I have 2 guys friends that are brothers and are very close in age 23 and 22... And they have such hate towards eachother and it kills me to see this... It all started when they was kids . The oldest Ryan and Then Andre had somewhat a bad childhood . When they were kids there mom always treated one better than the other and till this day she does it and now they have this jealously towards eachother and i try to understand it but its kinda hard. Ryan isnt as Popular as Andre . Andre has always been the popular one and Ryan was the outsider the under dog and Andre was mean to him at school and mean to Ryans friends I know , I know very mean but that was when they was kids and now they are older and they still argue about it ... They fight over the tiniest things ... What can they do to make there relationship, Friendship better with one another ... They sometimes get along really well and have fun with eachother and then boom they start to argue ???????????
2007-10-08 15:17:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They will always be brothers even when they disagree. Leave it alone.
2007-10-08 15:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Daniel T 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, they have to be the ones wanting to make their relationship better. All your good intentions are pointless if they don't have the desire to get beyond childhood jealousies. If they do truly want to have a closer relationship, then their best option is to seek counseling so they can deal with the barriers that their mother helped to put between them as children. Unless they can talk openly with each other with a neutral, unbiased third party, they will never get beyond the demons of their past.
2007-10-08 22:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by squidsgirl97 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing I can say is what my mother told my brother and I growing up. Just remind them that no matter where they go or who they are with, brothers and sisters will always be there, friends come and go but family is forever. I hope they can let the past go, life is too short to live it angry all the time!
2007-10-08 22:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by kierasmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really think they should see a counsler for this they may be adults already but if they don't handle this righ now they never will and it will turn into more hate and if one of them takes it to far they might kill eachother.I also recommand them talking to their mother and to tell her that she should treat them equally.Well good luck and hope they get along better.
2007-10-08 22:23:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u said they have hate for each other and then u said they have fun with each other........maybe they have different fathers on the down low.........maybe you do not know the whole story.........maybe they need to tell whats bothering them in a separate group setting......and get the anger off their chest
2007-10-08 22:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing that you can do for them is to pray for them and seek out a pastors advice.and try explaining to them the essence of Love
2007-10-08 22:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
you didnt really explain a whole lot cause it sounds to me like they r just being brothers. me and my sister does this all the time. and we r really close. maybe u just dont know enough about them.
2007-10-08 22:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by tweety 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
me and my sisters have the same prob, but were over it...
they need to bond more to understand each other...
the way i see it.. their attitude is vice versa...
and tell them to put their jealousy in place... hehehe
and simple things, need simple understanding...
2007-10-08 22:29:49 · answer #8 · answered by MaYa_BeaR 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whatever it is, it is really their problem. stay out of it and find some other guy friend.
2007-10-08 22:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by cattbarf 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋