Well I asked a question 1 hour ago and the responses I got were shocking. I really don't think that I am doing something wrong because I know this guy and what kind of an arrogant dude he is, and I was always there for her, at times when he was supposed to be there but he wasn't so I think I deserve her more and I love her. If you are going to tell me what kind of a lowlife animal I am, please skip this question. Thanks.
2007-10-08 23:49:23 · 22 answers · asked by Tatanka 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
John, honestly ...
so your neighbor´s husband is a complete idiot. Well, that is something that happens - that´s life. It is sad to see, I totally agree. BUT she decided to be married to him and it´s her life. It is not about who believes to deserve her more but in favor of whom she makes a decision.
If she can´t live with him any more and loves you as much as you love her, she might get divorced and be free for you one day. But as long as she doesn´t, she is HIS wife whether you like it or not with all it involves.
If it´s not likely to happen, FOR THE SAKE OF BOTH OF YOU .... HANDS OFF!
Be a friend, be there for her as you are now.
But if you really!!! love her, you won´t want any harm (physically or psychologically) to happen to her. So be responsible and reasonable! When her husband finds out ... oh dear. You only live next door! And the other neighbors will talk about it, too. She has to live there with it every day and carry this burden. Only she knows whether she can bear that. That is no decision you can take for her.
And actually it must hurt you, too, to see her nearly every day. Most likely you will do for quite a while unless you fancy moving.
Does she love you, too? Or is it for her to escape from her relationship for a couple of happy hours?
It doesn´t matter that I say all this now because you probably won´t listen and go through your own experience.
And apparently you only want to hear support for what you are doing - how else does it appear that previous posts were rated thumb down when they didn´t support this idea.
FACT: Most people won´t quit a marriage/relationship for the sake of somebody else, even if they love the other person. It´s about "you know what you got, you don´t know what you´re going to get." Yes, you surely can name a hundred things you can offer her that he doesn´t or can´t. Makes little difference!
Just give it a chance to think about my words.
2007-10-09 00:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by Bianca W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i wouldn't call you lowlife I would just call her something.....if you love her and she loves you then y doesn't she leave her husband and get together with you. Have you ever considered that. Ok so you have been there when her husband has not been there for her fine...you have done a right thing...but what about her if she is that unhappy with her marriage y is she still with that guy and dating you at the same time. Think about it. If he comes to know about you two then even getting a divorce from him would be just difficult for her (he would make it difficult for her). I am think about it dude if you want her and she wants you then do something about it 'cause otherwise it is not right.
2007-10-08 23:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by wiccangirl5 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you not a lowlife , but what you are doing is wrong. It sounds like you want someone to reassure you and tell you its the right thing you are doing. But the reality is if this guy is arrogant like you say then that is something for him and his wife to work on in private , you really shouldn't be with a married person you should be letting them sort out their own problems. You sound like you care a lot for this person and you are setting yourself up to get hurt getting involved with a married person usually ends badly, shes just going to go back to her husband.
2007-10-08 23:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't let these people sway you from what you want to do. If you notice the majority of the answers seem copied at pasted from one another. These high moral people probably don't even know what's going on in their own lives. Do what makes you guys happy. You only live once, so live. By the way, don't get caught, that absolutely wouldn't be good (and you know I'm right). Good luck and be happy.
2007-10-09 00:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by peggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a man's first DUTY? To obey God is man's 1st duty.The woman is not good for you or her husband. She is married and she already has a man.Honor the marriage and leave the woman alone,no good will come to you by being with this woman.You can do better and God will bless you if you respect his laws on marriage.God loves you,if you ask him to lead you to a good loving,loyal,honest woman he will.Gods laws are given us because they work towards our good,I know.I have done this same thing as you and no good came from it.Please leave her alone for your sake.You can pray for them that the marriage will improve and get better.But
YES it is wrong by Gods law for you to be with this woman.
2007-10-09 00:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you hope to gain out of this relationship since if she really wanted to leave him she would divorce him this is just another scenario of her using you even though she has a terrible marriage and what are going to do when you both get caught? And how long are you going to be able to do this?You never get involved with a married person it only leads to heartache once a cheater always a cheater good luck your gonna need it
2007-10-08 23:56:37 · answer #6 · answered by dreamweaver 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I didn't see your previous question. But seriously, why would you post a question if you weren't prepared to accept peoples opinions and answers? And to now open yourself up to more critisism...are you crazy??? If you think your doing the right thing...why even ask what other people think? Because seriously, you don't care anyway!!!
2007-10-09 00:00:03 · answer #7 · answered by bourbon_cruiser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you care about her. But this is irresponsible on her part. If she is having problems in her marriage then she needs to either work on them and stop stringing you along, or seek a divorce from her husband.
2007-10-09 00:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by Peaches M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes is it wrong. If you feel love for her and she for you, ask her to divorce the arrogant dude. What is your age? Her age? If you are both over 21 and feel it is real go for it.
2007-10-08 23:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter how "bad" her husband is or how "good" you are or how much more you "deserve" her. She is cheating on husband. The decision to leave him rests for her alone. Evidently since she hasn't left him, she obviously was only looking for someone to sleep with while he was on deployment. It's REALLY common for women to do that while their guys are deployed. You were used.
If you want her to be with you & you alone, tell her. If she doesn't agree within a week or two of deliberation to leave her husband, she isn't going to. It's that simple.
BTW- with your previous question, what you did was kind of disgusting. It doesn't matter if it was on his pillowcase or not, cleaning yourself on her bedsheets was kinda icky.
2007-10-08 23:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋