me, husband &baby where going to mall, husband was wearing dirty shirt from soccer so we planned: i go to mall from a door close 2 store 4 new shirt then they wait for me @ a restaurant close to entrance in mall to eat after...i did dat(but instead of walking through the mall to go to restaurant i went outside da same door and walk down 2 meet dem(trying to be quick and not bump into people in mall),waited 4 them 10 mins, did not c them,went outside thinking maybe they stll parked husband came ou tside from mall mad @ me saying. he was waiting 4 two mins then went through mall 2 meet me..claims he was trying 2 be nice ..he said a person would normally walk through mall and not out side ..there4 am wrong. wat u think..we already asked his brother this..he claims we both wrong but am mostly wrong...be really honest please
2007-10-08 15:15:19 · 20 answers · asked by **sweetbabe** 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
we not gettin a divorce or really mad over it am just curious.. need some opinion
2007-10-08 15:24:26 · update #1
The two of you can share this one. So both are.
2007-10-08 15:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does it matter anymore?? You both had to wait and search a bit, you found each other and the plan continued as originally stated..... why is it such a big deal?? learn to pick your fights...... this is really unimportant to argue over it.
Just for the sake of it..... I don't think any of you were wrong. I would have walked through the mall ONLY if it was the shortest way and it was not overly crowded. I hate to walk among people, bumping and stepping on their toes. If I could avoid this and walking outside the mall didn't mean making them wait for hours, I would have done it. Yeah I think he was also trying to save you some effort so he was nice too (i.e. not wrong), you were just unlucky that you didn't happen to be at the same place at the same time..... no biggie. It's not like your hubby had to wait for you for hours...... if he can't take that and he was a woman, he would have dumped my sweetheart A LOOOONG time ago.... he can be annoying, but I love him so I deal with it...!
2007-10-08 15:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lprod 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't sweat the small stuff!! You're worried about this? Yes, it was probably frustrating not knowing where he ran off to (and probably for him too, looking for you), but why get hung up on it?? Let it go... neither of you are right or wrong--sounds like you were both just frustrated that things didn't work out as nicely at the mall... these things happen. The best thing to do is not to let it get to you so you can focus on the important things (and if you hae a baby, then you should have plenty of important things to worry about, no?)
2007-10-08 15:20:46 · answer #3 · answered by April W 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
your both wrong and sound too young to be married. Who cares what your shirt looked like. Are you really that worried about what other people think. It is disagreements like this that get misconstrued and ad to this country's high divorce rate. You obviously have no communication skills with each other and that's why you need to be validated by others instead of just saying this is no issue and work on buying a house or saving for your kids college fund. you should be working something important. Oh yeah I almost forgot for you important is a dirty soccer shirt. See you in divorce court when you are fighting over child support payments or your child calling someone else daddy or mommy.
2007-10-08 15:26:13 · answer #4 · answered by Big Will 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you seem to be asking is was it okay for your husband to walk through the mall in his dirty shirt? Yes, in this instance. However, it is proper to be well-dressed or at least clean-dressed if just shopping, not looking for someone. Not to nag, but you'll probably get better answers if you clarify and use less shortcuts. It cn get rlly annoying and u r only making the situ8tion wrs.
2007-10-08 15:19:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
This was miscommunication all around. Learn to talk to each other. If you think someone does not understand what you said, (sometimes husbands do not listen too carefully) ask him to repeat back what you just said.
Good communication skills will serve you all your life, not just in your marriage.
2007-10-08 17:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Cat Lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is right....if you go to the mall..You walk inside thru the mall..not outside.. commons sense would say you were in the mall. I would be mad too
2007-10-08 15:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
since he was supposed to meet and wait for you at the restraurant, then he is in the wrong a lil. and i do see your conveiance of going outside to keep from bumping into people, but this is just a missunderstanding, kiss and make up. and laugh about it in a couple of days.
2007-10-08 15:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by smilest_16_2002 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all seems like an honest mistake. Kinda sounds like everyone was alittle wrong
2007-10-08 15:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel C. 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you both deserve each other. Judging by what you wrote and the way you expressed yourself, it seems that both of you are morons.
2007-10-08 16:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋