I caught my boyfriend looking at a half naked girl on a poster in walmart..wat does this mean... I confronted him about it ...it really hurt me and made me feel like i wasn't good enough... what do i do?
2007-10-08 04:44:29 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What do you do?
Get over it.
The fact you're insecure is not your boyfriends fault.
2007-10-08 04:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by Infernal Disaster 7 · 4⤊ 4⤋
If a half naked girl is right there in front of a guy, he's going to look at her in many cases. I don't think it's right but it's a fact and not something I think you should consider as an attack on you. I understand it making you feel bad although I am a guy. But I recall all of my girlfriends would have a crush on this or that famous guy and would get all hot and bothered if he had a naked scene in a movie or something. It didn't mean she didn't love me, it's just the unfortunate human nature coming out. Talking to him about it if it was just one time, may give him the idea that you are insecure and overbearing and drive him away. Just let it slide for now and if it becomes something you feel is a habit, then by all means discuss with him how it makes you feel.
2007-10-08 04:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him and for a relationship to work there must be trust between the two individuals that are involved. I think you over reacted, and from what you say it seems to me you are the jealous type and that might hurt the relationship. There are ways to work things out talk to each other. I'm sure you have looked at a poster of an actor model you like too. Have confidence in yourself, by the way how long have you been with this guy(it must not be that long cuse you don't seem to trust him, but then again you are the only one that knows him)My best advice is to talk to him (calmly) ok. Best wishes.
2007-10-08 04:53:13 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The simple answer is no. Of course you shouldn't be mad and you certainly shouldn't be getting upset with him about it. However, that is a little too simple :)
I am sure you have "checked out" an attractive guy before and your "guy" will do the same with an attractive female. It isn't that he is not attracted to you or that you are "lacking" it is that he is naturally going to respond to what he is looking at.
Hopefully the guy has enough sense not to gawk at it, but honestly, there will ALWAYS be someone more attractive then you out there (I mean even Jennifer Anniston had Angelina Jolie to deal with). The realization you will come to is that you need to be content within your own body and as for your relationship, it will be based on a lot more than just your "looks" or it just won't work.
2007-10-08 04:51:59 · answer #4 · answered by J in SC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie don't be mad. Men are going to look at any half naked anything. I promise you, It's okay.
My boyfriend looks at porn and gets off to it daily, and I don't mind. They're only pictures afterall, it's not as though that girl took that pictures JUST for YOUR boyfriend. She's on a poster so men can look. And i guarantee you, if a guy is with you, he thinks you're attractive. You will never been as gorgeous as the air brushed girls on posters. But you ARE beautiful, and he is with you because he enjoys being with you. You just have to remember that men are very physical and very one-track-minded sometimes. They don't look at pictures to hurt you or make you feel bad, they look because they are men.
Just because he looked at a half naked women doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. It just means he was looking at a half naked woman, thats all hunny.
So make sure he knows you were uncomfortable with it, and tell him how you felt so he knows, but don't look too far into it. Okay? Best of wishes =)
2007-10-08 04:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Adjust your thinking to realize that him looking at another woman is no reflection on you whatsoever. I'm sure you recognize nice looking guys when you see them, and that doesn't diminish your boyfriend in your eyes because there's more to attraction than just looks and there are no shortages of good looking people of both genders. The same is true for him. He doesn't know that woman on that poster; she's just a two-dimensional bit of eye-candy (besides "half-naked" also means "half-clothed" depending on your point of view). Place your faith in more substantial things surrounding your relationship...pretty people come a dime a dozen.
2007-10-08 05:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too upset, it was only a poster. I think guys have a hard time not looking at pics of naked girls. It is no reflection on you. And be honest, if it was a poster of a half naked guy, would you have taken a peek?
2007-10-08 04:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have just brushed it off you cant fight instinct since the beginning man(and woman) has always been on the look out for better mates to ensure more live healthy births in cave man days it was a way to ensure we will be a surviving species and as time has passed we have grown pass the point of being few and far between but we have kept the instinct to look at and for other potential mates it doesn't mean that he is looking for someone to replace you or that he wants to hurt you he is just a healthy human with a healthy libido besides you cant say that you dint look at other people because EVERYONE looks unless they are blind it is just human
2007-10-08 05:01:21 · answer #8 · answered by sdwill1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't tell me your a young chick . . . LOL
Guys like to look at girls, just like girls like to look at boys. It can't be double standard. Imagine the things you think about . . . well he thinks too. And you are not the only girl on the planet. Just cuz he looks at other girls doesn't mean he thinks different about you. I don't know how old you are, but you have a long way to go, because a poster ain't nothing. There is still Playboy, Pornography and all that good stuff.
2007-10-08 04:50:41 · answer #9 · answered by TISI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK. In a nice way get OVER IT. It sounds like you have trust issues It was just a poster, A mans going to look(married, single, divorced, pastor, who ever man period; don't get me wrong and we women look also.) What has he done before to make you upset about a POSTER? Did you cry over a POSTER? OK two words love yourself.
2007-10-08 05:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by Sweetdanity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men just look at women it is there nature the sooner you can accept this the better off in life you will be. You need to remember that looking is not cheating there are lots of beautiful people in this world and it is not bad to just look at there beauty. Who does your man go home with every night? I will acknowledge a beautiful person male or female with my boyfriend right there, and he loves it cause he can tell me that he thinks someone is pretty with out hiding it. We have friends that the woman wont even let her man look up at a store because if he looks at someone she will go off on him it puts a stain on things just remember that. Be open and honest. Good luck!
2007-10-08 04:53:45 · answer #11 · answered by DUTCH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋