My mil is considered to be mental. Her daughter said that her grandmother was like that as well. My mil has done some awful things to me. She once told me that her daughter hair was longer than mines, which is very untrue. When I ask her about why she said this, she claims she dosen't remember at all. Her Brother In-Law (Bil). practically attacked her saying mean things to her about her being sick and not doing enough chores around the house while married to his brother. My mil recited every bad thing this man said to her, but yet she cannot even remember all the horrible things she has said and done to me. How come she knows every bad thing someone else does to her, but she can't be honest with me when I ask her about something bad she has done to me? What I want to know is, is she really mental or just lying??? She receives a check every month and goes to the Mental Health Center.
2007-10-09 01:08:38 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Your mother-in-law has mental health problems and has to be treated at a center and all you can complain about is her saying her daughter's hair is longer than yours??????
It sounds like you need to be more considerate of her condition. It sounds as if it might be hereditary. God forbid you would have a child with this condition how would you want them to be treated?
2007-10-10 05:39:09 · answer #1 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother in law enjoys playing the victim. This is why she recalls what awful things are done and said to her. I am sure in addition she creates drama. She is mentally ill. You can not take it person by what she says or does. However you can not sit there and be abused either. My mother in law is mentally ill and I have been there done that. One minute there fine the next it's like they snap. Not fun and all. Very stress full. Keep your distance and let your husband deal with her. You cannot have a normal relationship with people who are sick. However I am sure the family lets it go in one ear and out the other and this is why she continues. I can say she remembers some of what she tells you but they won't own up to there actions. Good Luck
2007-10-09 03:39:40 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read something one day and found it very interesting. It was about a young woman who could not get along with her mil. She became so upset that she went to see a man about giving her mil some erbs that would in a short period of time finshe her off. Well the old man gave her these erbs and told her that each day around tea time and at night mix up a certain amount and give to her also she was to treat her with great respect, and even though she would feel like bit ting her head of she was to bite her tongue and go along with her mil. She was just so delighted with what she was doing that she followed his instructing to the T. Over time the mil, became nicer to her, would give her polite answers instead of snapping at her. The DIL became worried that she was killing her MIL and wanted to stop this but was afraid of the erbs she had been given her. The old man simple told her it was noting more the tea and would do no harm at all, the corrective action her was he own attitude towards her MIL. They MIL and DIL became the best of friends.
2007-10-09 01:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by Yogi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your example of the awful things she has said and done to you is not very compelling.
the worst thing she said to you is that her daughters hair is longer than yours?, that is not an awful thing to say in the whole scheme of things.
mental is not really a medical term.
she has to have had a diagnosis, maybe she is schizophrenic, depressed, bipolar or has a form of dementia.
if she has had a diagnosis then you can consider her to have a mental health problem.
try to avoid her as much as possible, and keep the conversations on very neutral subjects.
if she really harrasess you then you will have to shut her out of your life and let your hubbie deal with it
2007-10-09 03:27:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explanation to all- See when people are just waiting to point out wrongs then they get high from it. They are so incredibly sick they are just waiting for the next time to see you fall. This way they build themselves up. They are not giving you advice for later in life. Its true parents do lie sometimes, the ones that are sick. It me years to find out. Its called emotional abuse. Anyone can Im me to talk. Knowing the truth about bullys will change your life.
2007-10-09 01:36:41 · answer #5 · answered by theroadwetake 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just remember one very important thing here, she gave birth to your husband, it's still his mother. IF she has mental problems it's a sickness, would you be so critical if she had cancer ? Maybe it's time for you to grow up as her Dil !!
2007-10-09 01:14:50 · answer #6 · answered by day by day 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might be getting alzimers or just getting on your nerves
2007-10-10 01:31:11 · answer #7 · answered by purplekoala2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably yes
2007-10-09 01:18:18 · answer #8 · answered by jim1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋