I get all nervous and get the butterflies in my stomach, even days before meeting a love interest, not to mention getting all tense and uptight right before hand. How badly do you react before you meet your someone special? Is there anything that you do to calm your nerves, and does it work? Which brings me to another point. I feel like i'm 27, turning 13. Do you find that the older you get, the whole dating scene becomes easier, or do you all feel like you are turning into a nervous teenager once again like i am? Thoughts?......
2007-10-09 00:14:33 · 10 answers · asked by Mustang Mike 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
bebe- You crack me up. That's not the sort of tension i'm under! lol.
2007-10-12 21:44:36 · update #1
Personally, I am a very emotional, so all feelings that I have affect me tremendously. If I'm meeting someone I have a crush on, I would feel very excited to meet this person, yet at the same time I'd be feeling nervous and anxious, and wonder and worry how this person feels about me, if the feelings are mutual, or if I even have a chance. You know? All of these thoughts would just be swirling around in my head, I'd be lucky if I remember my name, much less my crush's name w/o looking like I lost it. That's how nervous I would be. To feel this nervous only shows how much this person "gets" to me, and how this person affects me. All in a good way.
To calm my nerves, I would talk my feelings over with a friend, getting feedback and support, to know that I'm doing the right thing and that if I don't at least try, I know I'd regret the loss of the opportunity, which would bug me. This would.
If I didn't hurt my ankle, I'd go running. Running always releases stress for me and helps to calm me down. Whenever I had worries, I used to go running. Another thing that calms me? Water. Just touching running water, turning on the sprinklers, walking along the beach, or just watching the waves at the beach has a calming effect on me. I'd close my eyes and remember that feeling so when I meet my crush I can reflect back on that exact feeling.
I think dating never gets easier, even with age. That's part of the excitement about dating.... it's all new and exciting, like being a teen again. Except now we're adults, or at least in age we are. And once your hearts connect, everything will come easier and just flow.
Hey, good luck with your crush! Relax and be yourself.... it'll work out. ok?
2007-10-09 20:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that when you get older the dating scene as you call it becomes more difficult, at least for me. I feel worse then when I was a teenager when I had no thoughts and would take dating as it comes... if it works fine, if it does not, there are more fish in the sea!!
Try to calm yourself by taking care to look your best for your date. Put on some calming music on at home when you are having your shower before you are going to meet out your crush and try to think positively about the situation.
When you are with your crush, just be yourself. Talk about the things you like and the things you usually talk about with your mates. Don't overdo it and let her talk too! Do not try to talk about something you know nothing about just to please your crush. Eventually she will get to know what you like, so its useless to try to impress her with a version that is not you.
One last hint to all the guys: Never talk about your past relationships!
2007-10-10 04:06:31 · answer #2 · answered by trushka 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thank you for sharing this because I wondered how guys feel
and I think that it is very cute of you to be nervous and have butterflies.
I have not been in love for a long time so I don't really know how to describe these feelings but I can imagine that it is allot of fun Good luck hope the love of your life will see pass the nervous guy and see a great man
2007-10-09 07:23:51 · answer #3 · answered by janice m 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I remember feeling that way when I was younger. I haven't felt butterflies for a very long time. Sometimes, when I date someone who I find physically irresistible, I get a little bit of hot flushes. I wouldn't get nervous, just excited. I have to say that I'm a little envious that you can still get butterflies at 27. Enjoy it.
2007-10-09 07:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The excitment of a new relationship is enough to make anybody nervous you certainly are not alone try to relax and put on a brave front and no the older you get it gets worse sorry about that
2007-10-09 07:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by cvtm2003 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you hit it right on. i feel the same way as you say here. i don't think anyone can just deal with it and not have any butterflies in their stomach or act like a teenager. my dad has just had his first date in a long time and he felt the same way. that is life.
2007-10-09 07:20:08 · answer #6 · answered by maraloves 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think we do feel the same way in that cases...
the thing is, you can never control it...however the more you think about it the more tense you become...
just allow the feeling cause it would just be for a couple of minutes...when you, like, get over the introduction stage you'll get more comfortable...
hope it's a comforting thought that everybody feels the same way!
2007-10-09 07:24:57 · answer #7 · answered by Karol 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. She may or may not like you but at least you are being true. Of course you always have to be polite, a gentleman always gets plus points and all the other table manners and ettiquette shouldn't be missed. Other than that, just be your self and hope she likes you back!
2007-10-09 07:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie7 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
have you seen the movie 'There's something about Mary' and remember the scene where Ben Stiller was to meet Cameron Diaz and just before that how he destresses himself. Believe me following that act actually helps destress before you meet 'someone you have a crush on'.
i haven't experienced butterflies in belly for quite many years. it may be because as you grow up you gain more self confidence and know how to react in an uncertain situation.
all the best!
2007-10-10 02:31:53 · answer #9 · answered by bebe 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just be yourself, dont get all weird on her just be interested in conversation and be thoughtful and youll be fine
2007-10-09 07:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by maree2007hamill 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋