My male friend started giving me the silent treatment when I suggested that we just be friends. He was the one who said we lived to far apart to make anything more of it. Now he ignores my emails and phone calls. He told me I made my bed now I should lie in it. I sent him a email card for his bday and he wait for 2 weeks before he opened. I'm confused as hell. Can someone plz help explain this?
2007-10-08 21:25:50 · 11 answers · asked by Cindy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
WELL HE MAYBE HURT.as most guys do they have egos and when they feel that you hurt that ego they may react like this.i think you should give him a little time so he gets over being rejected because (THAT IS BASICALLY WHAT HAPPENED)
ALL YOU CAN IS NOT DWELL HE WILL GET OVER THAT LITTLE HUMP IN YOUR FRIENDSHIP
2007-10-08 21:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by kingml213 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I made my bed now I should lie in it" - wow, your boyfriend is the Modern Day Shakespeare! Thanks for the nice phrase.
Yes it is very obvious why you're getting this silent treatment. I think he has developed a liking for you while you have not. You told him that suggested that you two just be friends. Now this guy knows that if he keeps in touch with you, he will fall for you more. Knowing that you have politely rejected him, why would he want to keep in touch with you? I think this guy is sensible, practical and doing whatever he should to ensure he doesn't get hurt in the future.
Be happy of the fact that he is not sticking around you and being an excess baggage. This guy is a dignified man. He respects your rejection, so he is avoiding you. You should not be surprised!
2007-10-08 21:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In his mind, you shut him down and you hurt him and now he is done with you.
Rejection is a hard thing to handle and some can not do it gracefully or manly.
He sounds like one of the ones that can't.
He has his wall up and I would just give him time.
You might just send 1 last email telling him that you thought friends could talk to each other and when he is ready to be a good friend, to write you or call...
Good luck
2007-10-08 21:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to move on from this friendship.
It sounds like he in unable to cope with an "only friends" status, even if he said you live too far apart.
If you then tell him that it's time for you to move on and he either:
a) strings you along, and it gets better for a while, then it keeps being a cycle of the same thing you typed above
b) he takes it back and makes an effort to move closer...
then if A you need to seriously move on, otherwise this person will plague your life.
then if B perhaps he is serious about working things out with you.
2007-10-08 21:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just mens way of getting attention. They absolutely love it when girls get worried. They give us the silent treatment just to have us thinking about them and hoping they're ok. Its a whole macho kind of thing for us to have pity on them.
And since you;re the one who asked to be friends, why are you even worrying about this. Just move on, he'll feel stupid about how he's reacting sooner or later.
Dont fall for it...
turn the page
hope this helps
move on hun
2007-10-08 21:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Gwen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes upset because you rejected him , even though he said you lived to far apart maybe he still wanted to try. He probably didnt expect for you to end things. Or , maybe he wanted to be the one to call the shots in the relationship and is now upset he didnt get to. He is probably the kind of guy who is used to rejecting girls , not having them reject him. Not talking to you is a way of making you feel bad , ignore him and move on if he dosnt want your frienship its his loss.
2007-10-08 21:30:23 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ MISS YELLOW DIAMOND★☺♀ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He either thinks he's in 2nd grade still or he really hasn't left the sandbox. Anyone who reacts like that to, "Let's just be friends" is only sabotaging themselves. Don't pay attention to and of his fits, and just wait for him to come around. He will eventually.
2007-10-08 21:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to get over you. Not all people want to stay in touch with people who had hurt them in the pass especially if he had feelings for you. Unfortunately you need get over it, he's not into you or want to spare the friendship.
2007-10-08 21:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kate 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he just wants you to know that you made him upset & trying to make you feel guilty 'bout it. & he might trying to move on by ignoring your emails & phone calls...
2007-10-08 21:35:05 · answer #9 · answered by leighn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His pride is dented, because you called it off, he sounds like a right moody b@stard anyway, so just ignore him.
2007-10-08 21:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋