okay.. so the thing is.. my boyfriend and i have been going out for about a month now and i really like him. alot. he says he likes me too. i'm not always sure about that. he's soooo shy around me. a lot of the time he doesn't even act like we're going out. we haven't even kissed yet. the other thing is, he puts his friends before his girlfriends no matter what.. so like, we'll be sitting together and stuff and suddenly, a friend calls him over and he ditches me.. i would just talk to him about this but during school we never seem to find the time with all his friends around. he's also been grounded for most of the time we've been going out so we haven't really been able to talk much.. so i dont know what he's thinking.should i not even be concerned? another thing is, one of my best friends used to like him, but i ended up getting him.. she was fine with it but i think she still likes him. its just makes it all more difficult and awkward and make me even more not know what to do.. soo.
2007-10-08 22:43:07 · 23 answers · asked by Here I Stand 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what do you think i should do?
2007-10-08 22:43:40 · update #1
I think what you should do is find time outside of school, that way there are no friends there to distract him and draw his attention away or give him an excuse not to talk to you. Find time to go get coffee or get lunch, and then just mention to him that things are a little strange and you need to know what he thinks about it. Be honest with him and see what he has to say, just let him know the relationship isn't what you had in mind and see what he is willing to do to make you happy.
2007-10-08 22:48:06 · answer #1 · answered by geonhope 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear I am not sure how old you are...but it sounds lke you might still be in high school or what not, but I have to tell you that he is either really shy, or he really isnt into you as his girlfriend. To just up and go when a friend calls to him, is being rude and really not a good friend. And if he is doing that much wrong to get grounded that often or that long then maybe its time to rethink this relationship. The problem now a days with developing relationships in high school or what not is that we tend to attach ourselves to certain types of people. If he acts this way now and you put up with it.....then if you end up being together for a longer period of time, then he will continue and it will get worse. This just may show what type of person he has been brought up to be. You are better than that and deserve someone who will put you first to a certain degree. WE all need our friends to and to focus on them as well. However you need to find someone that will put you first to a certain degree. Good luck with this.........
2007-10-09 05:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by busy_softball_mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask yourself this question are you a priority in his life or not? 'cause if you're not, then what is the point of this relationship, which I am sorry I don't think you even have one cause he would rather hang out with his friends than with you. Or he is just doing what guys usually do when they wanna break up with the girl and don't wanna get blamed for it so....they do everything the girl does not like just so that the girl would break up with them first. But honey I think you are too young to have a serious relationship. It should be fun and exciting at this age not worrisome that you lose your sleep over it. If it is worrisome then dump him. He obviously does not feel the same way about you the way you feel about him. Good luck..
2007-10-09 06:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by wiccangirl5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave this loser and go with somone who actually egknowledges you. You sound like a good enough girlfriends, so you deserve alittle more respect and time well spent. Stop wasting your time and get somone who will appreciate you and not put his friends above you all the time. Theres like no feeling or point to this relationship.. it sounds more like a friendship. This guy sounds like he's no where ready to date. Give him to your friend and let her see just how pathetic he really is. Then when she doesn't want him anymore(most likely to happen) be ready to be a shoulder to lean on and try to provide some help on finding a new bf.
2007-10-09 05:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very very young, but not so young to learn that relationships depend on communication and equal respect. It is ok to have friends and a bf or gf, but once you decide you will spend your day with one you respect that and do not leave to go with the other. So this bf...doesn't respect that you might sacrifice a coffee or a walk with YOUR friends to see him. If I were you i would find the time and talk about this. And actually i would talk more about everything.. If he did the same again, I would dump him.
2007-10-09 05:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Persa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well one i would buckle down and do my school work as i was into boys more that my work and i am still paying for it now, i would go back to the relationships when you have done everything you want to do as its difficult to do a lot of life's choices with a bf and the fact that you only see him at school makes me think that you are too young for heartbreak so get out before its too late
2007-10-09 05:51:27 · answer #6 · answered by nikky_c2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any way the friendship is still early, just give him some time like two months ,then if these continue call him in other maybe that is his character, some people is like that, just follow your heart you what him that is why you snatch your best friend from him go ahead and prove yourself try and give him time.show him hat you love him but be careful about that so that he will not take advantage of the whole thing
2007-10-09 06:02:50 · answer #7 · answered by vivi ad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would first think of the reasons you like him. If they do not outweigh the negatives you listed, then you owe it to yourself to see someone who treats you as you should be - valued and respected. It sounds as if you are both young. Maybe dumping him is too permanent a plan. Perhaps you could explain that you like him but, until he can treat you as you treat him, you have better things to do with other people. That way you can remain friends and he can mature a little. You may meet someone else in the meantime, or he may treat you as I assume you treat him, in a golden rule kind of way.
2007-10-09 05:58:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ask your self "Do i really like him" " Is he worth all the trouble and tension"And about friends well that's a fact u just might have 2 accept.its just the way some people prioritize their lives.Have a serious talk about the issues that are troubling u.If he really likes u he will make amends .if he is not interested u should consider dumping him
2007-10-09 05:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by Spicy Hot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him first before you dump him. Talk nice and ask him why he has not kissed you yet. Tell him without a kiss, it does not feel that real yet. Plus tell him you are hurt that his friends always come first, and then say sometimes you would like to come first. If he can not do that, then dump him because he is not serious about you. Good luck.
2007-10-09 05:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋