and not be insecure with my new boyfriend. We have been 2gether for 4 months and I'm so paraniod of him talking to his xwife and we work together and he is going to get a new job and im so worried , cause thats how we met was at work, so what if he meets a girl at his new job. I just wanna trust him and he hasnt given me a reason not to trust him. I'm so afraid if I just believe every word he says I will be a fool and get hurt.
2007-10-09 01:41:13 · 8 answers · asked by dreamer 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only answer you will get on here is to just "trust him".
if it were that easy you wouldnt be asking this question. the fact is that we learn from past experiences, and unlearning something just isnt possible. The only thing that will solve this is time, im sure in time, if hes a good guy, you'll feel more secure as you learn that he is.
As for a quick fix, be honest with him, tell him what happened and how you feel. Make it CLEAR that you dont distrust him, and im sure you can work through it.
2007-10-09 01:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by Dustin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People who are in a relationship find other people to play with only because there is a problem (not just a fight) in the main relationship. If everything is happy at home and you are keeping each others needs met (not just sexual) then you have nothing to worry about. It sounds like this realtionsihp is new so after some time of happiness, even a woman hitting on him will feel awkward and he will let you know and maybe even ask a woman's advice (yours) on how best to rebuff her but continue to work.
Jealosy is one of those things that could be a problem if you let it run away from you. Keep it in check.
2007-10-09 08:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by GK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem, i still do. Sometimes I just wonder if i am making the right decision in trusting my fiance. But when i start to wonder i just think about the things he does for me and that he comes home to me every day.
You will never really be close to eachother if you are constantly questioning his loyalty. Some guys are total jerks, but sometimes you find one that is perfect and wonderful for you.
Trust me, my man was probably a jerk to other girls, but we found eachother and he was just different. Every day I think about the fact that i almost threw away our relationship because my ex's had been messed up.
Don't deceive yourself if you know that something is going on, but dont look for trouble that isn't there.
"Love like you will never get hurt"
2007-10-09 08:47:12 · answer #3 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must really like him, and thats good. Trust is a part of any relationship. Like you have already stated he has not given you a reason not to trust him. So whats the matter? Chill out, because most likely his not going anywhere.
2007-10-09 08:52:21 · answer #4 · answered by C R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really hard to form a new relationship when you are still scarred by what your past boyfriends did but you can't tar every guy with the same brush,you have to let yourself trust and take the risk or lose him anyway by your paranoia and insecurity.
2007-10-09 08:49:38 · answer #5 · answered by Paws 'n' Claws 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are other ways he can meet new women outside the work place. You need to grow up. If he has given you no reason to worry, why go through all the drama?
2007-10-09 08:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u need to learn to trust him. If he sees it he will appreciate it. And he do love u he will take care of your trust Sometimes it so hard more on bcoz u have had an experience, But it is just the same when u broken hearted.. sometimes u need to fall to love again.... Trust is the same..it just hard to do it again.
2007-10-09 08:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is a gamble. If you don't get your trust back you'll never find anybody. Give him a chance.
2007-10-09 08:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋