Why does my son fake tears.? Am I doing something wrong.? Everytime my husband and I put him to bed at around 9 texas time he fake cries so I will sit in his room for a good hour and he just plays and fake cries (no tears) so I will baby him and ask him whats wrong. BUT, there is no tears? So after an hour of sitting by his bed I will walk out of the room and within 5 minutes of me being gone he will be sleeping. Am I babying him to much?
2007-10-08 15:27:32 · 9 answers · asked by lostinlove1919 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son is 2 years old.
2007-10-08 15:27:49 · update #1
Its not only when he goes to bed if I tell him no about something he will come up to me rap his arms around my leg and fake cry and tell me sorry I constintly tell him that he does not have to tell me sorry. But he still does it what can I do?
2007-10-08 15:30:44 · update #2
I play with him alot and when it is not raining I take him out to the park and take him for walks and I love teaching him it is just I don't know what to do to make him stop this whinning.
2007-10-08 15:32:52 · update #3
I am the step-mom of 5 and auntie of 15 and yes you are babying him too much, you need to let him cry. It shows him that the crocodile tears wont work on you anymore and you can get to sleep early too.
2007-10-10 06:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a parent of five, 2 girls &3 boys i have found that rutine is very inportant. I have learned the hard way about tears of joy,fear and happyness. it's not always the best to let your childern find your weakness. It's to easy for a 2 yr old to end up in mom &dads bed. A strict bedtime in their own bed alone is a good thing. Don't be scared to let a few real tears come out. this will ensure mom&babys bedtime.
2007-10-08 22:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by rodneyj 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is there something in his room which is scaring him? Maybe he's too embarassed to tell you he's afraid of "monsters" or other common phobias a toddler may possess. Perhaps a nightlight could help?
Also, Tough Love is effective. Put him to bed. Close the door. The end.
Ignore his crying, he will give up eventually and realize that you are no longer going to come to his rescue for nothing.
Always reassure him before you tuck him in that you're always there for him, but "big boys dont have mommy come to the rescue, etc."
2007-10-08 22:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Marc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My daughter does the same thing... I just got to the point where I had to get tough with her. He is doing that because he knows you will baby him and they LOVE that!! I don't think it is wrong in anyway at all... mother's are there to love our kids. If it bother's you a lot tho you should look into another kind of routine. Maybe try to keep him up until 10 before you put him in bed. One thing that I have learned that really helps me with my daughter is when I run a nice warm bath for her RIGHT before bed. It kinda soothes her. Try that.
2007-10-09 00:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by ϑennaß 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's got you wrappe around his fingers, I would say toughen him up by leaving his room right away! He needs to get his sleep. Also during the day when he does this tell him to stop whining, and then move him to other and explain to him that you do not want him by you til he stos, then when he stos give him hugs and say thank you for not whining and tell him you love him. 2-year old should understand that. try putting him down closer to 8 so he's not overtired nd he may go to sleep better. Good luck.
2007-10-08 23:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by Baby Julie due 5/12 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He needs to have time to play on his own. You need to not to give into his fake cry. Leave him in his room. He had already learned that his fake cry gets him what he wants, so you need to shift gears and let him alone. It will take a week or so, but he will finally learn that these "Crying" jags are not going to work.
2007-10-08 22:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He's trying to see how far he has to go to get his way.
Stay consistent. And if he starts whining and you don't like it, you have to tell me "no whining" and be consistent.
Which is what you're doing.
It's hard but you seem to have a handle on it!
2007-10-08 22:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by autimom 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
kinda.you need to lay down the law.okay and i am not being mean because my child did the same.so don't be a push over.i am not being mean.
2007-10-08 22:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by m 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Heheh! No way! That's cute I think! He;s still little, and he'll want attention liek that for a while. No worries, you can't really spoil a child till they're older. All your attention will do is good things!
Good luck!
2007-10-08 22:35:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 4⤋