Anyone have a little self motivating term or anything; lame I know... thing is whenever I get around this ONE certain guy, I totally lose it, I'm just a complete blank around him. I know I need to talk & seem at ease. Help!
2007-10-08 06:28:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a guy, but let me tell you that kind of confidence only comes with time and experience. What you are going through right now with this guy is the experience part. You can't see it now, but you will later on down the road. There is secret or magic pill to gain the confidence you wish you had. That has to come from within and again takes time and experience. It takes more of both for some compared to others. You will get there. It isn't a matter of IF it a matter of WHEN. In the mean time, just try your absolute best and be yourself! That's all you can do you will never be ashamed or have regrets if you do those two things, in any area of your life.
And just so you know, you are in the great majority of people when it comes to this guy. Many people of different ages and experience go through what you are describing. It is natural! I am 24 and I still get nervous around women I am attracted to. But with time and experience I have learned that all I can do is be myself and do my best. If I do that things will always work out.
If it is true self confidence you are seeking, and not confidence to specifically attract the opposite sex, then there are some things you might consider. If you are in school, get the best grades you possibly can! Again, do your absolute best. School (when you are in school) is your job, and it always feels wonderful when you do well at your job. Find a hobby you like and become good at it (do you best). Start exercising regularly if you don't already. That will really boost your confidence once you start to see improvement. Find out what it is you really want for yourself and you future. You won't have all the answers, and it surely likely to change in the future (it always does), but knowing what you want can do wonders for you confidence. Another way to put is WRITE YOUR GOALS DOWN ON PAPER. Make them challenging yet achievable. Then starting working on those goals! It doesn't matter what they are, when you start to achieve those and set new ones for yourself and work toward them, you will amazed at what it will do for your self confidence.
These are all things you have to want to do for YOU and only YOU. It won't work any other way. But I promise you, you will have more self confidence, and that will be the genuine real self confidence everyone deeply desires. And you know what happens when you possess the true and genuine self confidence I speak of? You become very attractive to the opposite sex. That is a wonderful side benefit of putting yourself first. Not only do you become more attractive, but you will have what it really takes to be in a meaningful, fulfilling, and rewarding relationship with a guy that will treat you like a queen. I know you can do it!
IM me or email me if you want to chat or have any questions!!
2007-10-08 06:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by cagewalker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do u like the guy ??? well anyways this is my favorite quote so yeah:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
It doesnt matter wat others think of u wats imprtant is how u feel about ur self and if u keep tellin urself sumthing eventually ull believe it and itll becum a part of u so say postive things about urself ,just be postitive on a whole even when u feel like being dark and obscure try to be postive it makes u and others feel better about everything i dare u to try it !!!
2007-10-08 13:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by lil oreo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is just around this one guy, it is not lack of confidence but rather infatuation. Think of him as just another person and not someone special, or perhaps you can think of him standing there in the most ridiculous underware you can think of and that will be so humorous to you that you will forget about being nervous around him
2007-10-08 13:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this verse always helps me..."For God did not give us a spirit of timidity but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline" 2 Timothy 1:7. You may never have another moment to do what you want to , so take a risk and step out of your comfort zone
2007-10-08 13:34:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy O 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first off u never wanna appear you have confidence, you wanna have ittttt.
whenever I get around this ONE certain guy, I totally lose it,
THATS NORMAL, U LIKE HIM ALOT, BRO JUST BE CONFIDENT, WALK SEXY,TALK SEXY,LOOK SEXY, BIG DEAL HE'S JUST HUMANNNNNN. NEVER MAKE SOMETHING BIGGER THAN IT IS
2007-10-08 13:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by Mike luc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋