The "Ask a girl out Process"?

Question

So there's a bunch of "steps" I guess to asking a girl out right?
I mean, first, you have to meet her, maybe talk to her etc. Then eventually, you gather enough courage to ask her out, and things go on from there. So for me, there's this girl, I've seen her a couple of times, not many, because we go to different schools, but we IM a lot, and we share lots of the same interests. I was considering asking her out, but I feel like I'm being too hasty, and that I should get to know her better first, but I also don't want to run into the friend zone, what do you think I should do? I am pretty sure she is interested in me, and I really really like her, and I don't really want to screw it up.

Ok, so I was going to ask her out to a movie, but there really isn't anything good out, any alternatives, I mean, there's a restaurant a group of us including me and her that we really love to go, you think that would work? Also, I should probably ask her in person or phone? definately not IM right?

Answer 1

My friend, ask her out!

That said, it's all about timing, and meaning. You want to get to know her in the most relaxing environments as possible. If you're both relaxed, you're both more likely to be yourselves, thus reducing awkward moments.

Don't try to get to know her IN the movie theater, but try to get to know her by finding out what kind of movies she likes, then eventually find one you both want to see and then just go!

Ask her casually to go do things that are a bit more major that what you might do with a casual friend, but minor enough that you're both comfortable and not under any stress.

Go to the beach and chase birds for fun. Go to a park and swing and just talk. Go bowling with a group of friends, but keep her close and engage her in conversation. Go ice skating; if you both suck at it, you'll have the greatest time falling all over each other, and helping each other up!

Go out for Jamba juice or ice cream, and then go look at the stars. If you are into dancing, go do that together.

Whatever you do, in all of it, be yourself, and be a gentleman. Open doors for her, but don't do it in a way that suggests you are trying to get attention or "points" with her. Walk on the outside when walking down the street or sidewalk with her (you're "protecting" her). And whenever you are feeling nervous, just think about the reasons why you like her, and give her genuine compliments.

Most importantly, remember to have fun, and be fun. You can be serious when you're in the classroom or at work!

Hope this helps!

Answer 2

If you are comfortable enough to talk online, you have to make a move right now. Ask her on a low-risk date that she can't really say no to (coffee/lunch). Try and flirt and not settle into the friend zone (which is what you are doing by not asking her out and IMing her). At lunch/coffee, talk about movies and mention one that you wanted to see, then see if she is also interested. Ask her to go with you and make plans right there for the next date. The best way to ask for lunch is on the phone and not on IM. Just make up an excuse for not being able to be online and say, do you mind if I call you?

Answer 3

I know this might be hard to hear, but don't worry about screwing it up. You already know this girl is interested in you as a person, so don't waste any more time. Go for what you want, be confident, and don't worry so much about "doing the right thing". What I'm trying to say is don't think so much, just be, and most of all be happy and fun. If I may quote one of the most influential minds of our time -Cindy Lauper- "girls just want to have fun". And that is all you should also be looking for, a fun time with a girl you could just be yourself with. If she shoots you down, know you are not the first, and you wont be the last, it might sting for a moment, just know that everything will be ok, and never let bitterness overtake you.

Answer 4

The "friend zone" is a total myth - if someone finds you attractive that doesn't change. You're right to take the time to get to know her but if you're exchanging IM's a lot, and the fact that you have her address its a pretty sure sign she's interested. Take the chance and ask her out on a date! Good luck!

Answer 5

Well The Best way to go about this is first casually ask her to a movie (when you are talking and having a very good convo)
And if she says yes and you both seem to enjoy things will come together! But DONT RUSH but also DO NOT waste a good opportunity to ask her out!

Answer 6

thats ultra crappy you both go to differant schools. It does lower your chances of getting a yes but I really think you need to get to know her better. Thats kinda like the ppl you meet at school and 1 week later they ask you out and wonder why they got a no. Get to know her.....and then ask her out. Yes lol watch out for the friends zone. Alot of girls feel weird dating ppl they have always been friendzy with...but it doesnt really matter if you both really like each-other right?

Answer 7

1. Get to know her more and make sure you really like her
2. Look hot
3.say "well...are you avalible tonight because i was thinking uh we could have dinner or go see a movie or something"
4. Be funny,look hot,make her laugh she will fall for you if where you guys are is rommantic and you might just lean into eachother and kiss if not then (step 5)
5.say "do you want to you know..go out?"

Answer 8

I think personally you should hang out with her a couple of times first. Like go on "dates" but just dont call it a date, and if she seems like she really likes you (cuz it would suck to be rejected) you should ask her out at the end of the day

Answer 9

Ask her to meet up with you. When you meet look for things like if she goes to hug and touch you on the hand, sholder or leg and if she looks you in the eyes, if she does these things this usually means she likes you back, and if not keep IMing her and try and build it up that way but don't push it. If she doesn't like you in that way then theres nothing you can do

Answer 10

Just ask her if she wants to go to a movie or something or just talk to her more. Then once you feel more comfortable ask her out. By saying, "do you want to go out with me". But dont say that the first time just ask her if she wants to hang out or something... HOPE THAT HELPS GOOD LUCK!