I'm a twenty one year old mother who has a two year old daughter. I have been with my boyfriend for over three

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years. I was very young when I had my daughter but I now feel ready to have another one. What do you think?

Answer 1

This is a toughy, because only you can say when you are ready. A friend of mine is 22 and has 4 kids (all with her husband).

The main questions to ask include, does your BOYFRIEND want another kid. Even though you feel ready, he may not and having another may push him away.
Can you afford another child? you already know they are expensive.

Also...do you have your degree? Maybe its something you could consider before having another child. Getting a college degree increases your income over your lifetime and you would most likely find it much easier to afford another child as well as have a more reliable job.

Answer 2

Hello, Im 20years old and I have 2 children already-Im currently pregnant now. But the difference is I'm able to do all this with the support of a husband and not just a "baby-daddy" so to speak.
I think the right thing for you guys to do is to get married, this way you will be free from the sin of fornication. And then check finances, and really give thought about going to school. Im stuck doing on-line classes now. But I do tell you each child is a Blessing, so I could never complain. I pray that you both make the right decision!
God has plans for you and your family!

Answer 3

I'd have to say, that when I met my wife, girlfriend at the time, I was 20 years old and she had 2 kids. We loved and continue to love each other! Both of us weren't financially stable honestly, but we work on it and we still struggle but it's getting better as we progress. Finally we ended up pregnant and decided to marry! I've been with my wife close to 8 years and all and my kids are getting so big. But we have each other. My question to you is, how is you relationship with you boyfriend and does he want another child. I know the question of money will come into play, but honestly I don't think with our current mentalities as a nation could we be making enough money as it is and being christian (not to sound preachy) I believe God will provide and honestly he has for my wife and I as I feel he does for all!

Answer 4

go for it!!!! i had my daughter at 16 and now she is 11 and i have a beautiful 3 year old son although i do wish that i had not had such a big age gap. if both you and your boyfriend are ready then im sure your daughter will love the idea of a baby brother or sister xxx good luck

Answer 5

If you want another one have another one. My sister is 21 and has a 2 year old and a 1 year old and thank god she is not having another one but it is great. If you have the money I think it would be great. You don't have to get married.

Answer 6

I would get married first. You guys are young and that way if something happens and he leaves you at least you can get divorced and alimony and child support. I know it sounds bad but that's my opinion. I was young when I had my first child as well. I was 19 and lemme tell you, custody battle with her father was a 2 yr long nightmare.

Answer 7

If you feel you are ready and your partner is ready go to the Dr. and have yourself checked out and tell him you are thinking about having another baby, as long as you are a healthy woman and your partner shares your desires to have a child, then hey go for it!

Answer 8

make sure that is what you want and it is what he wants its not easy to raise a kid with out help and 2 is even worse so just make sure you are both ready for this in the long run the kids are the one that has to pay

Answer 9

if you are stable and can handle your daughter go for it.
If you are in a position to afford another good for you. Age is not a question about, machurity is (pardon for buchering that word)

Answer 10

well does your boyfriend want another one?? are yall planning on getting married?? are you financially stable for another child.? if yes to all of these.. then sure. just be prepared to have your hands full..