Why is it so hard to meet single men over 30?

Question

Where are you guys hanging out??

And to the girls: got any tips??

I am not horrendously ugly, but everyone seems to be attached these days...

Alphacenturi - thanks for the wonderful insight of the older male mind!

Answer 1

it isnt....your just not trying hard enough! dont bother with pubs and clubs....your aint gona meet your mr right there....you my dear need the internet....yep you got it....internet dating.....1000's of men over 30....all single and all looking for love....not out on the lash with there buddies hoping for a drunken sh*g....got me? you will have to pay to join....but its worth it....i'd start with match.com....they guarantee love (!) and if you havent found it in 6months i think they give u something like 6 months for free....go on give it a go....post a lovely picture of yourself....TODAY....good luck x

Answer 2

Many guys of this age group will be out of a big relationship be it a marraige or long term/living with situation and are sometimes as mystified as you to where to find someone special.

There is the group which are just looking for fun right now, been in a relationship and now not looking for someone just yet, go clubbing, bit of no strings stuff going on, etc.

Many however are now finding themsleves lost in the singles world of today.
Gone is the time of being a good looking young lad with the chat, the dance moves, etc where he was the life and soul of the nightclub.
Now he is older, out of touch with the single woman of today after hearing so much about women being 'ladettes', forceful, pushy, knowing what they want and he finds it all so confusing.

Does he still open the car door and pay the bill or does he do nothing and be seen as a unromantic miser?
Men of 30+ are worried, they are unsure how to behave, what is acceptable, who does what and when, they are apprehensive about approaching a woman for fear of being called an old pervert. it really is that hard!

You need to make it easy for us, if you see someone you like then help him to make a move or make that move for him by saying hello, etc.
After all, nobody is ever going to call a you a 'dirty old woman'.

There are many suitable 30yr old guys all around but the confidence has gone, the knowledge of where they now fit into society has gone and we need the help of someone like you to show us the way forward.

Answer 3

What are you actually doing to meet guys? Because single men over 30 are mostly over the club scene and usually find more interesting things to do than sitting in bars, you'll need to try travelling or taking up sports and/or hobbies that men are known to be interested in, where you can also participate; doing the same thing over and over is just going to disappoint you. Get out there and mingle!!!

Answer 4

You really need to reconsider maybe getting a part time job at least. How are you going to support yourself not working? Anyhow most men would be tuned off by a single mother not working, they may think that you are looking for someone to take care of you. So I would say put your son in preschool at least for a couple of days a week and get out there and get a job. You will meet men this way and it could lead to finding Mr. Right. You can also join a club or take a class in something that you are interested in. Good luck.

Answer 5

It is very normal for men to stay single over 30. As a matter of fact, I don't think men should marry under the age of 35. They need time to mature emotionally, date sexy dumb girls and build a career for themselves. I think educated people from large cities tend to stay single longer because they have a lot of options.

Men over 30 don't hang out in night clubs, they go to expensive restaurants and hotel bars with their clients or co-workers. Try that and good luck.

Answer 6

In my case, I have been burned by control freak manipulating lying scheming women so I am just not looking forward to more of the same. My past experiences has given me baggage.
Too many men and women over 30 have been burned and have baggage.
On another note, go do things you like to do and maybe a guy there will be more compatible. Pray but don't bee too quick to assume a guy is the answer to your prayers.

Answer 7

It sounds like you are not looking in the right places, if that is your experience.. Not all of us single guys are out there actively looking for a hot girl. When you say " I am not horrendously ugly" are you assuming that is the reason you haven't been snapped up by some guy who is handsome. We all look for some thing different. You don't say your age, but that doesn't mean you will be left on the shelf for ever.

Answer 8

I met my boyfriend at work. He's not over 30 yet, though. He's 29, and he's already a dad. It's a complicated situation, but I love him to death. Try going out more often and then ask your circle of friends if they know anyone who happens to be your type. Usually you meet those guys through your friends.

Answer 9

Because all the idiot men left who are over 30 don't want to go out with 30 something year old women they are looking for something younger, it goes with out saying that guys are less mature than women and therefore need something younger so they are on the same wave length. Sucks I know!

Answer 10

don't know where you live, big town small town, city country, but what kind of man are you looking for. do you go out much,have you try you thing, book clubs, walking clubs.it depends on what you like. do a coures at night school, meet people that have the same interst as you.these heaps of ways you can meet men.

Answer 11

Many of the good ones are taken. Some of the good ones that are single have been so screwed over that they would rather take to a batchelor life than risk the hurt all over again. They get used to being one of the guys and seem to prefer it that way. Its hard but not impossible, they are out there but if you find one...............don't let him go lady!!!!