Im dating a girl thats 19 while im 23. She is a sophomore in college, I just graduated in May. Does anyone see any problem with this?
I really like her we have a lot of fun together. But my friends give me a hard time because of the 4 year difference, even though they like her!
2007-10-08 03:38:45 · 44 answers · asked by Rider1536 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-10-08 03:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by John 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on personal preference. There is no issue with dating someone 4 years younger than you unless *you* have an issue with dating someone 4 years younger. Age is just a number in a lot of cases, and it's not like either of you are under the legal age for anything (except drinking if you're in the states). If you want to date, then date. If your friends keep giving you a hassle, tell them it's your life, not theirs, and what difference does age make anyway?
If it helps, I know friends that have been together for nearly 4 years, and he's 24 and she's 18. They're still together, and are planning on getting married in the next year or so.
Good luck
2007-10-08 03:44:06 · answer #2 · answered by dragonsmercy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not too much. But there will be things that she won't understand being that there is that 4 year gap. I dated a guy that was 3 years older than me. We dated for about 7 years. We had a lot of problems for a while there. But once I turned 21 it seemed to get a bit better. Screw your friends, sorry, but are they the ones you'll be dating? No, go with your heart. If they were mature and your real friends, they'd support your decisions. It's not like this is immoral or anything.
2007-10-08 03:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by 81 Honda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age difference is not the problem!
That fact that you may be moving onto a graduate school or a job and leaving her a 19 year old cute alone on a college campus is! I hate with other dudes go after some guy's chick, but there's a good chance its gonna happen! Especially if she lives on campus! And as much as everyone depicts "women mature faster" is a loaded horse wagon (lol). A good portion of girls around our age group are full of crap and just want attention from any guy. It sounds harsh, but its true.
2007-10-08 03:44:13 · answer #4 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a normal age span. The problem is her age. Keep dating and don't get serious for at least another year, give her time to "grow up" so to speak. I am 3 years younger than my husband but we were in our 20's and 30's when we met and married. My sister and my brother are 4 years apart from their spouses. No problem. (My 17th anniversary is on the 27th of this month.)
2007-10-08 03:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem with it at all. You are both adults and she is not under 18 so what's the problem. As long as you really like each other and things are going well between you guys then stay. People who are farther apart in age date each other all the time. Nothing wrong as long as both are consenting adults and nobody is doing anything illegal. Good luck and I think your friends and just being that and joking around to bust your balls. My husband and I do that with our friends all the time and they do it right back. It's all just fun and games especially if you know your friends are cool with her too.
2007-10-08 03:43:39 · answer #6 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's not too much of an age difference my husband and I are separated by 4 years. We met when we were 21 and 17, dated at 22 and 18. As long as everyone is legal there's no issue. As for your friends, isn't that what guys do?
2007-10-08 03:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No ... I DO NOT think that there is TOO much of an age
difference.
I DO think (however) that YOU are old enough NOT to care .... or NOT to ALLOW your friends to affect your decisions; or your opinions.
At 23 ... You "should" be adult enough to know .... that friends,
strangers, and EVEN family will not ALWAYS agree with you.
(And that is O.K. because you and a friend or family member can STILL love and care for each other ... even though you DO NOT agree on EVERY SINGLE THING!!!)
Learn to have as much confidence and respect for YOUR OWN opinion ... has you (seem) to have in the opinions of your friends.
There is an opportunity for you to learn and grow here!!! Don't miss it! (Spend more time enjoying your relationship
with your girlfriend!)
2007-10-08 03:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by kjh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? The difference is insignificant. I do understand that the younger you are, the wider the difference can seem (16 & 12 seems inappropriate, doesn't it?) but how much would it matter if you were 86 and she was 82? I do believe that when a man treats his woman respectfully and really seems to like her, everyone around him follows suit. When you stand up for your relationship and set an example of confidence to your friends, they'll stop.
2007-10-08 03:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lovey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
4 years is not that big of deal; but age is not the most relevent part of a person, as long as it is legal. Everyone is different and mature on different levels, at different ages; so accurately stereotyping by age is impossible. In fact, accurately steoreotyiping anyone is not possible. Each individual has their own past experiences, genes, and parents, or the lack thereof, that molds them; that is what is most relevent, their character and how it suits yours.
2007-10-08 03:50:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats nothing!!! age is not a problem in this case if both are in the same level..... dont listen to your friends (well at least not all the times).. do what you fell like doing.... i'm dating a guy who is 4 years younger that me but he is so mature and down to earth that is really good to be with him.... many people told me i shouldnt date him, but i did what my heart told me and so far it has been great...
2007-10-08 03:45:53 · answer #11 · answered by aries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋