he decides to have an affair...but he lies to the NEW girl and they start having a fling...But the girl thinks she has found the man of her dreams....(You know how that goes)......anyway, it wasn;t until 6 months later she FINDS OUT ...OH MY GOD, HE IS MARRIED, BUT NO KIDS....should she continue the lying relationship or just say..."It is over, you lied to me"...and just STOP, STOP RETURNING HIS CALLS???? By the way, i am sure this happens a lot!!!..more than i know...Plus who's to BLAME IN THIS SCENERIO????...Also will he go to HELL because of his flandering ways?????
2007-10-08 09:32:26 · 10 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The one to blame in the scenario is the man who is having the adulterous affair. It is HE, after all, who has broken his vows of marriage. The gf is an unwitting accomplice and innocent of guilt--up to the point that she learns of his marriage. If she continues to see him after learning about it, then she is guilty, as well. And foolish. Rare is the man who leaves his wife for the gf--if he wanted to leave her, he'd have done so already.
As to going to hell...have you not heard? Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Sounds like he might be in for two doses of it. :)
2007-10-08 10:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I fell in love with my BF when he was still in a marriage. But of course I did know his marital status...... if he had lied to me I'd have never forgiven him. I think honesty is very important, and if he wasn't honest since the very beginning and SHE had to find out on her own, this is the way the relationship will go in the future as well............ of course he's the only one to blame here becuz she didn't know what she was really getting into.
2007-10-08 09:57:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lprod 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not a good relationship to stay in but if it is not your affair, then unless you are being solicited for advice, steer clear of it. It is their affair. He is the most to blame but if she stays after she found out, then it is equal.
The hell question dpends upon a lot of things, like if he asks forgiveness and repents. To God sin is sin no matter which one. All can be forgiven and he forgives almost un-endlessly although we do not tend to.
I do not believe in a fiery hell anyway, but some do.
2007-10-08 09:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by rumbler_12 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I met someone once, and thought they were just AWESOME.
However, a nagging voice in the back of my head kept telling me something wasn't right..... I found out a couple days later he was married.
The next time he came over to my place, we were sitting there, hanging out, and I said, man, you're such an awesome guy, how come someone hasn't snapped you up yet?
He said, well, I came close once, but never tied the knot.
So you're not married?
No, he said.
So you didn't marry Sara _____ ______ on July whatever 1997?
No....
Well, ok, yes I did, and we're still married.
I ditched the dude.
2007-10-08 09:37:29 · answer #4 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
"It's over, you lied to me".
I think he's a louse!! But if she continues the relationship AFTER she finds out for sure that he IS married and lied about it.....then she's as guilty and as much to blame as he is.
Don't know about the hell part. I guess it depends on whether he straightens out or not. Though if he cheats once......
2007-10-08 10:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by D J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should definitely dump him. I find it hard to see how a good relationship could come out of a lie/affair. And in the future, she shouldn't have sex with anyone until after she is married to him.
2007-10-08 12:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should immediately say, "It's over because you lied to me," and stop returning his calls. This kind of relationship is difficult to get past, but it is possible if she bears in mind that he is not worthy of her, her love, or her respect.
Who is to blame? *He* is the one who cheated on his wife and who lied to his girlfriend.
Will he go to hell? According to Scripture, he won't if he will repent (which includes not only "I'm sorry," but a complete turnaround in behavior and attitude).
2007-10-08 09:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by reap100 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
how can this relationship have any trust if it was all founded on lies, i say leave this man unless he is suddenly willing to leae his wife. and even if he does why would u want to be with him knowing he could potentialy do this to u as he betrayed his own wife. too mcuh drama to be apart of. i say walk away from all of that.
2007-10-08 09:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once she finds out he's married she should feel as though he disrespected her and his marriage.....because he did.
When a relationship is based on a lie....there is no relationship.
2007-10-08 10:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's heartbreaking, but she should kick him to the curb.
2007-10-08 14:06:10 · answer #10 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋