My mom passed away 8yrs ago and my dad 16yrs ago. I think about them everyday and sometimes long for the day?

Question

when we will meet again. Why. when I go to the Spiritualist church I never get them come through to me? Is a private
sitting better?
I have had wonderful dreams that my mom has come to me and held me really tight, that I can still feel her when I wake up.
I don't get them anymore though...... Please only SERIOUS answers...

Thankx so far for your comments. I do
know if my mom was here now she'd be giving me a right ticking off!! I have had
counselling and was on anti-depress. but
I suppose I have just got to learn to carry
on for my kids sakes. Minxy.

I AM OVERWHELMED BY ALL THE KIND THOUGHTS GIVEN TO ME TODAY. LOVE FROM MINXY. XX

Answer 1

Maybe they are incapable of speaking back to you? Sometimes there are spiritual barriers around both the ghosts and the human. If you go to a medium, they will be able to pierce the protective layering of energy around you in order to allow a spiritual connection to the other side.

Answer 2

Its good that you think of them often, they must have left a real impression on you. You should look into Lucid Dreaming, it could help you come to terms with the likely possibility that you will never see them again. This is something that the spiritualist church won't tell you because they would stop getting your contributions.

Think about what your parents loved about life and do your best to honor them. You may come to the conclusion that the thing they loved the most was you. I'm sure most parents would want their children to be happy and look to the future instead of suffering heart ache while clutching at straws from another life.

Answer 3

I know what it feels like to lose a Parent the pain is dreadful, to loose two must be worse. My Dad after about 12 months visited me in my dreams and it was wonderful but about a year later the dreams stopped, I felt quite sad. Now most of the hurt has gone away but you never stop missing them. I really do believe that in your subconcious your loved ones can manifest themselves, I dont know why this happens and I wont guess, but consider this....why should they be floating about outhere waiting to come back and talk to some stranger...what do you think that they would say?...only the obvious that they love you and always will. I believe that the moment we take our last breath on earth then we awake in the kingdom of heaven...Dont forget there are many mansions there and why would you want to come back to this world, Surely this would only give you pain, watching your loved ones grieve. There is no pain in heaven only peace and love and tranquility. Try this...it works for me...think about your Parents departure as a celebration.....they have now reached the promise land, they are in no pain ...their love for you and yours is still in their hearts and one day you will all be united, but until then use their memory and incorporate their values into your life and the life of your children, and talk to everyone about all the good times you had and the holidays you shared.
Talk to God and ask him to send you comfort, He will and He is the ONLY one that you need. God bless you and keep you.

Answer 4

I'm sorry it is so tough for you. My dad died when I was 7, and my mum died ten years ago. I miss them terribly too. But unlike you, I know that I will not see them again. We are creatures who will die and cease to exist in the human sense. Our consciousness will fade in a few seconds to nothing and we will be gone. The only reason that this is terrifying is because religion has built up an expectation of something beyond death, but there is absolutely no truth in it or evidence to support it. Dreams are manifestations of our subconscious desires and hopes, that's all. Hope you find peace.

Answer 5

Your mother has no need to come through to you, she knows your safe. Chances are she did give you that hug in you dreams.

Just because your parents aren't here any more, it doesn't mean you can't talk to them. You knew them better than anyone.

My father died when I was 16, my only and most beloved brother four years ago on New Years day. It's just my mum and I now. I worry about her constantly, living on her own etc.

But I still chat to my brother and farther. I was raising my daughter alone for the first six years of her life, (have a wonderful partner now) and when I had the bad days, and felt I couldn't cope with it all. I'd go up to my room have a little cry and chat with my dad. And in my head I'd hear him. Some might say that it was me that was creating his voice, but I like to think it's my dad. And the bottom line is, it always makes me feel better.

Now that my brother is gone, I still chat with him. There's nothing wrong with it, you love them, just because they aren't walking on the earth any more doesn't mean you can't find comfort from them.

Meadiums are something different. I'm not saying that there aren't any genuine ones out there, but here is my thought on them.

1. How do you truly know if they have reached you loved one, or if they are cold reading from you?

2. You go to see them with this excitement that your loved one might come through, only to feel sad when they haven't.

3. If your loved one really wanted to reach out to you, don't you think that they would rather make it a more private moment, and not in front of strangers.

I believe our loved ones have never left us, they are around us each and every day. Just because we can't see them any more doesn't mean they aren't there. Talk to them, feel them and continue to love that most special of special person. But above all live the life they wanted us to live.

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Something I want to add, that I had forgotten about whilst I was writing this. My daughter was six when my brother died, one weekend after my brothers death and my mother was feeling at a low ebb, my daughter asked "are you ok nana?" my mum told her that she was missing my brother, as she has no son anymore. My daughters reply to her nana was "It's ok nana, just remember Uncle Michael will always be your son." It brought my mum a great comfort. Children some how always know just the right thing to say.

Answer 6

If the spirit of someone you love wants to contact you then it will. I saw my Gran years ago when I didn't even know she had died. I was just 13 years old then but I still remember the feeling of peace that came with her. It was a feeling of having all the cares in the world lifted from your shoulders.

Spirit can come to you in dreams so take comfort in the belief that your Mum came to reassure you that she is still around in spirit, and still looking after you.

Let go of the past and get on with your life its what your parents would want you to do. They obviously loved you very much!

Answer 7

Keep it in your heart that you will someday be reunited with your parents. Nobody can take that away from you. If you really think about it, I'm sure your parents would want you to be happy and not sad. If you want them to be happy, let go and be happy again yourself. Hope for better things to come. Don't waste your money and time on trying to 'contact' them. They never left you in the first place because you have them in your heart for always.

Answer 8

Minxy, I know what you are feeling because I tried to contact my mum too, she died suddenly seven years ago. But we are both so wrong, the dead can't communicate with us. You must believe in Jesus, and the Bible, well the Bible says we must have nothing to do with spiritualists, it's so clearly stated in scriptures. God has not changed his mind on this issue! As harsh as it sounds, you have to move on......doesn't have to be alone, but Satan knows that as long as you are seeking peace in the past, you will not be looking for your future. This is in God's hands alone. I feel you ought to go to a new church, one that teaches Jesus and how to be a whole person. Don't let the enemy rob you of all God intends for you to be.

Answer 9

Your mom has never left you, she may be gone in body but in spirit she is still very much with you. Evry step you take she is there, so be happy cos that what she wants for you. Of course you and your parents will be together for time and all eternity theres no such thing as till death do you part, you know that saying when couples marry, well thats not true and you dont have to go to a spiritialist church to see or talk to them. Prayer is the most powerful medium you could use, utilise it, its never too late. Good luck my dear.

Answer 10

My father died 8 years ago too oct 99... he died of cancer. I was very close to him and there is still not one day that i dont feel like you do. Before he died he lost lot of weight. His spirit appeared at my bed 2 weeks after his death. He didn't say a word, he just smiled like he had a suprise for me. I barely recognized him because he was heavy again. He looked healthy. It is like the bible says "He restoreth my soul"
Jesus restored his soul!

I miss him so much but I know I will see him again someday. Heaven is a better place than earth. To be absent from the body is to be present with God. Minxy, don't you know that we are here on earth only temporarily and we are here to serve the Lord Jesus Christ? Don't spend your time going to churches that claim to contact the dead. Ask God to comfort you and to show you that your mom is with him. God answers prayers in strange ways sometimes, but he will answer your prayer. My mother is in a nursing home now after having a massive stroke. She is on life support. I miss her too.... but I know that God has his plan for her life. He has it all under control. I look at the world around me and everything wicked happening on the news... it reminds me of what the bible says about the last days. Someday Jesus will come back and the rapture will happen. What do you want to be doing when he does? Do you want to be in a church like that which is against Gods word? or do you want to be ready fo him and helping others? Don't let your grief lead you away from the truth. I know its not easy but you have to be strong.
Trust that Gods plan is perfect and believe in the bible...

Mathew 5 vs 4: Blessed are they that mourn for they shall be comforted.
You are in my prayers...

Answer 11

Hi

I really feel sympathy with you. My Dad died when I was a child, 15 years ago and I still miss him alot, but I imagine it must be ten times worse for you. I think that perhaps spiritual things happen to people who are not looking for them. For instance in smells and sounds as well as in the visible. I am not a churchgoer, but after a Easter vigil, I kept smelling lillies, they were a really beautiful otherworldly smell, but no where around. I think that the dreams that you have had, have been a way of comforting you, and after all people have spiritual experiences in all sorts of different ways. I dont know much about spiritual sittings, however there are alot of charlatans out there, so be careful. I think that it should get easier as time go's on, if you think about it you have had one hell of a bad time and it will take time to learn to live with it. I think happiness is fleeting and sometimes you will feel sad, but hopefully that will be fleeting also. Have you thought about going to a good grief counsellor? Your parents would not want you to live your life grieving for them. When I die the thing I most fear is that the people left behind will be grief stricken, death is most sad for those left behind. However I also heard somewhere (I think from an Eastern philosophy) that continuous grieving for people does not allow their spirit to go on to wherever it should do properly as they are being held back by the grief of those that loved them. So if you can't go to grief counselling for yourself, do it for your parents. They loved you dearly and would want you to live your life and be happy I promise. Make this day the start of the rest of your life. Good luck.

To the lady who lost her son, firstly I am very sorry for your loss, and would like to say what a beautiful verse that was. I have typed it up now and it makes me feel close to my Dad. Thank you.