This girl and I have become really good friends. We are on the cross country and track team together in college so we see each other all the time. I have grown to really like her and I want to tell her how i feel. my problem: I am very shy when it comes to telling a girl how I feel. I am also worried that it might damage the friendship. how do I tell her?
2007-10-08 17:10:55 · 23 answers · asked by jimjt3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tell her if she wants to hang out with you for sometime, just you and her. say " i want to go to mall, but can't find someone who can choose some t-shirts for me, or i really want to see that new movie, but i don't like to go alone, you wanna go with me, or say applebees or chillies or red lobster has some new stuff, I want to try that new thing, but I hate to go alone." JUST SAY IT DUDE, THAT YOU LIKE, AS LONG AS YOU KEEP THE THING INSIDE YOU, IT WILL BUG YOU.
2007-10-08 17:16:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to start of slowly. You don't have to tell her you like her straight up. Asking her to go on a date with you will be a lot easier.
Make sure you are alone. The worse thing you can do is talk to her infront of her friends or your friends or any other people because you and her can feel intimidated.
Ask her if she is interested going somewhere with you. Also tell her that it will only be you and her because if you don't, she'll invite all her friends along like it will be a big get together.
If she says no, don't make a big deal about it. Smile and go on with what you are doing.
If your friendship is strong, asking her out won't damage it.
Good luck.
2007-10-09 00:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by Advice Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very tricky situation. I mean, if you tell her how you feel, she may be creeped out, or she could feel the same way. It's hard to tell. If I were you I would focus on telling her with my actions. Do more friendly things with her and be less shy. It may get her to come out of her comfort zone and then you guys can discuss your feelings in words
2007-10-09 00:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by LazyLily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would recommend asking her to hang out alone with you, but not making it an obvious date request, so if she is not romantically interested, she can back out without either you and her feeling awkward. This way, you could pass it off as a simple hang out request, and your friendship wouldn't be so affected. And another more silly suggestion is: use the internet. Write her an email about how you feel, or instant message her. It's always easier that way. It's not as sincere or romantic but it works sometimes :P
2007-10-09 00:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. Simply, with no hesitation. Be clear and honest and make eye contact. You'll know very quickly if she feels the same.
Life is short.
If it's mutual, GREAT.
If it's not, you just saved time and energy wondering if she likes you...and now you can move on.
Just to it. Stop thinking about it. You'll only get more nervous.
NO FEAR. Be BOLD and go for what you want.
You can do it. You'll be glad you did.
Good Luck!!!
2007-10-09 00:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by PG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
compliment her on the race or her time. talk to her more and more while you're running and just become really good frioends with her first. she'll give you hints when the time is right but it it doesn't happen in a couple weeks just tell her how you feel. don't just sit around waiting for her to say something.
2007-10-09 00:15:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication, Just walk up and tell her. There is no beter way to say something then to just do it.
That way something said to another isn't changed or taken out of context.
You will also have the opportunity to see the look in her face, this will also give you some idea of what your chances are.
Good Luck!
2007-10-09 00:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Randy W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will only go akward if you let it. It is okay to be nervous that shows you are not out for just one thing. Just come straight out and say i like you. If you like her then tell her, i know you are shy but still there is no easier way to say it then just saying.
2007-10-09 00:16:12 · answer #8 · answered by BWife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as u told that u r a shy person,so i think that girl also know this.
a girl will never say her feelings first ,so in this case u ask girl whether she likes someone or not?if she say no.then u should express ur feelins.if still u r unable to express her,then by giving card & flowers u can say to her.
2007-10-09 00:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by tatsavi s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the very first opportunity and with discretion kiss her. She would either slap you as the result or she may kiss you back or she may ask you why you did it THEN you tell her because you like her. Good luck.
2007-10-09 00:17:02 · answer #10 · answered by Don S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her but if she says it really wont work between you say all i want is our friendship i can put those feelings behind me and just be friends
but if you see eachother all the time theres probably a chance shes come to like you to
2007-10-09 00:16:01 · answer #11 · answered by justyy13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋