I'm going out with a girlfriend who has Depression?

Question

She's never happy and I know what Depression is and what it effects but I really like to make her smile but she never shows it or anything I need some help cause I love her and our relationship we have together but I want to make her smlie and be happy what can I do? (if anything)

Answer 1

well watever u do dont dump her. shes commit suicide i swear. ok anyways if i had this problem i would jus be there for her everyday and hug her. i would make she knos that i love her.

Answer 2

Okay, here's the thing. Is she truly, clinically depressed? Has she gone to a specialist and been diagnosed with clinical depression? Because if that's the case, then she should be on medication to help cope with that.

Otherwise, you really need to talk to her to find out what it is about her life that has her always so upset. It's a serious thing as it obviously affects both of your happiness. Once you've discovered what the problem is, you can help her to work on the solutions.

But maybe she should see someone just to make sure that it isn't clinical depression.

You love her; you'll find a way.

Answer 3

My exboyfriend was in your exact position. I was diagnoised with severe depression and my exboyfriend was able to get through out one year relationship pretty good. He would always keep me happy but it took so much work. Everything he did i always go upset because it would bring up memories and id become sad. Even with school my grades would come falling down....but thorugh allll the struggles you can possible think of he coped. he would always make me happy in every way he could possibly think of. And during those times he would try to make me happy i wouldnt see it until the end of the day and thats where it would put a smile on face to actually realize that "oh my exboyfriend did try to cheer me up but i was to blind to see that from being way into deep with my depression."
All i can suggest is keep doing what youre doing maybe towards the end your girlfriend will realize what effort you are trying to put in just to make he happy or even smile. And if she doesnt see that just stick by her and let her heal from this depression.

Good luck with all. :]

Answer 4

first of all why do you say she has a depression? is this mood recurring? when does this usually happen? do you know the cause it?

if you love her, help her cope with it. address the problem first. if you are concerned with making her happy yet she can't be at the moment for some reason, you should understand. tell her that you really want to make her happy and you would appreciate it if she can share her problems with you. tell her how you feel when she's depressed.

don't sleep with her. it will make you happy, you said it yourself, she's going through depression so what good will it make if you sleep with her. think with your heart and mind.

Answer 5

All you need to do it to reassure her that you are there for her no matter what. You can't 'make' her happy, but you can be with her, be her friend, be hger support. I live with depression and I know what she is going through. It is nice to know that there is always someone there for you even though you may not show the right appreciation it all the time, for that I am sure she is sorry. Just continue loving her and being there, understand that sometimes she may need space, most importantly, love her. That is all you can do.

Answer 6

My sister suffers from depression. I think its pretty bad. It can make you irrational and spontaneous. The obvious is you need to be there for her. Ur her bf so that's a given anyway.

She needs professional help, I'm sure if you google search depression you will find much more than asking on here. There is so much help out there for depression as it becomes more accepted in the community. ALOT more ppl suffer from depression then they know i think.. i suffer from it occasionally when something crap happens in my life, but luckily i am strong willed and i manage to pick myself up. Its all about mental training, and that's what professionals can help your girlfriend with, strengthening her mind to overcome her demons.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Honestly, if she is deep in the depression, there might not be anything you can do. Just be supportive, encourage her to take her meds, offer to attend a few of her counseling sessions if she's comfortable with that. And of course always be willing to listen if she feels like telling you how she's feeling and maybe the cause(s) of the depression.

Answer 8

If she's really suffering from depression, she needs professional help. If she's not really depressed, but just feels unhappy every now and then, then that's quite normal and you can try to be a supportive bf and listen to her problems and lend her a shoulder to cry on if she needs one. But if it gets too serious to a point where she threatens suicide or tries to hurt herself in anyway, then you really need to bring her to a psychiatrist

Answer 9

You should realize that depression is not caused by you; it's caused by chemicals in a person's brain. To help her the most you can encourage her to get proper treatment from a counselor and/or psychiatrist.

Answer 10

I've been there I know how it is my b/f helped me by compliments after compliments and keeping around family and friends it tool a while but he was a big factor in who I am now. Don't give up!!!

Answer 11

that is really sweet of you. i can see you care alot about her. you wanted her to be happy. i'm sure she can feel it very much too. i have ocd. was very affected at start. then i got so bad that i cried. my bf was there for me all the while. he accompanied me to see my dr. he makes me smile. he listened to me. and i'm very good now. i'm happy. and he is the best guy i ever met. i'm sure your gf feel the same. give her more time. be there for her. cheers.:)