i have been with him for already 2 months.do not know since when our relationship become worse.during the first beginning,everything seems smooth.even when we argued,we will fast reconcile.till that day when he scolds me saying that i controlling him,making things big from small and contacting him nonstop especially when he did not respon.i feel very hurt that i giving him such awful feelings.i feels he no longer like me.today in office he asking me whether i off but actually he did ask me to apply leave,but he seems forgot about it.i feel really hurt.i feel he want to break up with me.what you guys thing?i did not sms him neither.all my friend says why i so idiot still entertain him after being humiliated.but i loves him.so i forgive him.but i do not think he will appreciates me.i still need face him in office,i feel really uneasy.i would not sms him but i think he would not.what should i do?please advice.do he still loves me??
2007-10-08 04:21:16 · 7 answers · asked by jessy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guys need time to themselves to remember who they are without you. It doesn't mean they don't like/love you. He probably is getting concerned that he is losing who he is by being with you. Just give him his space when he needs it and let him come to you sometimes. Unless he tells you there is a problem, there is no problem. Don't bug him about whether he's upset about something you've done unless he's seems really upset. If he seems fine, he's fine. Just be chill and easy-going ... try to relax. That is the biggest emotional difference between girls and guys. Guys just want you to relax, and girls tend to make things more complicated than they need to be. Smile, be happy, and don't worry so much! :-)
2007-10-08 04:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by Eagiusti 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have only been dating him for a few months. How can you really know you love someone in that short of time?? Relationships take take and lots of work on both sides. After dating someone for a couple of months, it is possible that one discovers they have very fond feelings for the other, while the other one realizes that they will not work out after all and that feelings are not returned at the same rate.
Perhaps in your case, you find yourself very found of him and want him to return your affection, but maybe he does not return the fondness or maybe he needs time and a litle space to really think about how he feels towards you. Do not chase him...let him chase you. If he wants to be with you, he will pursue you further. If he stops calling you altogether, take this as a sign that you and he are not right for each other and go your separate ways.
Also, he might be wary of becoming too serious too soon. Especially if you are spending so much time together. He might think that you are clingy or have no life and only want a man to make you happy. Show him that you are happy, fun, and sweet no matter who you are with. Take time to hang out with friends and maintain your friendships. He will see your personality shine through. If he wants to continue to pursue a relationship with you, meet him half way....but let him come the other half and meet you in the middle.
2007-10-08 04:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sadeae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont sms him...a lot of guys get a bit nervous when a relationship sems to get serious....guys like to do the chasing. If he feels you are too available it will put him off....let him chase you....let him do the calling. When you go to the office next...be very cheerful and have a good time with collegues...arrange a lot of nights out with friends but not with him, so he can see you are independant. I guarantee that in one weeks time he will be calling you and seem keen again.
Im 35 and have dated a lot before meeting my husband...I know how guys think!
2007-10-08 04:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but your English is really hard to understand. From what I gathered, you might be a little too clingy for him. Go a day without contacting him. Let him contact you. See what he does. If you start going several days with out him contacting you, then it might not be working out. Generally, he SHOULD do some form of contact either at the end of day 1 or beginning of day 2, if you didn't talk to him at all the previous day.
2007-10-08 04:26:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how you can think you are in love with someone who you've only known for two months, who seems to be very unkind towards. If you're fighting that much, so soon into the relationship, I think you'd be better off with other people. The fighting will only get worse as time goes by.
2007-10-08 04:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by sarah jane 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he doesn't respect you. You forgot the golden rule never date anyone you have to work with. If he is making you feel bad about yourself why would you stay with him? That's not love. You have to love yourself first before anyone can love you. You can't love yourself if you let someone continue to treat you bad. You don't keep contacting a guy who is not calling you back. It makes you look too needy and clingy. Guys don't like that. If I was you I'd just quit calling him. I don't think he's going to make too much out of it. Sorry
2007-10-08 04:29:25 · answer #6 · answered by shellshell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just leave him alone, do your work and forget about him. He is no longer interested, it seems. (and remember, it is never good to have an "office romance" - you are now seeing the results of one) Good luck.
2007-10-08 04:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋