please help.. please?

Question

okay um. im 13 and ever since i saw this movie, ( give or take a month or so) ive worried about like growing up becoming like crazy and hurting someone. and likee.. i think like wow yur going to go crazy soon and hurt that person. but i love that person to death. i would never want to hurt them. When I stopped worrying about it for about a month, i never thought of this.. but when it started again. it bothers me so bad. some nights i cry myself to sleep. im happy when im occupied. and dont think about it as much. i think i may need therapy? but id know how to bring it up. or can someone give me some advice? and like. i dunno why im thinking this. it scares me. id want to ever do that


oh btw i saw the movie like in april june or july.. idk

Answer 1

It's a scary thought, and it's normal to worry about things like that sometimes - like worrying about death. Talking about it with someone you trust might help you to stop thinking about it so much, and ease your mind that it probably won't happen to you.

Obviously the movie scared you. Remember that they tend to over-exagerate things in movies. While what you saw may be the case with some people, mental illness does not always lead to violence (although I think it's still scary enough anyway).

Answer 2

Sounds like someone was watching a movie that they should'nt have been watching. This is why they rate movies Bud, some films aren't appropriate for children - and it sounds like you've found that out, the hard way.

OK, enough of that. I take it that you have not talked to yout folks about this? If you did do you think they would help you get professional counseling? If not, how about a school counselor, or a favorite teacher? You need to find an adult you can trust to help you. I agree that you probably do need the help of a child psychatrist , but your are stil - at some point going to need your parents approval to get entered into a program, unless you commit some crime or act of violence against your self - or others. (PLEASE DO NOT do this - any act of agression to get help will only complicate matters, and you need therapy and treatment - not incarceration and sedation doping. In the meantime, get a notebook, and start recording your thoughs, worries, dreams, fantasies, track the times of day when anything happens, the last time you ate, anything stressful that may have triggered a thought - etc, Give this ledger to your Psychatrist and go over it with him ., LOL. I'm pulling for ya - were all in this together,

Answer 3

Ok, as a Certified Therapist my opinion is that you are not crazy. You simply saw a movie that has had a profound effect on you. At 13 your imagination is quite powerful, as it should be. At times things will seem to be too real for you. I think you should just laugh it off and get about the business of being 13. Remember it was just a movie and nothing more.

There is no reason for you to be afraid or scared.

You are just young and impressionable. I don't read hate in your post and I think you are worrying about nothing.

If you have more questions feel free to drop me an email and we can talk in private. I am curious as to what movie you saw.

Answer 4

At 13 you are still a child and think like a child. You will develop rapidly in the coming years but, for now, avoid movies that are aimed at adults, they are not designed for young mentalities. If you are really worried see a doctor or someone at school and ask to speak to a Child Psychologist. They will talk to you about your fears and analyse what worries you and, hopefully, offer you a solution or some comfort. Childish emotions are very strong but, believe me, as you get older and become more mature you will find that they can be controlled and the fears you are now experiencing will go away.

Answer 5

Some movies aren't appropriate for you because they make you feel the way you do now. I am an adult, and I won't watch movies that make me feel bad or squirmish. I like movies that make me feel good or teach me something about life
If you having as much of a problem as you seem to be having, I think you should go to one of your parents and tell them how you are feeling. They will either help you to feel better about the situation, or they will take you to get some help if that is what is needed. They would know much better than we on this website because they know you, and they know what's best for you good luck, and please talk with an adult that you trust and know, okay

Answer 6

Just focus on the fact that its just a movie and act as normal as possible. Think positive about the person that bothers you. Its not good to hurt people, as much as they seem to do stuff to hurt us. But most of the time it's really just some misunderstanding.

Just act as normal as you did before you watched that movie and be understanding towards the person. And remember movies are just movies.

Answer 7

Ask your parents to take you to a counselor. Just tell them you need to talk about things if you don't want to tell them what you are thinking about. Then tell the counselor. I think you will find this isn't that unusual.
Additionally: some on here are telling you not to worry about it; others think you need to see a psychiatrist. Perhaps both are right. But I think your feelings are really not that unusual, and that if you can find out what really is behind them at a young age, you will be well served in your future. A school or other counselor might help you explore them, and help you find yourself.
Oh - um, no offense meant to anyone, but hypnotherapy is not generally considered very useful, especially for a situation pretty normal in teens. I personally wouldn't set much store in advice given by them

Answer 8

Since this movie is actually interfering with your life, I think you should tell your mom. She loves you unconditionally and you are very good at expressing yourself (evidenced by your articulate question), so she will understand. When a fear 'messes with' our life, like making us not sleep, or affecting school it is time for a bit of therapy. You will learn the tools to deal with this and other problems. Best of luck!

Answer 9

You're not going crazy and you won't hurt anybody. Some movies have a powerful effect on people and it takes a long time to get it out of your mind. Don't worry about it.

-MM

Answer 10

I think that you feel like this because something happened in your life. Like maybe u have problems with getting close to ppl. Like i used to think i was cursed cause it always seemed like everytime i loved someone something would happen so like i went totally depressed and everything.. I dont think you need therapy but i do think you should try and figure out why you feel like this because there is a reason, even if you dont know it. Try this. relax on like your bed and light some candles. just lay there and think. it also helps if you have some scent that soothes you.. and just try to understand. because if you dont figure it out now it could hurt you later. Good luck with that