My older brother is really annoying and I love to sing. When I sing, he always critisizing me, with bad comments. I am too afraid of him to say anything more than shut up, so what should I say??? Should I say anything??
2007-10-08 17:20:15 · 15 answers · asked by dance_luvr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Smile at him, walk away, and go to your room, shut the door and sing your little heart out. If he says anything to you, tell him you're in you're own private room. If he continues to harrass you, tell your parent(s). Don't let him get away with it, because he's just bullying you because he's the oldest!
Good luck...keep singing!! :)
2007-10-08 17:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by iammom1 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult to give you an accurate answer as you didn't go into details on what exactly were the "bad comments" made by your bro and why he made such comments... plus what's your relationship like with him and the rest of your family members... besides we really have no idea how good is your singing :).
Anyway whatever it is, it is actually crucial for you to rate this issue you have with your brother - meaning... is this a BIG issue (BIG issues are normally those that will seriously leave profound marks in your life, be it negative or positive depending on the outcomes) or is it just a small, petty issue.
Based on the short details you gave, it gives me the impression that your issue with your bro is just a small one.
So you shouldn't be too worry or concerned about it. With or without it, your life can still move on and there are MORE IMPORTANT issues in life that require more of your attention and care.
Having said that, try developing your personality to be more relaxed yet composed/strong when you're being criticised. Remember, what defines you is your action and reaction, and NOT the "bad comments" made by others. Take a deep breath, smile and face the music in style...
Since you love singing you should learn more and put more efforts to improve your singing. It's a great idea to get some feedbacks (positive and negative) from others so that you will have some ideas what they think of your singing.
On the next level, you may want to get involved in social activities that involve singing... or perhaps enter into singing competitions.
Should your singing be deservingly praised and well received by others, then I'm sure your brother won't dare to bother you with him comments.
Good luck! :)
2007-10-09 01:46:00 · answer #2 · answered by Maxelimus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't say anything.
First of all, if he's seriously hurting your feelings... tell your parents. You have the right to sing, but not to the point it becomes an annoyance you're trying to make.
Remember, he's just your brother. He's probably never going to be nice, i know because i have 4. Just ignore him, he's most likely just saying that to shut you up, it doesn't mean you suck, he could just be wrong or lieing! Don't let someone tear you down, if you love to sing and you believe that you're great... then don't let anyone tell you otherwise, especially to the point you're too afraid to even do it again. Have confidence! You probably rock.
If you want, try singing in a place where your brother isn't around.
2007-10-09 00:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh, I've got a good one for you! Do you know the words to "I'm Henry the 8th, I am"? Next time he gives you some crap, give him that song, and sing it REALLY REALLY BAD!
Or, on the flip side, are you singing sometime or somewhere inappropriate? Like when he's trying to listen to music or needs to concentrate? If you do that, well, you are being a pain in the butt and the bad comments are his attempt to let him be in peace. Think about it...are you being rude and distracting towards him? Do you do it to annoy him intentionally? Think about it...there's a time and place for everything, certainly you know not to sing at the dinner table or in a library or in the middle of the night when everyone is asleep. Could you be doing something like that and brother is just trying to get you to behave properly?
2007-10-09 00:48:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey if you are feeling froggy, then jump!
Nobody argues with success!
Join the chorus at school and take any other music programs they offer. See if you can get into the church choir. All experience is good.
See if there is a chorale group in your town too... in Houston we have the Sweet Adelines and the Tidelanders... both are composed of groups of "barbershop quartets" that also sing en-masse and win awards, as well as sing for charity functions.
All brothers are dweebs and their mission is to embarrass you
2007-10-09 01:34:49 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your brother do that annoys you? Maybe he's just annoyed by you signing so he says negative comments. A lot of people like to sing to the radio, but others find it annoying when people do that. Maybe it's just something like that. I would just be honest and talk to him about how you are feeling, but be willing to listen to his side as well. Try to come up with a compromise.
2007-10-09 00:29:39 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like my 12 year old daughter, she can sing when she wants to but sometimes she just likes to make noise and it gets her dad and brother all mad then they start telling her to shut , she will go as far as she can then when she knows they had enough she will be quite , because shes not sure what they might do , sometimes i laugh at her, becaue she know how to raise a stink, so dont go to far when he has had enough , i would just not sing. good luck. lol
2007-10-09 00:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks your annoying then just do it louder( it's not like he can get violent cuz he dosnt like you singing) he'll probably just the leave the roomi guess and their you go it's a win-win.
2007-10-09 00:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by h 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you love to sing then dont stop doing it! Get away from him if he keeps hating, but hell get used to it!
2007-10-09 00:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by Cheeseburger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
punch him in the face then spit in it.be very aggressive and don't back down.be as angry and violent towards him as you can.show no mercy.fear is for losers. slash his car tyres if you must.sabbotage him at all costs. he will then learn not to mess with you.good luck buddy...
2007-10-09 00:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋