I was living with my boyfriend for six months. We were so happy until three months into the relationship. Then he suddenly started having some fianancial problems. He started having some bad mood swings. I went out of town for a vacation and work related conference about three weeks ago and was gone for only a week. When I returned he told me that he was having to move and needed me to get my things out. I asked him what happened and he did not make any sense and said that he might have to move out of state for another job and that the company he worked for was folding. So I moved back to my home. He is moving into a townhouse in another city 30 miles away. He took a job there just this past week. He and I got together this past weekend and everything seemed ok, and he had to leave to take care of getting his townhouse ready to move into. He kissed me when he left but later that evening when I called him, he would not answer my calls. I have not heard from him. What happened?
2007-10-08 10:24:16 · 34 answers · asked by koobeedoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for sharing your problem,what happen? only your boyfriend can answer that,as for you sweetheart! is time to move on,don't waste any more time cos life is short,
2007-10-08 10:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by thenetsurfer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like to me that he has more than just financial troubles. He move to another place where he can find work or work near his home. OK now that's understandable, but he suppose to have a girlfriend who cares about him also. See just because your job folded and you need to do whatever you can to make it, he still have someone who cares about him. That's why I say it's not just that his job folded and he move to another town to work, he has something else going on and he just don't know how to explain it to you or just get right to the point. Trust me on this, you gone always hear from your boyfriend if he really loves you...no matter what the situation is especially if he doesn't have any thing to hide, but in your case he does..
2007-10-08 10:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by bert bert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very strange... well, just to rule things out, are there any signs of drug problems or gambling problems? Even if you're pretty sure of it, think about it again and be absolutely sure. People with these kinds of problems can be pretty good at hiding it.
So drugs/alcohol/gambling aside, this is possibly the way he's handling his difficult situation... while it's odd, a lot of people just want to be left alone when they're depressed and stressed out with work/financial problems. You say you just moved in with your boyfriend, so I'm assuming you're young and he is too. Life is very different when you're out on your own and having to deal with financial issues. When you factor that into a relationship, it certainly changes things. He may not know how to incorporate you into his life fully... problems and all.
I think you need to confront the situation and see what's going on. Ask him if he wants to continue this relationship or not... if you intend on continuing this relationship, he HAS to change. He can't alienate you like he's doing now. Your relationship won't work if he shuts you out like he's doing... get the facts and see what his REAL problem is. If he doesn't want to tell you, you should really move on. It's not fair for him to treat you that way.
2007-10-08 10:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is not man enough to break up with you. I would just confront him and ask him if the separation is solely due to his financial situation or if he wants to end your relationship. If it is the later, ask him why if you want but I would not bother. If he was not man enough to at least tell you the truth, he is not worth your time. I know it will be hard but just move on and find one of those other fish in the sea! You may find out that him leaving you was the best thing that ever happened to you.
Also No sex unless you get all your answers first! Because you probably will not want to after you get the true answers because sex will not make him a good man or change his mind. It will just complicate things because you will think he still cares when in fact he is just using you.
2007-10-08 10:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by B. D Mac 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-06 08:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. Sounds to me like he's moved on and you should, too. Sounds harsh, but you don't need some sugar-coated BS right now. You need the hard truth. You deserve better than someone that would get that self-involved.
Good luck!!!
2007-10-08 10:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by Beth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, men are weird. We all know that. I think he doesn't want this relationship anymore, but just is such a coward that doesn't want to tell you. So he is "slow dumping" you. Basically will start ignoring you thinking that you'll forget about him and let him go. I hate it when guys do that, but they do. I wish they were man enough to just tell you that they don't want you anymore. But men rarely speak the truth.
I'm sorry honey. good luck.
GG
2007-10-08 10:32:01 · answer #7 · answered by GucciGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand men sweetie. It is really hard to tell. Maybe you should slowly back off and work on protecting your heart from being broken. Something doesn't sound right. I wish you the best.
2007-10-08 10:28:13 · answer #8 · answered by Nina1999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has another girl he might be interested in and things are not for sure yet so he wnats to keep you around just in case, sorry but thats the honest truth, guys don't need space, or time to think is all bullshit, he is just interested in someone else
2007-10-08 10:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably really feeling bummed about his job. Some men really get their identity from their work. And if he feels he's not pulling his weight he may feel pretty bad too. Sounds like he may be a good guy. Just let him know he's got your support and that you don't look at him any differently if his income goes down a little or he is in between jobs, just as long as he's trying.
2007-10-08 10:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by nightcricket 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Let him go. If a relationship starts out in drama, no good will ccome of it. Walk away and be glad there are no "burdens" for you to be stuck with.
2007-10-08 10:29:07 · answer #11 · answered by LadyPerk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋