I Visited This Woman Not Meaning To Have Sex?

Question

I lied to my girlfriend so that I could get out of the apartment and visit this woman. It wasn't my fault though because this woman is always flirting. She came to my house late one night and I didn't do anything with her until now. My girlfriend found
out about the whole thing last week and left me. What should I say to my girlfriend to get back with her especially since the whole thing was not my fault?

Answer 1

This whole question sounds made up - what person has sex willingly and then says- "it wasn't my fault" lol! Grow up ding dong!

IT JUST FELL IN... I SWEAR

Answer 2

So let me get this straight, it wasn't your fault that you had sex with another woman? Did this woman tie you up and magically get you erect so that she could have sex with you? Last time I checked I don't think you could be forced to do that unless you were attracted to someone. Which this is the case, as every case in infidelity, so why don't you begin by admitting this mistake to yourself and say you F'd up. This was probably more your fault than it was the other woman's fault because the difference is you have a girlfriend, your in the so-called monogamous relationship, your were the one your girlfriend trusted to be with you and now that you didn't do those things, she left you. Do you blame the girl? Can you imagine if she were to read this question, think about that for a second. Do you think she would take you back just by you saying, "the whole thing was not my fault". You know its kinda like someone who abuses a substance, the first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem, well here's your chance admit to yourself that you screwed up. Then if she gives you the time of day, admit it to her and if your lucky she might give you that second chance. If not then move on, learn from this experience, and make sure you never do it again.

Answer 3

Not your fault? I don't know what planet you live on, but here on Earth there is this thing callled making decisions for yourself. Did this woman tie you down and make you cheat on your girlfriend? Did she hold a gun to your head? If the answer to these questions is no, then it was your fault. Just because she was flirting with you doesn't mean you had to cheat. Your girlfriend was smart to leave you. Hopefully she is smart enough she won't take you back. Why not try to have some self control next time and not be a cheater.

Answer 4

Wow dats sucks man. I hate a cheater and worst yet u won't even take responsibility for 'YOU' cheating. YOU were the one who lied to go to this woman's house, YOU were the one who let the woman in the house even though u knw she's a flirt, so i think subconsciously you wanted to screw her so YOU keep putting yourself in positions where this would be possible and then YOU lied about it happening by not admitting to your girlfriend immediately after it happended but lettin her find out on her own. There's nothing you can tell her to make her take you put if u keep acting like you had nothing to do with the whole sex act with the other woman like mysteriously your dick found itself in this womans Hold. Be a man and own u cheated. Leave ure Gf alone, let her be, if u love her so much let her go cuz she deserves better than a man who cheats on her and then expects her to be stupid enough to believe it wasn't his fault.

Answer 5

Get real!!!! It takes two to tango.
You are responsible for YOUR actions. No one makes you do anything you don't want to. You are weak, and you thought by putting the blame on this woman for flirting, it would give you an excuse for sex on the side.
You have done more than just having sex. You lied when you left the apartment to see her etc. You are a cheater!
Your girlfriend is smart. If you have done this, and not taken responsibility for your actions, you will repeat sometime, when you can find another excuse.....poor me?

Answer 6

...how is it not your fault? YOU lied to your girlfriend to go out with another woman. Don't blame others for your actions. If you really loved your girlfriend you wouldn't have went with this other woman. "it wasn't my fault though because this woman is always flirting".......wow, terrible excuse. I honestly think your girlfriend is gone and this'll be a lesson for you. think about the consequences next time.

Answer 7

Everyone can plainly see that it wasn't your fault. Clearly, you were raped and had no choice in the matter. Someone of your beauty and charm and limited intelligence cannot possibly be held accountable for this vicious sexual attack upon you. I can't, for the life of me, see why your girlfriend - or should we say ex-girlfriend - would hold you responsible. You're much better off without someone as narrow minded as her.

Considering the vacuity of your question, I think I should explain that my answer above is of a satirical nature.

Answer 8

YOU lied to your girlfriend so YOU could go over to another womans house, and YOU ended up having sex. Uhhh........its your fault. Don't put the blame on anyone but yourself. She's better off without you.

Answer 9

Yes it is your fault you new this woman liked you and you still went over to see her. If you really loved your grilfriend and felt strong about your relationship you would have not gave that women the time of day.Now you got to deal with your mis take and your girlfriend is not going to trust you.Once you break that trust it's very hard to get it back.

Answer 10

First, realize that it WAS your fault. Why else would you visit a woman who has been flirting with you? Once you accept responsibility for YOUR actions, only then can you attempt to repair the relationship YOU destroyed.

Answer 11

Grow up, numnuts. You buy the ticket and you take the ride. Start looking fro a new girl cause you sure lost this one. You are responsible for what goes on in your head, and for whether or not you act on it. Flirting is fun, but when you're in a relationship it can blow back on you. Next...