he is saying that he doesnt have the time or energy for me right now ....i would do anything for him and i feel like he doesnt care...even though he tells me he still loves me i am having doubts but i love him so much...i want to play hard to get i am sick of feeling like this and having him treat me like crap when i am waiting on him and hoping he calls me :(
2007-10-08 13:51:52 · 12 answers · asked by Jul 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Listen...even though it is going to hurt you to do this..you should try if you really want to have him. Do NOT come to him everytime he calls...is he always around when you need him? if he calls your cell, don't answer...don't answer...don't answer. At the end of the day or something you can answer, and say you were out with friends...
Go out with your girlfriends, meet new people.
Look the best you can everytime you are around him! let him realize you look goood, and another guy will be happy to take you away from him, and treat you the right way.
Do NOT smother him with "I love you's, and I need you"..as sad as it is...it will push him away. Let him come to you, and gradually let him back into your life.
2007-10-08 14:00:52 · answer #1 · answered by BeLLa24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is everything bad that you wrote about, what do you love about him? He says he does not have the time or energy for you(a big clue to his feeling for you),he does not care, he treats you like crap, what is there to love. While I will be the first one to admit that , for the most part, we can not choose whom we fall in love with, we most certainly can choose our actions and how we want to be treated. My suggestion to you is to love yourself a little bit more than you've done so far, have more self respect, caring, and faith that you deserve better than you are currently getting. Hence consider ending this unproductive romance with a guy who has made it clear he does not want you, and who is not the only guy in the world.Find your self a man who, to use your own words, has a heart.
2007-10-08 14:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play hard to get.
If you love him and believe he loves you too and aren't worried about cheating/etc, then accept that he doesn't have time/energy right now.
Give him his own time. Give him time to relax.
He's probably really stressed out over something, and having you there upset at him all the time is only going to push him away from you. Give him some time, without being all girly and crying on the phone because you miss him - and, I bet it will all work out.
2007-10-08 13:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this same feeling more then you know. I am in the same boat right now. I feel like he dosnt want to be around me and he wont tell me what is going on and what is wrong, he tells me he still loves me too but sometimes i dont belive it. And i love him so much i have been with him for almost 6 years.
All i can say to you is if you really love him to hold on. Try to talk to him ask him why he dosnt have the time and energy. But don't be clingy, i know its hard, try and let him come to you. and if anything works please let me know.
2007-10-08 13:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then stop calling him, stop talking to him, communicate the idea that you aren't so happy with the way he is treating you. And then he will finally see how you are treating him and he will ask you what's wrong and tell him that you don't like the way he is treating you... But if he still doesn't get it and treats your relationship seriously then break up with him and knock some sense into him >.<
2007-10-08 13:56:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You obviously must enjoy him treating you like crap or you would leave him and find someone to treat you better and don't blame him on what he does because you allow him to be that way to you period... Stop being hateful to yourself and find someone else who will treat you the way you want to be treated...
2007-10-08 13:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by I Heart 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Become very unavailable. Turn off your cell phone. Go out with your friends. Be busy! Life is too short to want someone who isn't making you happy....there are so many fish in the sea!!!! GO FISHING!!!!!!
2007-10-08 13:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by Kim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit near him in class, but don't speak to him.
Flirt with another guy and make him jealous! He may start to realize that he really does like you.
2007-10-08 13:58:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i knew the answer to this i am having the same exact problem with my boy friend and i wish i could just ignore him but i care to much you know? ... if you find an answer let me know
2007-10-08 13:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make him jealous. get one of your guy friends to play along.
2007-10-08 14:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by V H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋