I have no interest in spending money on a ring. It seems like a waste of money. Is this something guys are expected to do?
2007-10-08 15:50:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Yep, in America the diamond ring is pretty much a must if you want to be taken seriously by not only your mate, but her family and all your friends. If you dont get her one because you are a cheapskate, then for her sake, break up with her so she can find someone who thinks she is welll worth the money spent on an enagement ring.
2007-10-08 15:55:37 · answer #1 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 8⤊ 2⤋
It depends on the woman. Some want a diamond ring, some would like a plain engagement band or one with a different gemstone, and some wouldn't mind not having an engagement ring at all.
Talk to your fiance and ask what she wants. If she's expecting one and doesn't get it, then you risk hurting her feelings. If it's money you're concerned about, then shop around and find a quality ring for a good deal. Or maybe a female relative has one she'd like to give you.
Other than the two of you, it's nobody else's business whether or not she has a diamond ring. An expensive diamond is not a measure of love. Plenty of women receive gigantic diamond rings, then get divorced within a year.
2007-10-08 16:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by BeatriceBatten 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your g/f about it, some girls are into the whole "an engagement ring is a waste of money theory" but I can tell you personally if you were my b/f and came to me and said that I would be crushed. An engagement ring is a symbol of commitment and love. I have even been told by my guy friends that guys judge how much a man loves his woman by the size of the ring he puts on her finger. I don't subscribe to that theory but if she does, and you think it's a waste of time you two will have lots to work out.
P.S.
If this is really that you are just being cheap, man up and buy her a nice ring, something that will remind her every time she looks at it that she is beautiful and precious to you just like the diamond you put on her finger.
2007-10-09 06:27:19 · answer #3 · answered by L H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
QUOTE: I’m so fortunate to be engaged with this great guy I love, and I don’t know why I should be feeling sad now. You said it. Fortunate. Be glad he got you a ring. He's probably feeling absolute **** right now because you dissed everything about what he did and made it seem trivial. i would not blame him if he turned around and said on second thoughts I don't want to be with you. He has based his choice on what you told him. He obviously thought you'd like it and now wants you to shut up so says he doesn't care. Most guys I know CARE what their fiances think of the rings they buy them. Once upon a time women got a ring, you put it on and wore it 24/7 and that was that. Now days some women pick the ring and then get proposed to, others leave hints, others get proposed to with a ring and then go and pick the one they actually want. I personally told of designs I liked and then left it at that. I have my ring and wear it 24/7 with pride. Sure I see other rings I like and think that's pretty but I also think there are plenty of anniversaries and births of children to come so I'll get my rings and jewellery pieces eventually. BOTTOM LINE: Stop whinging!! Is this about the ring? You are engaged! you are supposed to be loving each other and accepting it but if something this trivial sets you off...... -.- seriously>>?? Get over it. Be proud. Don't be sad. Some girls never get a ring at all.
2016-05-19 03:25:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to buy a ring If you 'have no interest in spending money on a ring' then don't get engaged. Stop being selfish. It's not for you, it's for your fiance. No one said it has to be expensive or top of the range, she will appreciate anything if given for the right reason.
2007-10-08 16:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by BTB2211 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to spend money on a ring for her you must not think she's worth it, so you probably shouldn't be considering spending the rest of your life with her. Every engaged/married couple I know has done the whole engagement ring thing, including myself. It doesn't have to break the bank it's a sign that you are serious in your intentions of marriage. If she's worth it you'll spend it. My fiance did!
2007-10-08 17:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the girl. I would say 99% of us expect some kind of ring although not every girl wants a diamond.
My perfect engagment ring is white sapphire and peridot and runs about $600. Sorry to say but your proposal isn't about you. It's about giving your potential fiancee a great memory and honestly, if you truly love her and the ring is important to her you will make an effort to give her that.
2007-10-08 16:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not everyone wants a diamond, although rings are traditional. I wanted an emerald because I hate diamonds. My husband only spent $40 on my ring, and it's the most precious thing I own if not the most expensive.
2007-10-08 16:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by Dolyn 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most women expect rings from their fiances: most expect diamond, but some prefer another stone. Only a small minority of women don't expect them.
As for it being a waste of money, are you similarly frugal with yourself? Or will you blow money on yourself for more car than you need, video games, gadgets, etc?
2007-10-08 16:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. X 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!
The marriage ring is not a fancy thing which you may use to show up. Marriage should be taken with deep respect before God and your partner.
About the marriage ring: Is not required a guy to buy a diamond ring, but MOST IMPORTANT IS TO BE A RING WHICK YOU LIKE AND WHO IDENTIFY YOU AS MARRIED COUPLE WITH LOVE, NOT FANCY!
2007-10-08 20:57:54 · answer #10 · answered by nistru78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋