You can choose to show someone love, but you can't choose to feel love.
2007-10-08 16:13:33
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answered by Anonymous
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I believe love is a behavior not an emotion...and all behavior is a result of choice...perhaps not conscious choice at all times, but it can be!
When people talk about love, they often refer to feelings...but real love isn't a feeling. Lust, desire, liking, attraction, chemistry, obsession...people mistake lots of emotions for love, but real love goes far beyond such simplistic emotions.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, alwas persevers. Love never fails (1 Cor. 13). These verses aren't describing emotions, they are describing actions and every one of us can choose to behave this way toward anyone that we choose to love! We choose to be patient and kind...we choose to forgive and to be polite. We choose to put another person's needs ahead of our own. This is what it really means to love someone.
If you "fall in love" with something or someone, that may feel great, but without a conscious decision to treat the object of your affection with love, the emotions will eventually fade. On the other hand, if you choose to treat someone with love, the emotions will follow and deepen over time.
2007-10-08 23:34:53
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answered by KAL 7
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I'm an atheist but I can answer your question about love. We all know its kind of complicated and times it can hurt. But I think its a combination of both. Over time you start falling in love with someone so its kind of both because it sneaks up on then you enjoy the feeling of this emotion you pursue after the person because you enjoy that person . Then you choose to go pursue that person your choosing it because of the reaction of the feeling inside that sneaked up on you love. What i'm saying love chooses you but you choose love after you pursue love because of the feeling that connects you to love.SO realy like i said before love is a complicated.
2007-10-08 23:20:58
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answered by Anonymous
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I think that You dont choose to love love chooses you. Because how can you see a cute guy walking down the street and tell your heart. "Oh he is cute i want to love him" and all of the sudden you love that person. That cant happen. If that did happen no one would fall in love for the wrong person. Because if they would then all they had to do is tell their heart that they dont want to love that person any more and they would love the right one and not other people that dont love them back. So yeah love chooses you not the other way around.
2007-10-08 23:18:03
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answered by Anonymous
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You cannot love god/reality, just as you cannot love yourself. Respect is something else. It is WHAT we love that is innate and most valuable about us. This is not a choice.
You can however, choose to love another - after the innate connection/recognition occurs (falling in love for example). Only this conscious 'choosing' or commitment to their well-being and purpose is valuable and worthy of the word, love.
2007-10-09 12:17:38
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answered by MysticMaze 6
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Both. Love presents itself. You have an opportunity to love or not. You choose. Do you accept? God gave us free will. I've noticed in my life as I get older - it is always wiser to choose love when it (the opportunity to do so) presents itself. It can be for a season - a reason - or a lifetime. But saying yes always gets you more...
2007-10-08 23:40:58
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answered by Anonymous
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Hi
This is something i was just learning in middle school last week.
God gives us free will. But, He would like for us to be followers of him.That is why Lots of people are other religions.
most people say, "Hey, if God wanted me to be Christian then he should be powerful enough to make me be Christian."
Well, He wouldn't be much a God if we were FORCED to love Him yes?
Nobody wants to be forced to love yes? i hope this helped please, keep asking questions.
This is a great question. I hope i can answer more soon. But i am still learning so I'll just try my best and do my most efficient answers
God Bless you!!!!
Michaela Q.
2007-10-08 23:20:47
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answered by Michaela 2
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I choose who I love
2007-10-08 23:17:32
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answered by tebone0315 7
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I believe when it comes to being IN LOVE with someone, you have no choice. But when it comes to just regular love- like you would a brother or sister, or good friend, you do have a choice. Sometimes it's not easy to just love and appreciate people, but if you make a conscious effort of accepting someone for who they are, good and bad, you can learn to love someone in that way. Just my own opinion. I'm sure ppl will disagree. I know it's hard for ME to do, and I can't say if I've ever really successfully completed such a task. lol
2007-10-08 23:15:44
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answered by BlackDahlia 5
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You choose who to love
2007-10-08 23:14:45
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answered by mr fugi 6
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