My fiance and I just got engaged, and i was wondering if it was ok that we fight/argue alot... our arguments never last that long like maybe an hour and we never go to sleep mad at eachother but i was just wondering if it was normal or not.. i hear that alot of couples argue so i was just wondering!
2007-10-08 03:35:52 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's normal because though you're a developing team, you don't have a common brain...no two people will agree on 100% of things 100% of the time (that's an unreasonable and unhealthy expectation). So use this time before you marry to learn how to fight effectively...that will put you miles ahead of the game once you DO marry, and increase your chances for success. There are many rules like "never go to bed angry", "don't rehash past arguments", "stay on topic and resist the urge to wander into different subjects", "take time to listen to what your partner says instead of planning your response, then mirror back to him what you heard to ensure clarity"....and the biggie, no name calling! There are plenty of other rules, but these are fundamental firsts, and the sooner you learn and incorporate them into your day-to-day demeanor, the smoother your transition will be from two people to one partnership (because ultimately, you will ALWAYS be two people, but you have to function as a unit...that takes WORK!) Arguing is necessary,helpful,and done properly, healthy.Just make sure that your objectives in fighting are always to address issues and change things, never to hurt or punish. Good luck to you both.
2007-10-08 03:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably shouldn't answer this question as someone who has not had a relationship long enough to argue in, but I think it's fine that you argue. I'm not saying you should do it all the time, but it's normal, it's just a louder way of talking. I guess just do not let it take-over the relationship because it's more important that you share what you are feeling/thinking than not talk at all. There are definitely ways you can argue less, if that's what you're getting at.
2007-10-08 10:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they say that arguing in a relationship is healthy because being in a perfect non arguing relationship..well it gets boring .
and the arguments sometimes turns out to make ya'll closer in a way because ..
Make up sex.
was made for a reason lol.
2007-10-08 10:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. Gangsta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perfectlyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy normal!!!
didnt meet a couple that didnt...hehe
if u had no fights then i wud call that abnormal...
just relax do new stuff 2gether...go take salsa classes 2gether =)
have fun w/ eachother n tell him u love him everychance u get... but make sure u feel it at that very moment or it will loose its value =)
hope u have a great life 2gether...
wish 2 follow in ur footsteps soon...hehe
2007-10-08 10:45:51 · answer #4 · answered by pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its TOATALLY normal..
i mean seriously..
what couple doesnt argue and bicker?
its just healthy in a relationship
2007-10-08 10:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋