Ok, so I can't ever do it. I wish I could just leave my husband. I am 34 weeks pregnant and have a 3 year old. My husband is so nice to our son, but treats my like crap in front of him, for example my son will say "moms crying, moms sad". And my husband will say "Your mom is crazy, she's psycho". Which just makes me cry more. And I can't ever turn to my son and say I'm crying because of your dad. Or your dad is so mean to me. I can't he will yell at me and say why are you crying in front of your son. You are sick, demented, insane. Look what you are doing to him.
Its like the more he yells at me, the harder it is for me to leave him. I cry all the time, and he has no feelings. He can't ever say Sorry, just calls me more names. I feel like if I leave I'm the bad guy, I'm walking out on are marriage.
And the other thing is I'm a Stay at home mom, and I can't work being 34 weeks pregnant. And so if I leave him, where am I going to go. I have no famliy and no money.
2007-10-08 12:35:35 · 10 answers · asked by ml 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One other thing to add, 2 years ago we were fighting and I threw a dirty diaper at him. As soon as it hit him in the stomach, he punched me. I had him arrested. He wasn't allowed to see us for 3 months, while he went through parenting, alcohol, and abuse classes. So now, instead of hitting me he just finds other ways to abuse me. I'm just at the point were I don't ever see him changing. But yet I have such a hard time leaving because of my son. He loves his dad so so so much!
2007-10-08 12:56:03 · update #1
It is called verbal abuse and he can get in trouble for it. Call a woman's helpline and pack your things, your children, and go. Do you want your children growing up learning to act like him? No! Show your son and unborn child that you are not weak and get out.
2007-10-08 12:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, what's the problem with leaving? Yes, you're pregnant and a 3 year old, but so are many other women and they left to get out of an abusive situation. If you have no family, there are shelters, talk to a friend and ask if you can stay until you deliver and then get a job. If your husband is so abusive, why would you ever think that "your the bad person" for leaving??????? Just imagine how much worse it can and probably will get if you continue to stay. You need to call a crisis hotline, see your pastor/priest, but whatever you do, you need to run!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
2007-10-08 12:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by ferbie1sully 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do leave him, you WILL NOT be the bad guy in this situation. The way he treats you is reason enough to get away from that idiot monster. If you continue to stay, you'll be exposing your son to more monstrous behavior from your husband, and he might grow up to be like his father you DO NOT want to take that risk. Pack up your belongings, your kids get away from that monster RIGHT NOW!! Your husband is abusing you, and he might start abusing the kids I don't believe you really want to deal with that mess. Good Luck. And everyone else get a "thumbs-up" from me.
2007-10-08 13:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie....I am 28 and was married for 9 years....Sounds like a rerun of my marriage...You do not want to involve the child..And he does...And insults you mentally...See My husband was a good father but a suck husband.....It took me years to get out of the relationship cause I felt obligated to make it work for the child and for our marriage...But fed up is fed up..Once he teaches your child your mental stability is off your child will grow to do the same thing..It is a learned behavior...Go get some help threw the county I know it sounds degrading but I pay taxes and when needed do it...But consider you are up in pregnancy and may be going threw mood swings and hormonal changes....Just don't wast life unhappy..Or talk to him about how you feel..But I always felt I was talking to the wall with my first husband....Good Luck sweetie,,,,
2007-10-08 12:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by getagrip 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the last thing you should worry about is money...
i know you have a child and u r pregnant, but i would rather get out and give my son a better life than to stay there and let an inconsiderate a**hole treat me like ****. once you're out of the relationship then you worry about where you are financially. i m sure you have somebody to take you in until you are ready. Besides, why don't you tell him to leave??? you have his kid and one on the way... u need a place to live more than he does!!!
2007-10-08 12:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by kk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your story is really making me cry, but instead my husband beat me. I just somehow couldn't let him go until I just snapped. I took all his clothes and threw them out my house and stood at the door with a knife. And I never seen him again. I'm for real , i went crazy on him. Just stop crying, it just makes it worse, once he see that you are now stronger than he will just not go to that level anymore.
2007-10-08 13:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by Raven C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other person. Youve got to get out of that situation it is not good for you or anybody. There are many people out there willing to help people in you situation please get yourself out of there. verbal abuse can turn into something even worse and I know you do not want it to go further. there are local and national help lines do an internet search and find one then give them a call and get out of the situation as soon as possible
2007-10-08 12:44:01 · answer #7 · answered by babybg_one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to your husband to explain how he makes you feel and suggest that you go to marriage counseling. If he refuses, you should develop an exit plan to separate. Planning is critical to your leaving. The current environment is not healthy for you or your children.
2007-10-08 12:41:47 · answer #8 · answered by creolesongbird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the portugese have a saying" better alone then in bad company" normally I stand up for the guy in divorce but in my experience I always made the ammends you need to make when you date a women who has kids. they have to come first plain and simple. if you got divorced would you be able to survive? what about alimony and support, would he pay it? definiately stand up for yourself, your having a kid for God's sake and he needs to be a man. it's good that he's good to your 3 year old but if you haven't cheated on him he needs to show you respect too. give him an ultimatum, either he shapes up or you walk.
2007-10-08 12:47:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your beat down that's why you cant leave, Get a plan, Don't have anymore babies....Get a plan to get out.
2007-10-08 13:39:04 · answer #10 · answered by dontknow86 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋