i hate if my bf dependent on me. even for the small things. i hate if my bf ask me for my help(for something that he can do by himself), i hate if my bf annoy me when i was playing game or doing my routines. i hate if my bf ask me to bring a drink for him, i hate my bf crittics on my work. am i freak ??? maybe you can give me any suggestions.
2007-10-08 04:40:54 · 17 answers · asked by glicious 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your not a freak. He sounds like a nit-pick, and really they are just bags of hot air. In my opinion, he's trying to establish himself as a dominant person. Suggestion: If he says "Get my drink", say "Dont be lazy hunnie".
If he says , "Your work stinks", you ask "How would you make it better?"
Say those things nicely, because you dont wanna start the beginning of the end, and see how he reacts. If he persists, tell him this and then see how it goes. Good luck.
2007-10-08 04:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by Suki 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is something odd about your behavior. I love my husband and enjoy helping him and doing things for him, and I don't mind if I have to stop what I am doing to help him. It also sounds like you have trouble accepting constructive criticism. I honestly believe if you truly love someone, you will do anything for them, even the little things. Maybe you don't care for your boyfriend too much?
2007-10-08 04:46:12 · answer #2 · answered by Mika 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe just try to be a little more accommodating. Don't do everything for him but when he asks you for help consider if he actually might need it or if it would help him get it done faster. Plus it's something you two can do together thereby building a stronger relationship.
2007-10-08 04:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by TheJesterTwist 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're just driven and somewhat demanding. This should make you be quite the achiever in life, but your partners need to be of the same ilk to keep from frustrating you and to keep you from making their lives miserable.
2007-10-08 04:46:24 · answer #4 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just dont like to have people relieng on u. a tsometimes that can be good, but at times bad.
say u have kids when you are older, ur kids will want help, u wont want to, your kids will want love, you wont want to, your kids will need you, you wont be there.
you need to relize that u need to be there for people, but you cant make urslef to reliable so people can fend for themselfs
no your not a freak.
2007-10-08 04:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by pugglelover1207 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, you've got a needy man. me and you both. i don't get as annoyed about it as you seem to. but when i do, i tell him i'm busy. or actually i give him a taste of his own medicine. once i started asking him for ridiculous favors, he started to calm down with the neediness.
2007-10-08 04:48:57 · answer #6 · answered by ..:: Liz ::.. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are not in love with this guy. I love my husband and do things for him because I want to. If you don't want to do anything for this guy you aren't a freak just not in love.
2007-10-08 04:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by shellshell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only the one who is totally devoted to you will ask of these so called normal things, you should try to understand the psyc. behind.
2007-10-08 04:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by sgog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe you don't really like your bf that much.
2007-10-08 04:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by toxic_rock_angel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
find a new boyfriend who you get on with and respects you. plenty more nicer fish in the sea
2007-10-08 04:44:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋