Theres this girl thats "oh my god" in love with my bf. They use to kind of talk in a more than friends way a while back but things didnt work out I'm guessing because she lives like 6hrs away from us in his hometown that he visits from time to time. We've gotten into a fight before about her because I simply asked him what was up with the two of them and he flipped saying she was just a good friend. What the F^%^ ever i KNOW he liked her at some point and i know shes madly in love with him.
Well today i went to comment him on his myspace and i saw that she left a response comment on his myspace. i know it was a response because she said stuff like she was answering some questions that he probably left on her myspace.
He says he loves me and blah blah blah but if he knows that I dont like them talking because of the history they have why would he continue talking to her. I'm not talking to any of the guys I liked and it didnt work out with, just out of respect. You know?
2007-10-08 10:05:27 · 16 answers · asked by TheLight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some extra info on why I'm so uncomfortable with him talking to her.
1. When me and him first starting dating he said that out of all the ppl he knew, he felt that she knew him the most. That he wouldnt even have to say anything and she would already know what he was thinking. I backed off after that but he still chased me.
2. When i stayed the night at his house this wkend on his dressers theres a mirror. I was brushing my hair and there folded into the mirror in plain sight was a ticket stub of a movie i know he went and saw with her.
2007-10-08 10:09:02 · update #1
You do have the right to say something. After all, it seems as though this girl desperately wants your boyfriend. I can understand being friendly with her, but there comes a point in time where it has to end because their "friendship" is not like any other friendship. She doesn't want a friendship out of him, she wants a relationship. She either has to back off or accept the fact that he's with you and not her.
2007-10-08 10:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by Optimisticone 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It all sounds pretty normal and probably innocent except for one thing.
"We've gotten into a fight before about her because I simply asked him what was up with the two of them and he flipped saying she was just a good friend. What the F^%^ ever i KNOW he liked her at some point and i know shes madly in love with him."
Does he also pull that crap about you not understanding their relationship?
What is your relationship with her? If you cant be friends with her, he shouldnt be either. If he has no problem with it then you can probably make it work out. You dont have to be her best friend, or be anywhere near as close as they are; but he needs to allow a casual friendship between the two of you. In the end he'll have to choose, or make his decision clear (assuming he's already chosen you and just doesnt know how to handle it). It sounds like right now he's keeping that door opened just in case, but he knows its not going to happen. Thats no way to have a successful relationship.
Also consider how long this has all been going on. Have you visited the hometown and met the parents? Even if he is dedicated to you it will take some time. Be patient, but state your objections. Dont attack, make it clear you dont want to hurt their friendship, but that part of being with him means including you in all aspects of his life to some degree.
2007-10-08 17:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Showtunes 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel you 1000000% percent,I had that problem,it is more between them that he isn't saying,you have to get technical on him and he will get the picture,you tell him You can't be the other woman,You so you will get you another man.they don't know how that feel,they don't see anything wrong with it but we do because why can't you talk to me instead of your past.so something is up.baby girl dig deep.
2007-10-08 17:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by nickkie s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have every right to be angry and I would probably feel the same way. After all, she's not just a friend, she's a friend who's in love with your boyfriend, and you have the right to put your foot down!
2007-10-08 17:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by tangerine 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You shouldn't be so controlling. My best friends are guys and if their girlfriends told them not to hang out with me just because i was a girl, I would get really mad. They would also probably dump an over-controlling girlfriend like that. Unless you find proof that he's cheating on you, you shouldn't freak out. They're probably just really good friends.
2007-10-08 17:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you want to push him right into her arms, by all means get angry and yell at him. Forbid him to talk to her. Then it won't be a problem anymore, because you'll be out of the picture.
2007-10-08 17:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by bennyhana 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel you. You should just tell him that he needs to show you the same respect that you show him, and if he doesn't stop talking to her and lying to you about it, then it's not going to work out. He should have no problem sacrificing his relationship with her to save yours, if he doesn't have feelings for her anymore.
2007-10-08 17:11:00 · answer #7 · answered by California Kush 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hell yea sister, I had a similar situation, I had to raise all kinds of hell just to get them to stop talking. If he does'nt respect you enough to stop, think about moving on, you deserve better!
2007-10-08 17:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
My money is on the Jets this year...8 to 1 odds say they will pull it off!
2007-10-08 17:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by Noone i 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
this guy is just being friendly to this other girl. He's still interested in you, but he's just friends with this girl. No need to be mad. Its ok to feel upset, but you shouldn't be mad untill its obvious he's making a move on this girl.
2007-10-08 17:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by liquid_waffle 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋