Well I think that virginity is important atleast to me. I always run into the wrong guys and I just made a commitment to the lord and myself that when he sends me the right man to marry then I would loose my virginity. I'm 20 going on 21 soon and sometimes I do feel funny when I tell others because there like you must be the only one left and make alot of jokes. I'm not sure how guys feel about virgins but guys don't stick around when I tell them I'm one. I only had 1 bf and I just want to meet someone who is going to love me and respect me for me. I just want to wait for that special one. What do you think!!!
2007-10-08 05:29:27 · 30 answers · asked by ashcan 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
There are many men who choose to wait as well till they are married, and love the Lord God with all their heart. Your only test for your future spouse should be: firstly, is the person God’s choice and secondly, is He filled with the Holy Spirit. Once you have these answers, whatever happens he will never leave you or forsake you after marriage.
I am sorry to read above about those “so called christians” who left their Christian wives after years of marriage, more so when their wives had been faithful to them. It is very very sad!
But you don’t give up and take courage from all the words of encouragement written by fellow believers above. It is a gift from God and you are doing well to honour that. If other men and women can wait, so can you! It is difficult and yet God makes it possible; I am a man and it is my witness to all who claim it is not possible to remain so and I have been across 3 continents as the Lord my God has taken me, including the US at present.
Moreover, look beyond the states and you will find that in many places, boys and girls remain virgins until they marry; and most of them are not even Christians... As for you, ask Jesus and He will not only help you to persevere but also send the one person you are supposed to marry into your life.
May the Lord bless you and keep you,
Andrew
2007-10-15 14:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew W. Peoples 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is definatly a personal issue. But then God is a personal God.
It is written that a man should leave his parents and a woman hers and the two should become one flesh.
The act of sex is the highest human ceromony and should be concidered so. The only thing equal (but not as fun in the process I gather) would be giving birth.
There should be a comittment to life with the other person before getting involved in this way. Even speaking in natural terms, there is a good chance that a life will be created from the act (that is, unless you use protection) and that is the natural driving force behind the desire.
A piece of rubber won't keep you from feeling you've just given part of youself to someone else, a part you can never get back. It's a part of who you are.
The act of sex is or should be more spiritual than physical although some men who are controlled by their flesh like a dog whith its nose to the air, may not notice that or are good at blocking the reallity out. Women to, can fall into this state of being.
abstenance is not an easy road to fallow at times, but when the moment finally arives you will be extremly saticefied with the results.
Don't treat this like the experience of getting high.
It feels good (no, very very good) and it's exsilerating, but when it's over you can't brush it off as another experence. If you can, there was nothing more than lust involved and you would have done better to take care of the heat by yourself.
Having sex, without a comitment of love, is really a hidious slander against this human rite, this dignified and glorious human cerimoney. And for believers in Christ it is an act of faithlessness towards God.
And the church wanting power over you is just silly ignorant nonsence.
Love from a virgin brother
sorry, spell check is not working again.
2007-10-08 13:20:32 · answer #2 · answered by Gypsy Priest 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I agree with your beliefs. I am a 24 year old virgin. Guys who don't stick around are just jerks anyway. If they truly care about you they would find some other way to express their love for you. Ask yourself what do I want from life? Will a man make my life better? Why do I need a man? What do I have to offer a man that nobody else has? As you figure out the purpose of man you will gain coinfidence in your pursuit.
2007-10-09 16:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Bu Tran 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think what you are doing is admirable. I know that it is an unpopular stance. But doing what is right is not always popular.
I chose to remain a virgin until I married. I had several reasons for doing so but the foremost one was that I wanted to please my God Jehovah. He is the one who directed in his word the Bible that we flee from fornication and that the marriage bed should not be defiled. He knows much better than we do what it takes to have a happy life, a happy marriage and to have self-respect and be fulfilled in every way.
I have been married now for more than 34 years and I have never regretted my decision. My husband and I were happy to give one another our virginity after our wedding. Jehovah has blessed our marriage largely because we make every effort to live our lives every day according to his will.
I know that if you uphold these principles, when you do find someone you want to spend your life with, your sexual relationship will be much more meaningful and special.
2007-10-08 20:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel & Know it is one of the
most treasured possessions you have,
the Right to Choose!!!!!!!
No reason to feel funny / peculiar,
have the conviction that YOU Know that
What You are Doing is Wonderful!!
And a Wonderful Gift, for your future husband,
yourself, & your God.
Those that clown u and or ur decision,
are just that 'Clowns!'
With no respect for:
God,
themselves,
others, (like urself & not like u)
the sacred gift from God for the marriage arrangement.
If a male pressures you, he's Not the 1 for You.
He only wants to take away what u have,
towards respect for yourself, & your God.
And give Nothing back!
You young Lady are an Almond Blossom among the nettles.
Don't you let any1 person make u feel otherwise.
You will receive your blessings in full,
from our heavenly Father.
For He knows you & your reasons.
You will be richly rewarded,
for your efforts.
2007-10-08 13:04:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Kudos to you! I think that's great that you're willing respect God's teachings and wait until you're married. I don't understand why so many people even here on R&S are pressuring you to do something you disagree with. I also waited until I got married (at 31), and I was so glad I did. God brought me a wonderful guy (who was baptized into Christ before we got married!) My husband was very proud (and flattered) that I waited also. The first time is something you can only share with someone once.
I had a Christian friend who was dating someone (who was also a Christian). He pressured her to have sex while they were still dating, and because she believed they were going to end up together & married, she agreed. Sadly it didn't work out that way. She regretted it afterward and get this...he ended up marrying someone who HAD waited after all! Yes he was a jerk.
There may be guys who are turned off because you are waiting, or guys who may pressure you. But stick to your principles and keep your faith in God. He will send you someone deserving when you're both ready. (Feel free to e-mail me if you want to talk anytime.) God bless.
2007-10-08 13:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by kaz716 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't feel bad when people make fun of you...if you want to wait then wait, but if you want to have sex now then do it. Don't just give it to any guy you meet but do it with a guy who you feel combfortable and you are SURE cares about you.
Coming from a guy this might not mean much to you, but I advise you NOT to wait for prince charming to come along before having sex, cause he's not coming. In real life the perfect man is someone who you have a good time with, trust and can work out disagreements without resorting to heated arguments, I'm sure that at 20 years old you're getting unbearable urges... and you shouldn't surpress them...
I'm not saying you should sleep with any loser who gives you a BS pick up line in a supermarket, but if you meet a guy who you feel something special for and are sure he feels the same, then I think you should do it. IF YOU WANT IT.
2007-10-08 12:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by Undead 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Like it!
I did this and it was difficult to find someone
like minded for many years!
I finally got married at the age of 30!
We both waited to have sex until marriage!
It creates a dicipline that makes the marriage
wonderful.
It is one of the best things you can do
to practice not being selfish - the dicipline
you gain helps the marriage and the sex life
in marriage!
It is the best thing you can do for the
"sexual compatability" everyone talks about.
Focus on the spiritual relationship first - the
rest falls into place nicely!
*smiles*
2007-10-08 12:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by Nickel-for-your-thoughts 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
If you can wait until you're married, more power to you! You will know your partner far better than most people. I am proud of people who can stay a virgin, honoring the one they will be with for life.
2007-10-09 16:40:45 · answer #9 · answered by nita5267 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi. You should look at the question I just posted. I made the decision to wait until marriage for sex. I'm 36 and had sex this weekend with someone that I believe I will probably marry. (He did not pressure me).
I am devastated and so sad. I gave up something that was more precious to me than what I realized. Please stay strong......wait until marriage.
The right man will respect your decision and only be attracted to you more for staying true to that commitment.
All my best, dear!
2007-10-08 12:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋