my sister is getting married in may of next year.she has been with the guy for as long as i can remember and has 3 kids with him.she is having the type of wedding were the bridesmaids walk down the isle by themselfs and walk back up with one of the groomsmen.the person she paired my up with is 16 and i am 13 so no big deal there but at the reseption afterwrds i have to dance with him too.the problem i dont dance.or at least that kind of dancing.what do i do.i mean i dont want to make a fool of myself.the guy i have to dance with is my sister fiances brother so i know him pretty well and i have gone to branson(missouri)with my sister and he has gone.i know for a fact that my other sister is not in the wedding cause she refusies to wear a dress(she dresses like a total boy at acts like on too[school is so embarrising with her])so she is not in the wedding so i will be the only one there who doesn't know how to dance.so what do i do.i mean i dont want to dance so how do i get out of it?
2007-10-08 07:25:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the guy is not going to be nervious. my sister(the one getting married) has been in 4 weddings in the past year and he was in everyone of them so he is used to it.me on the other hand am not used to it i have been in1 wedding and i was the flower girl(i was 7)so i did not have to dance and the resiption
2007-10-08 07:41:00 · update #1
Since you said you know the guy pretty well why not ask him to take some time one weekend and teach you to dance. Or maybe your sister can teach you. It's not that hard just find someone you feel comfortable with and ask them for a little help. = )
2007-10-11 08:45:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to dance; it's tradition and expected. However, it's no big deal. I've done it more times than I care to mention. That being said, I'm thirty something and you are thirteen, so EVERYTHING is a big deal. (Been there, done that.) Ask your sister what song she is playing for the bridal party dance. Will it be a slow song or fast? Then practice your moves in the mirror ahead of time. The great thing is that you will be in a gown and it's a formal affair, so no one is expecting you to bust a move like Beyonce or something. Because of the atmosphere and gown, you have to be conservative. Smile, move a little back and forth and you'll be fine.
PS: If it's a slow song, get one of your girlfriends to play the "boy" and help you practice. Shake off the jitters, babe, and enjoy the wedding!
2007-10-08 14:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by Apple21 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to know how to dance. You just need to fake it. You and this guy have to put your hands in the right place (you put your right hand out, and your left hand on his back) and just move to the music for the 3 minutes or whatever it is.
You may want to talk to your sister about your issues.
In the grand scheme, if it is important to her, it is 3 minutes and really it is no big deal. If you just act OK about it, no eye rolling or otherwise acting weird during the dance (like deliberately trying to get as far away from him as possible), honestly I doubt anyone will notice you anyway during the dance, and that's the truth. People are watching the bride, not analyzing every detail of everyone's behavior. You'll be fine.
2007-10-08 14:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Meredith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, learn how to spell, it is "reception".. Second, don't worry about the dance.. If the guy knows how to dance, just be relaxed and follow.. You could buy one of these dance instruction videos to learn basic steps if you would feel more comfortable, but if you have a good dancing partner, all you have to do is being relaxed and following along...
2007-10-08 17:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, slow dancing isn't that hard. He wraps his right arm around your waist and holds your right hand with his left. You put your left hand on his shoulder.
Then you just slowly turn. I'm sure he knows how to do this. If you're worried, ask the groom to give you a lesson. I'm sure he'd be happy to!
2007-10-08 15:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your dad, mom, sister, or brother-in-law-to-be, to teach you how to dance and practice with you. I assume you are talking about slow dancing. It's really not hard at all. It only take a few minutes to get the hang of it.
2007-10-08 14:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by LSU_Tiger23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your sister ( who is getting married ) to help you ....tell her to show you how you're suppose to dance. Or you can ask your mom. If you know the guy who you are paired up with and feel comfortable also ask him.....he might be stressing just like you are.
2007-10-08 14:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by hi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask someone how to dance!
A slow dance is not that hard to learn, just follow the guys lead.
2007-10-08 14:30:09 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have plenty of time to take some dancing lessons or have your friends show you...or watch videos on MTV or VH1 to get an idea.
Your sister is or should be respected by you accepting to be her bridesmaid. The boy whom you don't know...get to know him at family functions or at the rehearsel dinner. You don't have to please anyone, you are who you are. Dancing takes time...Good luck to you!
2007-10-08 14:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by JoyJoy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU COULD HAVE SOMEONE TEACH YOU THE DANCE U NEED TO DANCE WITH HIM DONT GET OUT OF IT U SAID UD STAND UP FOLLOW THROUGH
2007-10-08 14:30:40 · answer #10 · answered by thepattersons04 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋