they say that when you divorce someone with borderline personality disorder, they eventually try to hoover you. get you back in some way. however they say when you divorce a narcissist, they just flat out cut you out of your life like you never existed. i thought my ex had borderline but after her nasty filings in court and her total lack of communication in 5 months and her even buying another house already seems to indicate narcissism. If so, how do you deal effectively with someone who is very narcissistic? what's the best way to handle them through a divorce? i've read a lot about the disorders and she has a whole host of personality disorders going on. it's hard to pinpoint. all i know is that she is not right and very, very ugly on the inside. How should i deal with a narcissist during divorce.
2007-10-08 03:35:05 · 7 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just a suggestion- Stop trying to diagnose her. Your getting a divorce and its time to start living your life.
All the reading and time your putting into it is adding to your frustration. Let it go and let your lawyers handle the logistics of the situation.
2007-10-08 03:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by stayc 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it's still possible that she has borderline personality disorder, because people with BPD view people in terms of black and white and their perceptions of people can sometimes change overnight. One day, a borderline may think that someone is the greatest person in the world, and inexplicably, the next day, he/she may think that person is the scum of the earth. Nothing is halfway with borderlines. Perhaps she has cut you out because she is completely devaluing you.
2007-10-08 03:43:59 · answer #2 · answered by tangerine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
In your situation, the best way to deal with it is to stay away from the person as much as possible. It doesn't matter if it's Borderline or Narcissist Personality Disorder (leave that to his doctors and therapists). The more you distance yourself, the less he can manipulate you.
2007-10-08 04:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by majnun99 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
My exhusband is a classic narcissist. I was no sooner out the door of OUR house when his girlfriend (my brothers wife) was moving in. He was nasty and hateful through the whole divorce. I was blindsided, stunned, shocked, to say the least.
What you have to remember with a narcissistic personality is that they only care about themselves (hence, having an affair with my brothers wife) - which is reflecting in your divorce proceedings as well as mine. Make sure your attorney stays on top of things. And as much as you hurt and as confused as you are as to WHY this person would treat you this way you have to remember it's the nature of the disease/disorder, whatever. You caring about her was a luxery she once had. Do not continue to give her that luxery for you will get NOTHING in return. It's time to stand up and fight!
2007-10-08 03:50:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your question is interesting. I'm new to this group and not knowledgeable about BPD, with many questions of my own. But I can share my own experience .
My ex, though never diagnosed with BPD seemed to have many BPD characteristics. He was also very self centered. Everying was about him. He seemed incapable of recognizing the needs of others. But his own needs must be met, and it didn't matter who he ran over to get them. Maybe narcissism (if I'm thinking of it in proper terms) is a part of BPD. Just a thought.
2007-10-08 06:59:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
psychological ailment runs in families. it may somewhat ensue.It additionally passes from discern to new child. i might ask her to seek for counseling, because it is not for you or I to decide a psychological ailment or affliction. We purely propose people to circulate to the experts and enable them to discern it out. A psychologist can spot those products a mile away and propose a psychiatrist. As for the term, narcissism, i'm undecided approximately this psychological ailment, so i'm enclosing a link. good success on helping your pal, yet do not enable her take you down along with her.
2016-10-06 07:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Narcissistic features are part of the whole Borderline Syndrome. The best way to "deal" with it - don't - that's what you pay a lawyer for.
2007-10-08 03:57:17 · answer #7 · answered by petra 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋