My sister is 14. In 1st grade she started to refuse going 2 school until she was changed to a private school. Later she had to repeat 3rd grade and a few weeks in she refused again. My mother tried EVERYTHING even the principal carried her in once. But she was impossible. So for almost 4 years she was home schooled because of her irrational stubbornness. We explained why it's important, both my parents are self-employed so she would be w/ them. Last year she finally went back to the private school but would ditch in the bathroom a lot. This year my parents cant afford the school so they put her back in public and went for 1 day. Now she won't go. My mom has been told that she will be fined $10,000 or jail if she isnt enrolled. My sis told me she has claustrophobia so thats y its hard to be in classroms. But I don't think thats true. I think she has a mental disorder. Severe social anxiety. She still throws tantrums like 3 yr old. Doent want 2 hear ANYTHING of school. What should we do?
2007-10-08 19:22:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
My mom says it's "okay" for her to ditch because at least shes going and getting "passing" grades which are mostly c's and below. I'm not a parent but even I know that ditching is unacceptable. My mom has condoned her deviant behavior. WTF!
2007-10-08 19:48:52 · update #1
I think that maybe she should begin seeing a really good psychologist. One who has patients that can say they were actually helped. There's a lot of quacks out there lol. She could have social anxiety, not sure about the claustrophobia, because a bathroom is not much bigger than a classroom. Maybe she has a learning disorder. If she hasn't been going to school and taking tests then no one would have noticed. Try to get your hands on her past exams and see how well she did. I don't think that trying to explain to her that school is important will make much difference. It's like trying to explain to an anorexic that long-term starvation will kill them. They're just not in the right mindset to care or understand, just as your sister seems to be. I don't know if there anyway around that fine, but maybe if she is brought to a psychologist quickly they can somehow write off an excuse for her. Stating that she is not mentally stable to be enrolled in a cirriculum right now. Who knows it might work, but it also will follow her around on her record. If it's the last resort though, I'd do it. Good luck, I hope things get better.
2007-10-08 19:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by freepaidmoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first, I thought maybe she had suffered some trauma at school. I agree with you she does not have claustrophobia, but does have mental issues, even retardation. Its possible she reacts this way, because she feels inferior to the kids around her. What did she do in private school, if it was the same behavior I curious why your parents didn't spend some good money towards mental health, rather then a high priced baby sitter.
2007-10-08 19:29:28 · answer #2 · answered by jay_d_skinner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your parents know that she needs to be evaluated by a professional. She might need therapy and medication to help her stabilized her moods.
Your parents can get into a lot of trouble if she does not go to school. They are right about that. However, they need to make sure that they are the parents and in charge. If your sister thinks she can tell them what to do and get her way then that is part of the problem.
2007-10-08 19:33:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds as if she might be highly sensitive. Because of that she may feel as if she has nothing in common with the other children. If thats the case perhaps being with her own type might help her a lot (ie a school for gifted children). I think a mature loving person needs to ease her terror by explaining the logic of this to her - perhaps someone like the principle of the school for the gifted.
(If you or your parents would like help to understand highly sensitive people and the problems and opportunities life has for them I suggest you obtain the book 'The highly sensitive person' by Elaine Aaron from www.amazon.com).
2007-10-08 19:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by pete the pirate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a counselor to see if it's a social disorder or laziness. If it's a social disorder the counselor will make referrals and give instructions.
If it's laziness see if her school has an ROTC program and enroll her. Worked with my brother's friend.
2007-10-08 19:33:15 · answer #5 · answered by christigmc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister could have social anxiety disorder to the extreme, and she needs to be evaluated by a professional. the cost is high $1500 - $2000. she probably needs meds and therapy. our son had to withdraw from the first semester of JR year because of social anxiety disorder. it was hell. he is better now and in college, but he takes meds everyday to deal with the mental part. he is aware of his limitations and he hates it, but he deals.
2007-10-08 19:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow dont i know what thats like!!!!! i have a 2 yr old brother and a 9 yr old sister..... just when you are annoyed and need space, go to your room ar the bathroom or a yard or a friends or anywhere you can think about what ticked you off without freaking out at your sis. *meisawesomeness*
2016-05-19 21:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sort of sounds like schizophrenia people who suffer from this usually withdraw socially maybe take her to the doc but probably not the psychiatrist as that may cause an upset. good luck.
2007-10-08 19:28:25 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Xenia♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb she has no friends at school...i remember when i was a child i didnt wanna go to school etheir cuz i had no friends..but that was in like grade 2 haha if anything tell her to get a job and something with her life if shes not going to school
2007-10-08 19:26:53 · answer #9 · answered by ShannyBikdiK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was bullied in the school, you have to ask her what's her problem
2007-10-08 20:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by yuna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋