My husband & I are 21.We talked about having kids before we were married & we want to have kids.Not any time soon.We want to enjoy being married/get more financially stable.AT LEAST 3 years down the road.Before we got married that was fine w/me.I always felt that I wanted my 1st child between 24-27.Now I'm not so sure.I see all these girls I know who are 16,19,21 years old...some of them aren't out of school yet or don't even have jobs...the couple's 1-year anniversary is only 1,4,7 months earlier than the baby's due date.And they're completely okay with it.I'm not saying they shouldn't be happy.But they don't seem worried at all about the responsibility of it all.They're off picking out cute clothes.I don't understand how they could seem so carefree.I'm married to a guy who I was best friends with 4 years before we dated.We both have stable jobs.We want kids.But I would flip if we got pregnant.The idea literally almost makes me puke.Am I being overly anxious?How could I get over it?
2007-10-08 16:50:40 · 6 answers · asked by Keruma 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm not talking about getting pregnant now. I'm saying whenever I think about being pregnant in the next five years or so it makes me feel nauseous.
2007-10-08 17:04:51 · update #1
becoming pregnant and knowing you are going to be a mother is an overwhelming feeling no matter what. no all women are carefree about this, even when it was unplanned. some are just trying to stick to the positive things about it.
sometimes you can plan your life out, things happen and your life changes.
i got married when i was 23, hubby 22...and we wanted to wait to have kids for a couple years like you do. i couldnt picture myself pregnant and then with a child. i wanted to be able to go out when we wanted and enjoy ourselves. but ended up pregantn 3 months before our wedding and now that my child is 14months old i love the fact that it happened. and im having my second in 2 months, another thing i wanted to wait for. i still wouldnt change it
so i do think you are being a little to worried about all this. you can try your hardest to prevent pregnancy before you are ready, but sometimes it happens, and soemtimes you dont relize you are ready for things til they happen.
how you feel is normal too. its scary to think about, and its scary when it happens. thats just how it is. good luck and take care! :)
2007-10-08 17:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by LuckyMama06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you are becoming a responsible adult. It never gets easier, though, so don't obsess about the time being absolutely right, it never is. Take a little time, enjoy your life, you're young yet! Kids will wait for you to have them, and if it happens without planning, it will be okay. Life works out...even with our freakiness!
2007-10-08 17:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ah...-Don't you have anything more "uncontrollable" to WORRY about in your life, just now??! It's in YOUR hands WHEN you want to get pregnant...-so why are you Obsessing about it so much? Get ON with your life; enjoy doing fun stuff with your husband (while you still can), & STOP worrying about the matter- until YOU'RE ready to have kids. What other women do with THEIR lives is THEIR choice... -YOU have your OWN life to live. So relax- & enjoy it! :)
2007-10-08 17:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
21 is the time and leave your later life to other joys like watching kids grow...
2007-10-08 16:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by spiderheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go have fun with your life and with your husband, your still young and when the times right you'll have your buddle of joy to appreciate more. good luck
2007-10-08 17:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by operation_caring2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You are too young. Just enjoy each other and wait.
2007-10-08 16:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋