Family arguements...?

Question

I loose my temper without realising it. Sometimes i just get annoyed and i don't think how it makes the other person feel. Any tips for controlling temper?

Answer 1

The trick is to catch yourself before getting to that point and calming yourself down.

In the meantime, when you realize you've done it, apologize. The pain of doing so will help you learn to catch yourself in the future.

As soon as your energy starts to go up, stop, take a few deep, slow breaths, and try to get a grip.

There are books on this sort of thing; you could check some of them out for tips.

Answer 2

Yes, Anger is usually a hidden mask of Fear, some kind of underlying fear: rejection, rebellion, fear of control loss.
Practice calming techniques like Yoga, or Meditation, learn to catch yourself, when your loosing your temper, and talk your self down.
be more of a listener to others , and at the times when you want to just LOOSE it, Don't say a word! This is very difficult, but don't say a word, you will learn a valuable lesson, that silence is GOLDEN.
it will make the other person reflect, and want to know what your thinking, and it will help you process whatever is going on around you in a calm manner, then you can truly communicate. Look into some Buddhist teachings, (not trying to change your beliefs) Just incorporate them , there are some great teaching regarding this, Master yourself! This is harder than mastering another.
Here are some web sites that will help you too!

http://www.apa.org/topics/controlanger.html

http://apahelpcenter.org/articles/article.php?id=30

http://www.athealth.com/consumer/disorders/angercontrol.html

Good luck ! And breathe deeply..... ( :

Answer 3

i think it is usualy for people to loose their temper once in a while. but i think if you know that you were wrong then you should not be ashamed to say you sorry. if you feel you are getiing agry just remmeber to breathe it doesn't sound that much but it helps. or even try taking up some kind of sport it helps in reliving stress.

Answer 4

Learn to NOT REACT until you can get things into perspective. Remove yourself from the situation and either go to your room or take a walk.
You have to ask yourself (and them) what they really want and what you can do to keep things smooth.
If someone is overstepping boundaries, then you need to point that out to them in a calm, rational way. Blowing up does not accomplish anything.
If you are being asked to pitch in around the house, then do your fair share... everyone in a household has their jobs to do to maintain the place.
If someone is simply trying to push your buttons just to watch you blow up, so you need to quit giving them the reaction they enjoy getting from you. When you quit giving it to them, they will eventually move on.

In short: get control over yourself... that is the ONE thing you have control over in life. Self control is your single greatest asset.

Answer 5

I have a temper as well - I have to consciously make the effort to keep my mouth shut. If you TRY - I promise that you can overcome this.

Answer 6

yes I do the same exact thing and now I try to think before I speak it takes a lot of work and its hard I do slip up every once in awhile but if you try you will succeed

Answer 7

See a psychiatrist and get on some heavy meds. Or just make up your mind you won't fly off the handle and do it!

Answer 8

i often feel the same like u r. i easily get angry and i usually get sleep suddenly. or smoke,or swim definately help. water can make you calm down.

Answer 9

maybe you just need to have some time alone and to think about things when you get mad but whatever you do don't go too far