we sent out nearly 40 invitations for my sons birthday, which is this weekend. We sent them 2-3 weeks early, yet only 3 parents RSVP'd. I'd be heatbroken if only the three kids turned up, my son would be devestated. should i take it that the rest wont turn up? Or do you think they will?
2007-10-08 05:28:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
How long till the party? I need to know how long!!!!
2007-10-08 05:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am exactly in your situation right now. I sent out 30 invitations and received only 2 so far. The RSVP deadline is this Friday and the party is next Saturday. I am also very stressed, because I worry about how my son will take it if only two show up. I hope at least 2-3 more will call, so that I don't have to cancel the party. The difficult part is that because it is early in the year I don't have the parents phone book yet, distributed the invitations through my school's teacher and I don't even know who to call! Schools are very secret about it right now and planning a party is a big challenge. Last year I was in the same boat (but with Kindergarten at the same school). I received the majority of the RSVPs - 10 at the very last day of the RSVP deadline and 5 others several days after. 3 showed up without RSVP. I hope this helps.
2007-10-10 16:40:15 · answer #2 · answered by Nalina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so annoying when you take the time to get an invite out early and then not get replies (yes or no) at least a week before the event.
My suggestion, although it takes work on your part, is to call or email each person that hasn't replied, and kindly ask them, "I was just confirming to see if your son/daughter was able to come to the birthday party on ____". I will need to finalize all of the food I have ordered (or make) as well as stuff all of the goody bags. Please let me know by ___ so that I'll have enough for everyone. I hope you can make it : )"
Or, something like that - light, but to the point - you have to be able to provide for 40 if you think 40 are coming. That is just common courtesy for anyone invited to say yes or no.
If for some reason, you get, say 10 RSVP and then 20 others show up after you tried to contact them (with no response), then you have every right to tell them that "I am sorry, I don't have enough food/goody bags to go around. I wasn't sure your son/daughter was going to be able to make it, since I hadn't heard from you. Of course, you're more than welcome to join the party". Easier said than done, I know....but at least they'll know how you feel.
Good luck!
2007-10-08 13:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by Mama C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most of the parties I have had for my kids about half show up. I'm surprised that 3 RSVP'd. It is frustrating, but for some reason parents today don't think that they need to RSVP. I think you sent the invites out too early. I usually send them out about a week before. You may still get some RSVP's. If you are worried, I would call and make sure that his close friends are coming. Those are really the ones he'll want to be there anyway.
2007-10-08 13:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't make it a popularity contest. If you're not upset that only three children come, your son won't be either. If you've set him up to be upset that only three come, then he will.
The point is for him to have a good time at his party.
A small party can be more fun then a big one for a little child. A lot of kids are too much for him to deal with.
The huge party is an adult idea.
The people that don't come don't hate you or your son. They're just over booked.
2007-10-08 15:11:22 · answer #5 · answered by pansyblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is always good to follow up with these things. Sometimes invitations get left in back packs or get lost, so call the children's parents and find out if they received the invitation. I have had to do this several times for my children, and I usually get the same response. We never received the invite. When is the B-Day party? And yes, of course, he/she would love to attend. In the end, it never hurts, to say something along the lines of,"I don't know if you received the invitation to my child's birthday party, and I am just wondering if your child was planning to attend?" But remember, try not to make the parent feel guilty, just express the concern that your child would be disppointed if his/her friend will not be attending. Then let the parent let you know whether or not their child will attend.
2007-10-12 01:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by Queen B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously consider making a phone call, or sending out a reminder to RSVP. Unfortunately, many parents don't bother to RSVP, leaving the parent hosting the party with absolutely no idea how many to expect. In my experience, no RSVP is not the same as not coming - I wouldn't count on that at all! A quick phone call or email will save you a lot of hassle on the big day. Good luck!
2007-10-08 14:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by tech_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People never RSVP, so if you sent out 40 it will be safe to assume that half would show up. If you are worried I would call and remind them. You should only send invitation 2 weeks before the party b/c people tend to forget..you can always say..just wanted to make sure you guys were coming so I would make sure I had enough of everything...
2007-10-08 12:42:43 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well did you "request" an rsvp? I must admit that I'm quite LAZY on those things and do call at the very last minute to let them know we're coming. Don't start stressing yet....still a bit early. He'll have a wonderful time regardless of "how many" kids will be there. All's it takes is more than ONE to have a party. G'luck
2007-10-08 12:35:12 · answer #9 · answered by OMGiamgoingNUTS 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think half will show up, some people are just rude and dont feel the need to RSVP. They don't realize how much it will screw up your plans if you don't.
When i was 5, my mother invited 10 girls. 5 called, she bought eight dolls for favours. I had to give up the two dolls she bought me for birthday presents for the girls that just showed up ( and they were nice dolls i had wanted too!) and at 5 that was terribly devastating. Luckily, i had a big mouth and i mentioned it to the girls mothers later on how my mom said it was rude to come and not call and how upset i was to give up my prezzies. They bought me REALLY nice dolls as an apology, but i knew my mom would make me give them back so i never showed her. What an evil child i was.
2007-10-08 12:34:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be glad that 3 will come.
My son just had a party and NOBODY wanted to come and he is a sweet kid.
2007-10-09 12:40:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋