Im 24 years old and I still dont have a bf!! :(?

Question

I’m the ugliest girl in this whole planet.
I didn't choose how I look I really want to cry

1: graduated from the best Uni
2: working in the best Company in Colorado.
3: has the best fashion car that is in the market.
4: high income
5: my cheapest watch was 9 thousand dollars.

I know all what am doing is wrong but I want to have attention just like any person like in this life. I want to love and be loved.

why should I live alone and sticking with my mother forever.

I build my future because I think it will the people respect me for who I am. But I don’t think it helps. It also hurt to see an average pretty girl having a bf even she didn't has any career.

people your being so harsh on me :(

Im just saying that to give you a hent of who I am so whu would someone consider me as a partner?..

Im funny at work and laugh and down to earth. like to help and Im not overweight in contrast Im skinny.

Answer 1

Have you ever had a boyfriend? I'm just curious.

It sounds like you are living with your mother. Move out. I'm certain you aren't ugly, have confidence. Don't worry have fun and things will come.

Answer 2

I am sorry for you that you feel so badly about yourself. But lets also look at what you wrote.

you are centered on your 'ugliness" and you seem to think that all the "stuff" and career you have makes up for it.

Silly Silly---You first need to know that no matter how ugly you think you are that is is not your problem! So called "ugly" people find love, often the truest love, everyday. Why--they aren't centered on their looks, nor are they trying to "make up for" their perceived shortcomings.

Who cares about your riches and your career except you? I mean really--does anybody care (I don't mean those who love you and want the best for you) whether you are rich or poor? Nobody you'd want to have as a friend!

Anyway--concentrate on WHO you are--not WHAT you are. Inside. What do you like and dislike about the world, food, hobbies, yourself, a prospective BF, etc?
Give of your time freely and smile when doing so. Help others, get involved in your community. you will become the kind of person you will admire and everyone else will too! Whether or not Love comes directly or indirectly it will come--when you are happy with yourself.
You cannot love anyone unconditionally until you love yourself.

And one more thing--Be real about your money. I mean be grateful and truely understand what having money means--the responsibilities that come with money are huge! The more money you control the more responsibility you have to use it in good ways. Flashing it everywhere is not responsible--it is nothing more than selfish begging for attention. I don't mean you shouldn't have the things you have, but take a look at what other people are seeing when they look at you. What kind of person do they perceive?

Answer 3

Well first of all it's not about the degrees, careers, or money that you have. That isn't what attracts a person to you. It's your personality. Now if you are a money hungry, materialistic person who is always bragging about what she's accomplished than maybe this is why you are single and living with your mother. Perhaps you should focus on giving your SELF....meaning your spirit to others and maybe you'll attract someone. A friend of mine told me though that when you go out looking for someone you usually end up settling for something that you really didn't want. So maybe there is some reasoning behind you being single. Don't rush yourself. Just embrace and celebrate self and the rest will fall in place. Psst....what you have doesn't matter either.

Answer 4

Throwing full life into careers usually interrupts family life, not enhances it.

I have never seen someone so scared to date. What makes you think you can't get a boyfriend?

I'm a talented, hard-working 43-year-old male, twice divorced with three kids, who has limited income and has gained 55 pounds since the first marriage. I still think I can find someone.

The key here is I waited until 30 to get married the first time. No panic at 24, but you do have to take a chance and date a little to find the right man. To be honest, being very successful and flashing it is intimidating to many men who would otherwise be interested, as they will not wish to get into a high-finance dating situation if they can have success without blowing their whole paycheck.

My recommendation is to quit flaunting status and start flaunting YOU. Get your hair and nails done, get into a fitness groove and really work on making yourself a person others would want to meet. Also, I'm sure you have hobbies or activities you think are fun. Why not do them? If you are in a rut, develop one. Go skiing, sing karaoke, take a college course, go to a poetry reading, play free Texas Hold'em tournaments, run with a group....anything but stay home with Mom all the time. You'll never find Mr. Right by staying in the front yard.

I feel your need to be accepted, and these suggestions could get your friends and neighbors to notice - then a good man will notice as well.

Put your best foot forward and E-mail me later to let me know how you are doing. I care.

Answer 5

It has nothing to do with living with your mom. Times are hard now , alot of young people in their 20s are still living with their parents. If a guy likes you , he wouldn't care about that , trust me. He will still go out with you. But you need to be confident and leave good impressions when talking to men. Try online dating and social meet up parties for single people. Nowadays , if you're not an outgoing person and more so an introvert and shy , you won't find the right guy for you at nightclubs.

Answer 6

It might hurt to see this but, what you own, doesn't make who you are. Just because you came from an amazing university and you have a high paying job with all the extras, doesn't mean people will be attracted to you. And just because you THINK no one is attracted to you, doesn't mean you are the ugliest girl on the whole planet (after all, have you even SEEN every single girl on this whole planet?). Stop focusing on all the stuff you have. Just be yourself and go looking. Usually the love of your life doesn't just fall straight out of the sky onto your lap. Try going out and looking. Just be yourself and someone who's interested will come around eventually. Just BE PATIENT.

Answer 7

I hate to break to you, but guys when meeting a girl will often judge her on her looks..
Now, don't get me wrong..
I'm not saying you will never get a boyfriend..

i'm just saying that guys judge more on looks...
ok, now.. on with my advice..

Honey, there are no "ugly" women in this world..
At least to me there aren't.. I can't possibly call a women "ugly" because I myself came from a women..
Also, a few tips i would offer you are the following..

Do you lead with your personality when meeting a guy? or with your money?
Although guys DO judge first on looks...
Personality is also a of meeting somone...
I would say that you probably lead more with your money.. in hopes that they will like you because of your income..
now, do you?.. think about it...

Another tips..
Are you overweighted?
Have acne problems?
Don't know anything about fashion?
Manner problems?
believe it or not... all these little things make a HUGE difference when meeting someone new...
Now.. just because you're not the most gorgeous thing on the planet.. that DOESN'T mean that you can't work out and be at least in OK shape... just because you're not TALL enough.. doesn't mean that you shouldn't take the extra step to get acne control... do you see where i'm going with this?..
think about these things...

Now... one last thing...
Do you act tense around people?
maybe one good habit you should learn is to relax and just enjoy yourself... nothing is sexier to a guy when they see a girl that just loves to have fun and that doesn't care what people think... that's sexy!!

Just... think about it..

Answer 8

My dear from what I read you are to into the car the job the watch, what about you??? First I can't believe you are that ugly,second a man go for personality not owning.
You have to change the way you see your world, if you keep seen your self ugly of course the world will see you ugly.
IT IS NOT HOW PEOPLE SEE YOU IS HOW YOU SEE YOUR SELF. Same how it all start from you out, not from out to you. The world see what you project , kind of a movie you see what jet projected. Same with us.
I have meet same of the most not good looking women, yet most attractive, is the way they present them self, pleasant, simple, funny, happy, play full, interested and I most say sexy.
Remember no one like to be with same one always upset sad, never smiley. But in order to change that you got to change the way you see your self and life. LET GO OF THAT NEGATIVE ATTITUDE AND WELCOME A NEW POSITIVE YOU. I promise you your life will change forever. Find the good on life, and trust it, you will see is power full.

I really hope you will take action, and if you do you will see a change in you and in how people see you. That's the beginning.
(if you want read "THE ALCHEMIST" it's a great book on how to change the way you see things.)

Answer 9

I can relate to you. that's how i was when i was 16 years old. but i decided to take charge of my life. enjoy what God blessed me with. learn to appreciate and be grateful. i think it shoudl start with the way you view yourself. if you don't think you are lovable (without the material things you have) and if you don't see the real beauty inside you then how can you expect others to love you for who you are.

do not be hard on yourself. do not compare yourself to others. we are created as individuals, we are all UNIQUE. so this means we are special. even if you have a twin, you are still different.

it is dangerous to crave for people's attention adn become a people pleaser. eventually you will get tired of getting people's approval and end up feeling twice as bad. it will not help.

so love yourself. Enjoy life and smile always. be patient and wait expectantly. It's not always about the looks, it would be unfortunate to find a guy who only likes you for your looks. i know that you will find the man for you. just learn to value yourself.

what i did before while waiting for mr. right, i made a list of qualities of hte man i want to spend my life with (it should be realistic) then i prayed adn waited with an expectant heart.

if you keep on focusing on finding a boyfriend, you are missing alot in life.

so cheer up! enjoy life! be grateful! enhance your positive qualities and strive to be a better person, coz when all these material things are gone and you are no longer beautiful, what will count is who you really are.

Answer 10

hmmmmm.... think positive girl! Having no boyfriend doesnt mean you are the ugliest girl in the whole planet!. Im 26 and going to 27 next Dec, but I dont have any bf. But do I care? Nop. Since I enjoyed my life. You want to have attention..... lets seee.......you have friends, you have co workers, you have your family. And thats one thing for sure means: care, love and attention. C'mon.....you'll find one. Doesnt have to be in a hurry. Just enjoy your life, and everything will come easy.

Answer 11

Hmm. With all that $9,000 dollar watches, best fashion cars, high income and all that jazz, most guys will probably think you're way out of their league cause they'll think you're A.) Too rich, or B.) Already Taken (TM)

Loosen up. Be yourself. Talk to people.