Theres this girl thats "oh my god" in love with my bf. They use to kind of talk in a more than friends way a while back but things didnt work out I'm guessing because she lives like 6hrs away from us in his hometown that he visits from time to time. We've gotten into a fight before about her because I simply asked him what was up with the two of them and he flipped saying she was just a good friend. What the F^%^ ever i KNOW he liked her at some point and i know shes madly in love with him.
Well today i went to comment him on his myspace and i saw that she left a response comment on his myspace. i know it was a response because she said stuff like she was answering some questions that he probably left on her myspace.
He says he loves me and blah blah blah but if he knows that I dont like them talking because of the history they have why would he continue talking to her. I'm not talking to any of the guys I liked and it didnt work out with, just out of respect. You know?
2007-10-08 10:46:13 · 17 answers · asked by TheLight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've never said anything about any other girls but this ONE.
Reasons:
1.When me and him first starting talking he said that out of all the ppl he knew, he felt that she knew him the most. That he wouldnt even have to say anything and she would already know what he was thinking. I backed off after that but he still chased me. (THEY STARTED TALKING AROUND THE TIME ME AND HIM STARTED TALKING).
2. When i stayed the night at his house this wkend on his dressers theres a mirror. I was brushing my hair and there folded into the mirror in plain sight was a ticket stub of a movie i know he went and saw with her.
2007-10-08 10:46:45 · update #1
maybe, he flipped out because he just doesn't want you to talk about it. my bf (also a virgo (you answered my question and told me that ur bf was a virgo) just so you don't think i'm stalking you or something...lol...) well, my bf also flipps out when i ask him about this girl he liked when we hadn't met... but i guess they just react like that to questions like that....
as far as you getting upset over this, i think you should just let it go, i've learned this the hard way with my bf...
and you should talk to him and tell him you don't like him talking to her, but i think he considers her a friend... but of course, she's all in love with him, so i think he shouldn't talk to her... just out of respect, like you did it... i think i would freak out if my bf starts talking with that girl again...
talk to him and tell him what you think... he'll understand!!! good luck, hope this helps!!! : )
2007-10-10 02:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by mari... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, never tell a guy he can't have friends, even if they are of the opposite sex. The bigger you make the deal, the more they will talk. Remember when Mom said don't do that, and you had to find out what she was talking about, same thing. Do the opposite and get to know the girl, if she knows him that well, then maybe you should get to know him that well also. My husband and I had a very good friend, when my husband died, we continued the friendship, he got married, but I was the threat, because she didn't know me, since then we have gotten to know each other and it is great, because I still have a friendship with a new one to go along with it. It can be a very positive thing.
2007-10-08 17:56:05 · answer #2 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should calmly talk with your BF and let him know how you feel. It sounds like this chick could be trouble. The chances of him visiting home, getting smashed with her and making a drunk move on her seem high.
Sit him down, let him know you want to have a discussion and not a fight. Just let him know how you feel, don't pass judgement on slutty slut pants.
If he feels no need to take your feelings into consideration you should reallly look at your relationship and ask yourself if what you have is good.
He likes this other girl but I think you still have a fighting chance.
2007-10-08 17:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Cheri H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you are being overly sensitive and controlling over another part of your boyfriend's life. Control is NOT love. It's just control and people who control are horribly insecure and have very low self esteem.
Instead of being so upset about your boyfriend talking to someone, begin to talk to him yourself. Tell him you want to be his good friend too. You can't love somebody anyway until you ARE their best friend first.
Anyway, concentrate on yourself and your own relationship with your boyfriend and knock off the petty jealousy. You'll lose in a battle of your own making if you continue 'making book' on his every move and reading something into everything he does or who he talks to irregardless of previous relationships.
He's not the one in trouble, you are because you're losing the opportunity to make your mark with the guy and your spending all your time, bitchin' about a friend of his who happens to be another girl. It's petty and he'll soon tire of all the crap.
2007-10-08 17:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by autumlovr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you approached the matter calmly like you expressed you did, then why does he have reason to be provoked into such anger?? hmmmm . . my guess is while the cats away the mice will play. . i know thats really hard to hear because i have had similar issues like urs in the past so from my experience, dump him girl. dump his a$$ right now, if he doesn't respect your feelings the way u have his, is he worth all the energy? Life is too short so i like this phrase ("4uck the bull.$h!t") seriously!!
2007-10-08 17:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by meagan m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say, but he likes the girl. The number one sign is that he flipped out when you asked about the two of them! An innocent guy would have just laughed it off and said no no we are just friends, not get angry about it.
2007-10-08 17:53:12 · answer #6 · answered by anon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stop acting like that.the only thing the man told you that she was a really good friend. you should be able to respect his frindship with her .you talking about all the stuff he told you but did he tell you that he had sex with her no just trust the ,and stop thinking negtive.you shouldn't think like that unless you saw him having sex with her. (beside it would be wrong for him to break off a friend ship with someone just because you can't trust him)
2007-10-08 18:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, tht ticket stub killed it for me. I dont think ur over reacting AT ALL!u should really tlk to him, even if u trust him, tell him u cant trust her. but dont force him to tell u everything about him like he says tht girl does. confide more in him and maybe hell do the same. dont try to break thm off, it usually has the opposite effect.
2007-10-08 17:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be concerned that he's being defensive about her and not being open and honest. Regardless of what his relationship with her may be, he's not communicating with you, and showing a lack of respect for your feelings.
They may very well BE just friends, but his defensiveness -- assuming you're not being confrontational or demanding when you've mentioned him -- would have me very concerned, mostly because I would think he doesn't respect my feelings.
2007-10-08 17:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wake up to this situation.
He loves this girl, but she lives six hours away and its convenient to have you on the side for sex.
Do yourself a favor and find another guy who will give you all of his attention.
2007-10-08 17:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by JazzE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋