What Should i do?

Question

Well lately my bf has been getting pissed all the time and just being an eg sometimes. Well aynways his best mate came onto me and said that i deserved better seeing that he was sober and the one that always looks after me when i go to parties with my bf (as my bf getz drunk off his face) i kind have thought maybe you know i should go with the best mate but i really like almost love my bf but i dont know the best friend is still asking and he always gets close to me whenever we are together so lately ive been avoiding him anyways wut do you guyz think
a) stay wit my bf and wait out see if he stops drinking over the top and start just hanging with me

or

b) go with his bestie ?

just to add i did ask him to slow down he said he would but im still waiting and he so becomes a hornii **** when he is drunk off his face

Answer 1

Well, the options you have given yourself are not the best! What you should be saying is, do I care enough about my boyfriend to try and help him with his drinking problem. You are creating a lot of problems if you go with his best friend, this will only fuel his drinking problem and although this would not be your issue anymore, there would be a lot of guilt there. He really is no best friend if all he can think to do instead of helping his best friend with his problem is to try it on with you. Do you really want to be the cause of his demise?

Answer 2

Before you make a decision about one or the other - does your boyfriend know you are unhappy with the way things are going? Men can be really dense and not notice what is right in front of their faces. Find out if he knows he is neglecting you and if he is going to anything about it. Then you will be in a better place to make up your mind.

Answer 3

my ex bf used to be the same and he used to get really aggressive towards me when he was drunk and so I spoke to him about it and said if he cared he wouldnt drink as much. Have you tried speaking to your bf about it? When I spoke to my ex said he would stop drinking for me but he didnt so it made me choice easy. His best friend always used to look out for me and had always liked me but he always put his friends first and we both knew nothing could ever happen between us because of my ex. I think you need to speak to your bf about the problem and see if he is willing to give up the drink for you, if he's not then you need to break up with him. But it doesnt mean you should jsut go and run into his best mates arms, his best mate needs to speak to him if you break up with him because otherwise they will just fall out and it wont be good!

Good luck sweetie

Answer 4

Neither

Why limit yourself to choosing between an abusive relationship and a relationship with someone who would betray a friend. I suspect there are more than two available males where you live to choose from.

Answer 5

Your boyfriend is not considering your feelings, and it sounds as if you would be better off without him. As for his mate he sounds as if he only wants what his best mate has. Neither of them sound as if they have your best interests at heart, so look for someone who cares enough about you to put your interests first.

Answer 6

non of the above. If things are over between you and your boyfriend you need to end the relationship for THAT reason only. NOT coz you've found someone else. Thats called cheating babe

Answer 7

forget both of them, get single and have fun, life in this relationship sounds way to messy, get rid of both of them, plus people rarely change because they were asked to they have have to change cause they want to!

Answer 8

b