Well my boyfriend and i just stated to go out and before he was all like sweet and stuff to me like he would be like i miss u and i love u and stuff, but now that we go out he doesnt do that stuff as much as he use to.
Iam I doing something wrong?
Does he not wanna be with me?
2007-10-08 12:55:37 · 21 answers · asked by Blackberry. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This isn't a movie or a trashy romance novel, this is the real world. Well, like you said, he has you now. I'm sure he still feels the same way about you. You just need to chill out. What does he need to do tricks for, to keep you interested? If that's what you want, let him know that. G
2007-10-08 12:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be interested to know how old you are. Age says a lot about the maturity level you are dealing with. There is nothing wrong with being young and immature. It is not a bad thing as we all were at one time and is a part of our development. Unfortunately being young, one is more emotionally influenced by chemicals and hormones running through their bodies than reason.
But here are a few things that occur at all ages; first, we all have infatuations with someone when the relationship is new. Every new experience is exhilarating; the first kiss, holding hands, cuddling. Soon these experiences don't hold the same power they used to. When someone is not fully emotionally stable (in the truest sense of the word, not the extreme negative meaning it tends to hold today) they may seek that exhilaration again with someone else. When someone is more mature, stable and willing to commit to a relationship the love grows and changes into something different. It becomes more of a deeper caring of the other and a sense of security .
I don't know enough about your situation but every couple has to deal with boredom. They only have to put forth the effort to do new things and refreshen the relationship. But no one should have to change for the other. Don't try to be someone you are not. It never works. Sex is great but it does not take you to that next level unless you are both emotionally secure in the relationship and mature enough to know the difference between real love and the selfish need for self-gratification that sex can be.
And finally, not all relationships are meant to be. Know when to call it quits and move on. You are not doing anything wrong. Never think otherwise.
I didn't mean to ramble on so long. I really hope this helps.
2007-10-08 21:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by zengunner8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ages? Sometimes a significant factor, but:
When he used to miss you were you doing things that you enjoyed while you were apart? Sometimes when people get together they think they have to be together 100% of the time and they lose who they were (the person he was attracted to).
It's not your fault and it's not his fault. As long as neither of you are cheating or abusive... Try doing something to spark curiosity and pizaz back into the relationship, or revisit the things you enjoyed that made you interesting. Then you may hear, "you seem so busy lately...you don't have time for me... i miss you!"
It's a hard balance but it should come naturally for good couples, but requires a little work for those with complex personalities.
Or...ask him if he is going through something, even if it's private and tell him that you will listen if ever he wants to share.
Good luck.
2007-10-08 20:04:35 · answer #3 · answered by armani.lamar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably doesn't flirt and say things like that because he already got you!Since you guys are BF and GF, what you say to eachother is not really flirting anymore because you guys are going out. The best thing though, is to ask him. That is the only way to get the real truth. Or if you don't really want to, find a really close guy friend, and talk to him. He knows how a guy thinks because he of course...is a guy!!If he has a successful relationship with someone else that has been goin on for a while..well then thats even better.He could prob. even give you a few pointers on what guys like or how to act!But overall, the best thing is to talk to him in person..not on AOL,or texting, or on myspace.. that doesn't work. So good luck and happy relationship!!
2007-10-08 20:08:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe your relationship is starting to lose its novelty. Your boyfriend is taking you for granted. He probably believes he does not have to do all of those things anymore because you are his now. I do not think it is your fault it is just males just like me forget what really made you like us. We tend to think nothing can go wrong now. I think you should have a chat with your boyfriend and tell him whats on your mind and let him know how it makes you feel. If he understands and truely cares he will continue to make an effort to work on this issue. If not then kick him to the curb. There are plenty of other guys that will continue to make an effort through out the rerlationship not just in the start of the relationship.
2007-10-08 20:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by seamonkey_has_da_loot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had a conversation about this. Guy's need space sometimes...it's healthy to go and do your own thing. If he doesn't want to be with you he'll dump you. Don't seem needy, be yourself and be independent. A good relationship is one with trust in it. Trust him and love him yourself...don't feel that your loosing value by not hearing all the small indications, notice the big things. Just have fun with dating.
2007-10-08 20:04:29 · answer #6 · answered by breadmayker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im not a guy but its a typical thing to happen in relationships. its nothing ur doing wrong. just b/c u hooked him doesnt mean u should stop flirting so keep it going grl! lol i've been dating my guy for over a year and a half ad i still flirt and play hard to get sometimes and it drives him crazy! lol ~xox good luck!
2007-10-08 20:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Erin Elaine. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might just be super comfortable with you and not feel the need to always be sweet and impressing for you. On the other hand, he may be thinking about someone else or rethinking your guys' relationship. I would just ask him.
2007-10-08 19:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Baby girl,,,,,,,,when you first start a relationship,it's always great,you're floating on clouds and everything,,,,,but after so long,,,,,when one starts to change,,,,they really are showing their true colors,,,,that's what you'll be dealing with to the end,,,,,,my best advise to you is,,,,if he's doing or saying something you don't like,,address it right then and there,,,,,don't hold it in at all,,,,,,,,guy's will do what you allow them to do,,,,,,females,,,,,,we have the ability to mold a man to what we want our man to be,,,,,if you see no change in him in the next month,,,,then he's shown you he's not the one for you!!!!!!!!!!!! Good Luck Sweetheart!!!!!!
2007-10-08 20:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by Jazzy Red 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably lost interest in you already. Try talking to him about that, but if that doesn't help, MOVE ON. I wouldn't waste my time on a guy that's not giving me enough love and attention.
2007-10-08 19:59:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋