kinda frugal, but he was a gentelman, opened doors for me, drove me home even when I took bart and could have taken it back home. What do you make of this? He's in his 30s, I think he's cute, but he acts like he hasn't really been out with girls. Is this possible? To me it's adorable, but if this is true, then I may have something here. We both have some similiar interests. What do u think?
2007-10-09 01:44:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All of the things that you seem to have a problem with are the superficial things -- the way he dresses, etc. Otherwise, he sounds like an absolute gentleman and certainly worth getting to know better. Actually, I thought the kiss was kinda sweet -- I HATE it when guys try to give you a tonsilectomy on the first date!
He may not have been out with too many girls -- in this day and age, that might be a GOOD thing! No emotional baggage, no illegitimate kids in the background, no ex's from hell . . .
Doesn't matter what we think, though. You're the one on the scene. However, I sure wouldn't throw him to the curb yet :-)
2007-10-09 01:51:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop judging him by his appearance. So what he doesn't walk around with his jean around his knees and his underwear hanging out. He speaks with proper English and not slang. If you really like him then give him a chance you just might be surprised. Who cares about how old he is because you've mentioned twice that he's in his 30's. Perhaps his held on to his up-bringing and realizes that he doesn't have to be like everyone else. He wants to show you that there are some men out there that have real respect for women. How do you know he doesn't know how to kiss? If this was your first date who's to say he wasn't showing you respect by just giving you a peck instead of ramming his tongue down your throat? Stop reading more into what's not there. Stop calling him out of his name with the words geek, nerd and frugal. Those are words that would hurt.
2007-10-09 01:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys do not know how to dress properly. And when they do, it is only because their girl friend or wife gave them some advice. So I would not worry too much about that! I think he was very respectful by giving you a peck. This is only the first date. If you are looking for a serious relationship, I would take the time to know him and build a friendship. Why rushing?
2007-10-12 11:34:12 · answer #3 · answered by jean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a winner to me, does he have a brother???
Lol, yeah go for it. Maybe he hasnt had many gfs or experiences, but so what. He's kind, gentle, a sweetie amongst all the other nice things you've said about him. Plus he's 30 with no kids, girl he's a catch! I'm kidding, but you never know unless you try. All the things you listed could mean everything or nothing at all.
best of luck to you! let us know how it goes
2007-10-09 01:48:34 · answer #4 · answered by teri is ambience 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the end of the day it is about chemistry and 'give & take'. You've got a number of good advice too. However, in today's world there are also possibilities that the man's action could be put on to attract the 'catch'. Check more about his interests, is he cruel to animals by any chance, .... !!
2007-10-09 02:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by Son of Gap 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a geek.. I'm sure he hasen't gone out with many women or even talked to many women. Just him making an effort with you means you must be very special to him. If you think it's adorable than go for it! Guys like that are very kind and will always treat you right.. might be kinda boring, but you can help them with that. Geeks like it when you take charge!
2007-10-09 01:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jim S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to analyze it too much. Just take it at face value: what you see is what you've got. Try to help him dress better in a gentle way. He'll love the fact that you took an interest. Later on he will loosen up and tell you what his past was like. Good luck, babe. I bet you have yourself a keeper.
2007-10-09 01:51:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably hasnt been out on many dates if any at all. I think you should give him a chance. I'm sure you can help with his dressing better and his kissing (if you want), but if he has all the good qualities like that how can you pass up a try?
2007-10-09 01:51:41 · answer #8 · answered by nathan_g_indy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem? This sounds like a great guy. The kissing and fashion concerns are very superficial.
2007-10-09 01:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by BigRedRockEater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would see how the second date goes. You really don't know much about him other than the few hours ou have spent already. If you want to know more, a second date is definitely worth the effort.
2007-10-09 01:52:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jay P 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋